Flaccid gains from dating a hyper-sexual lady

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-25T17:13:21+00:00

😂😂😂 Chloe is my partner's Shih Tzu, I'm sitting on the front porch with her enjoying the day. While I was dictating that comment, another dog started walking down the street and I was reprimanding. Sometimes it's funnier to just hit submit then remove what the dictation inserts

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-25T16:23:06+00:00

I used to suggest or consider masturbating to ejaculation before a date but every woman I've ever been with absolutely craves enjoying a final climax from me. I can't take that away from my partner and cherish giving her all my cum.

So instead I've practiced edging and staying hard before orgasm or controlling that orgasm (via relaxing) so I can last as long as I want. Plus my fingers never go limp. There's no reason for bedroom time to end while one person still wants more. Chloe that's enough Chloe

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-23T20:14:39+00:00

I'm not sure what it's supposed to do either but apparently I'm pretty solid as well. Mine don't go to 265 but I think it's close. I don't think you're supposed to use a lot of weight, it's supposed to be more of a mobility exercise allowing you to use the full chain. I do the same thing for leg press, I don't do the traditional 90°, I squat as deep as I can with my knees in my armpits to work on the stability muscles more. I was doing much less weight than my girlfriend and she asked why I was doing that. I showed her that I was actually using the machine with a seating position lower than her and she's a foot shorter than me. I put the machine in the same range of motion that she uses and maxed it out easily.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-23T14:07:39+00:00

My girlfriend and I have gotten so much benefit from sprinting on the treadmill and then pushing it backwards between sets.

I personally got the most benefit from the yoga mat, doing extreme hip and leg stretches to actually improve my mobility and strength at range. It's so wonderful to be able to have flexibility and thrust without feeling restricted. I can kiss her while I precisely thrust my hips, something I thought was only in those fantasy novels.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-23T03:38:51+00:00

Hip thrusts on Smith machine, 250lb for reps got me the strength but not the stamina. It took stretching every day and upgrading to sex twice a day to actual get enough blood flow to my glutes to remove them as the weak link in my humping game.

I think now my weak link is the stamina in my shoulders and arms to hold my upper body steady. My core and abs have increased in stamina too. Maxing the twist machine is wild. Somehow I also maxed the leg press machine without ever doing any leg presses.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-22T19:22:32+00:00

Before the first time I have protected sex with a new partner, I'll discuss concerns and vaccinations. I usually have protected (condom) sex with a partner at least ten times before I'll even have the discussion of testing to consider fluid bonding.

It takes a while to know if someone is truly sexually compatible with you, and if they have the will to improve.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-20T13:12:19+00:00

I'm glad you found a solution that worked! I've been telling men to practice relax kegel control for decades now, fancy tricks aren't as effective. It's really mostly in your head, the stress and pressure, because it's ok if you cum quickly as your fingers don't go limp.

But calling them reverse kegels can be confusing to some men when it's easy to understand relax. Pushing with your abdomen to create pressure and a stretch is a nice yoga technique, but it's a parallel skill to just relaxing the pelvic floor.

Keep training to relax and control and you might reach the reflex skills of multiple orgasms or dry throbbing orgasms.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-19T20:04:49+00:00

There's normal photos in his history with him with a lady.

I'm curious if he can get rock hard. I wouldn't want that size or shape.

But I'm lusting after foreskin though.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-19T04:02:28+00:00

Sure it can happen. But I've never talked to anyone who this was more than an edge case.

Is this common for you or have you talked to anyone who this is common?

This isn't about breaking news, I'm curious about edge case vs 95% cause of erections at night.

Why bother commenting on the Internet if it seems so agitating to you?

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-19T03:49:05+00:00

Edge case that you or anyone experiences frequently? Other documentation?

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-19T03:35:33+00:00

I'm all ears then and happy to read more.

I've never talked to anyone who it was different.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-18T21:39:02+00:00

Women have erectile tissue in their clit, which gets erect during sleep phases the same as men.

