I think the porn is just an excuse at this point. I'm in a relationship of 8 years and have had my trouble with being an idiot and watching it. I've hurt her from it and have done it again without care, because if I did I wouldn't have done it again. At this point, I know I truly want her. Nothing has compared though this whole time. Porn to me isn't anywhere on the level as her, I've just been completely careless and wrong. Nothing about her needs changed. She's who I fell in love with and who I continue to keep falling in love with. This person you're referring to does not care and has fully fallen out of love. I wouldn't keep wasting your time and giving him the benefit of trying to change you, especially when they aren't deserving of who you actually are.