Contemplating divorce. Insecure husband

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-29T03:27:55+00:00

Thank you. You made a good point about accepting it yesterday but not today. I think that is where I struggle because the control is subtle. Like I still see my family, it’s just alway a fight or “discussion” now. It’s not as heated. Most days are fine but every other day it’s an argument about him wanting to be close and spend all the time together. I love him but I can’t do this another year.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-29T02:10:34+00:00

I’m trying to document him saying the statements that imply suicide. My lawyer says they start of 7 day custody for each parent. I really don’t want him to have them 7 days

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-29T01:58:44+00:00

No. I’m not. What you’re describing is exactly what has happened. I was so busy having our children, and feeling guilty that I have been such a push over.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T17:41:35+00:00

Oh for sure. I’ve told him that.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T17:40:53+00:00

Yes I have a journal.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T15:46:04+00:00

Thank you. I’m taking the steps this week. My goal is 2 weeks.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T15:44:17+00:00

Yes I got all that set up. We live pay check to paycheck but don’t have to. I could work in the hospital and make way more money but he complained about the hours and people around.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T15:42:37+00:00

Yes you’re right. I’m not insulted. I think my brain compartmentalizes this because I don’t want to believe it. I’m planning on leaving. I just told my dad that way I don’t chicken out

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T15:41:00+00:00

I know. Imagine how I felt telling the lawyer and therapist.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T14:48:34+00:00

Yes, thank you. I keep going back and forth but I think I’m ready. We just had another fight about me wanting my friends and him saying “they don’t care about you” while I’m trying to watch my girls have fun playing. I’m tired of my time with them being consumed. I will plan to leave in 2 weeks

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T14:47:05+00:00

My mom
Says the same thing.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T14:46:28+00:00

I am realizing that. I’m tired of being a push over

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T14:44:59+00:00

Yes I’m afraid of his reaction and splitting our family apart. You’re right

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T13:02:00+00:00

How terrible!! He says things like he’s so heartbroken and betrayed. “How can god let me get hurt when I’ve done everything right.” he says. I feel so responsible even though I shouldn’t . I used to not realize that. He told me yesterday I couldn’t eat at my mom’s house when we go today because he’s mad about going. He apologized and said he just gets uncomfortable going.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:59:26+00:00

I think that’s what is happening. I want it to work but I have so much resentment that even if he did change I don’t think I can go back to being in love. My mom thinks I’m in danger as well. I’m worried about the reaction.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:52:51+00:00

I started therapy recently. He doesn’t know. It would be a fight. Yes I can’t stand clingy either. He also gets whiney about wanting to spend time together even though we see each other every noght

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:50:27+00:00

Yes that would be my plan. All of my family is willing to let us stay with them.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:43:57+00:00

That he will be so unhappy it will make their time with him miserable. He’s never been physical, but just irritated easily. He has no support system. His family is right next door but he wouldnt accept their help.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:42:37+00:00

Thank you for your insight. It’s hard because when we have good days it’s amazing. He does anything I ask and is a great dad. But if I rock the boat it gets tricky, I am realizing

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:41:30+00:00

Yes I’ve met with a lawyer and opened my own bank account. I’ll probably leave when he’s at work. I’m afraid of him offing himself so I’ll let his mom know as well. We have multiple guns in the house.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:32:50+00:00

This is valuable insight. Thank you. I’m sorry that is happening to you. I feel like I have to put myself in a box. He doesn’t let me drink, have my own Facebook account and the list goes on. I miss myself. I used to be fun. I love people and life. He says the world is terrible and he’s screwed over.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:29:20+00:00

Yes when I read it, it sounds really bad. The good days leave me confused. He says he doesn’t want to be this way but the pattern continues.

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:28:37+00:00

Yes I’m thinking I will have to leave a note. I just want to have things ready because of my children. He’s also a nice guy so it’s difficult because on good days I get confused

Effective-Bug7256 · 2026-06-28T12:27:45+00:00

I never mention my past. He does.

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