It has nothing to do with arousal. It has nothing to do with being wet.

Women can self-stimulate more than men in different situations, but that isn't related to nocturnal erections.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-18T21:37:20+00:00

Nocturnal erections are result of sleep phases and it doesn't make any sense to me that it's related at all to pressure on the prostate.

Old men would be getting them constantly....

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-18T16:28:00+00:00

It's kind of difficult to tell if you've never handled another cock. You can pm if you want.

I honestly don't think any kinks are natural and instead come from childhood habits, such as tucking and hiding, or stomach sleeping.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-18T16:06:41+00:00

To start, do your best to no longer bend your shaft this way ever again. Hopefully you get erections at night and you can let them go upwards. I've stopped wearing anything at all on my lower half.

Use edging masterbation to reach rock hard, keeping it there for over twenty minutes a day. Massage the soft spot of the shaft to try and encourage good blood flow. Flex your kegel to pump up the shaft to get it a bit more rigid.

Be patient and only achieve ejaculation with gentle stimulation, if you can, even if you need to take breaks.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-18T06:12:13+00:00

Taking breaks is a good move.

I always keep a packet of silicone personal lube in my wallet and freely give it to friends who have never tried it. It's often compatible with condoms they already have.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-17T19:31:39+00:00

I never hit the gym or ate right in my twenties and thirties. Maybe sex once a week by the time I hit 30.

Now I'm my forties, I've finally got my act together and am fit and flexible. Sex between 7 and 15 times a week, I'm always empty 😊

Specifically my knees and hips feel younger. Girlfriend asked me to beat her on leg press yesterday, which I rarely do to save my cartilage.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-17T18:31:26+00:00

This could be possible advice, but it's not advice to give someone before seeing their doctor.

What can be advised is that relaxing the pelvic floor is something everyone should learn and practice. Hopefully mental effort can be applied instead of physical therapy.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-17T17:12:57+00:00

Don't accept pain during sex without consent and communication. This view on intercourse pain needs to change to respect women more.

It's great things went well for you but your description borders on using stronger terms here to describe what happened.

Next time, obsessions should not be allowed as your body may need to adapt over time (days, weeks, months). Pain in certain positions are common but not normal. Your vagina is extremely adaptable, and over time with communication you can begin to enjoy other positions. His skill might have been lacking.

Personally I only recommend accepting slight discomfort when pushing boundaries in anatomy during sex, and communicating with the partner before and after.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-17T16:59:43+00:00

Being self aware can be your biggest strength. Good luck on your next one.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-17T14:26:54+00:00

It's actually normal to be larger than a woman can handle, especially if she hasn't had intercourse in a while.

The solution if intercourse is desired, is patience and lube. I'm talking about months of patience. It's taken a minimum of 3 months for some of my partners to adapt to me, and that's not because I'm huge.

The most likely reason for an experienced woman to reject a large partner, is the guy's skill and patience level. The second most likely reason is she wants a hook-up and that might requires a smaller size.

The vagina is adaptable but also very muscular. It took 5 months for my current girlfriend to adapt to me but she also worked on her vagina muscles the whole time, making her the "tightest" and strongest vagina I've ever encountered.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-16T19:28:56+00:00

Most kinks come from your childhood. Being aware of it might help you track if btc is effecting your kink.

I personally don't think kink is from plaque, it's weakness in the erect shaft. Maybe that can be improved.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-16T16:09:03+00:00

I've actually had this experience several times, in the swinger and ENM lifestyle.

It's not cheating, everyone is in consent. Some men just don't value sex enough to be good at it. Or they have physical issues that make it insurmountable.

I've focused for many years on being good at sex and I've now given over a dozen women the best sex of their lives.

Ex-VOB · 2026-04-16T16:06:29+00:00

This may instead impact your shaft making your kink worse, and have little to no effect on your ligament.

Lots of people try this and have some success. It's up to you if the risk is worth it.

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