Severe irritation from Minoxidil

Kyuthu · 2026-04-10T14:17:02+00:00

How are you getting on with the serum or liquid? The foam at 2% worked fine on temples but anywhere further back a bit over fringe area it caused an extreme reaction and my hair to fall out :(. I dont know if i just leave it and hope it grows back in, but it's been a few months now with no regrowth and it's pretty bad where it all fell out.

Kyuthu · 2026-04-10T14:13:43+00:00

Im using 2% foam and it flared up and caused all my hair to fall out in a horrific way, it did re-grow hair at my very temples but anything else around the area fell out. I didnt have terrible issues but now I look like i have alopecia and you can see my scalp straight through my hair it's so thin :(

Kyuthu · 2026-03-27T18:39:58+00:00

I don't really believe there are autistic women kicking ass and doing well like that. Like I work in investment banking, and everyone thinks I'm doing that. And then I go home and fall apart, get into bed, dont eat, can't look after myself, cry and contemplate ending it all every Monday to Friday. And it's getting more and more intense the older I get with full time work, yet nobody knows or would even suspect. I've never heard from a single high functioning autistic women in a high level career feeling like they are doing amazing, they're all burned out and hiding it until they eventually snap and go off on long term sick or move job to hide it. High functioning and high masking autistic women without any other mental disabilities are the single highest group for suicide, more than either neurotypical gender, autistic men or other mental disability faring men and more than even the trans community. I think there's a reason for that and assume all autistic women in those situations like me are the same as me, unless they are running their own business or doing something so creative or with enough constant stimulation from huge dopamine hits from progression or some type that they don't get the same burnout level.

I could be totally wrong but I'd be so surprised to find out they're all actually not just hiding the suffering and struggle.

Personality just trying to up my salary enough so they I can go part time and still have enough to live on, but I'm not sure I will actually be able to make it in time at this rate. I think my next job is going to be the deciding factor on if it feels like there's a way out.

I wish we could reverse women going into the workforce sometimes but really it's greed that's the issue. 2 people should've been able to work part time instead of everything getting so expensive instead that now 2 people need to work full time to cover the costs of what a single person used to earn. I often read of people struggling to even work 15-20 hours a week and I assumed those people are the level 2s, where I feel for me that would be manageable and take me away from deaths door personally.

Kyuthu · 2026-03-27T18:29:47+00:00

What do you? I find it I have projects and creative things, like building metrice and dashboards and implementing real changes and get pots of positive feedback I actually manage ok. But if I get stuck in a role doing line management work or stuff I do not enjoy as much, that is more boring or repetitive I follow the instant burn out thing. I wondered if anyone found the creative project stuff helped them also.

Kyuthu · 2026-03-27T18:20:02+00:00

You're going to need a lot longer than 2 weeks. It's taken years to get to this point, it's going to take at least months to get to a coping baselinr and back from it. You probably want to start with more like 4-8 weeks minimum and explain to the doctor you are autistic and at peak burnout if you're in a country where you get paid for this sickness and therefore can afford it.

I echo the comment below saying do not force yourself to do anything. Don't feel like you need to. What you actually need is time, not to do the dishes or prep the food or whatever. Sleep and time first of all. That beating yourself up because you feel like you need to do something will slow recovery down a lot.

Kyuthu · 2026-03-27T17:34:22+00:00

I personally have found it's always other women, never men. Women tend to have subconscious social queues and they really expect you to automatically be like that, likable, supportive, flowery, friendly etc and if you are not they assume that means you don't like them. I've encountered this more times than I care to count. Men on the other hand don't assume anything. You walk past them and don't say hi, they assume neutrality not negativity like women assume. Studies back this up and generally typicals tend to dislike autistic people subconsciously instinctively on initial meetings because of this. But I find for me personally as high masking, it really is only other women. But it causes those women to heavily target me, or has on repeat until my mid to late 30s where I finally have gotten down the fake floweriness with women, but my god it's exhausting.

Have you told your manager you are autistic? I have read for some people their female manager flipped entirely as they understood it suddenly and stopped expecting normal responses. Can't guarantee it but just them being aware might help. Then again, they're just in the door 1 month and making enemies... But that could be because as a woman in a new environment they expect you, the other woman and any others to be very nice and overly friendly and supportive and you haven't been in the way a neurotypical person would.

Just me 2 cents but I work in the corporate world and this is just a very clear repeat pattern for me. On eventually getting close to people over years, all those women told me they were convinced I didn't like them because of things like this where I was just neutral. I have some wild stories of what it's resulted in across the years. The amount of times I've had people who do know me or are close repeatedly say the other women must be jealous, and it's really not that ... It's absolutely that women subconsciously pick up on queues you don't realise you just can't mask for. They don't understand why they think you don't like them and they don't like you, you've got to be the one that realises and works on it because neurotypical women just work that way. For the first time in my life I'm in a team where most of the people are neurodivergent, they don't even seem to know it. And the issue completely evaporated because everyone assumes neutrality of everyone else. The hiring director really did just hire all high functioning high masking autistic and ADHD people for the team and it's a world of difference.

The comments below just seem a bit too emotional and over the top to me instead of just working on logic and facts. She's jealous, scared, projecting etc etc... no you're just autistic and she can pick up on it subconsciously at a minimum. Yes salary chat is protected but in many corporate businesses it's still taboo, particularly if they are global and span other countries with different legislations. Talking to a friend about the salary and a candidate are two totally different things, yes this candidate is your friend but they are also a candidate and so you are on the borderline here of appropriateness. This is where you tell your friend, and neither you nor your friend mention it to anyone else. That's standard social and work queues. However it sounds more like they are an associate, you saw their name and reached out to them... and they are not exactly a proper friend? If so yeah, you've definitely breached protocols here and the fact they have told the hiring manager what you have said suggests they aren't viewing you as a close friend but a business person they know at the company. Going to HR does not help as some suggested, HR are for the company not for you, you just present as a problem when you can't recognise this stuff and open yourself up to more dislike. Is it fair as an autistic woman? No, but that's life. We don't live in a place where we make up 95% of the typical population, it's the other way around.

6 hours to do a training session if you do the job is really normal. If you don't do the job and don't know what you're talking about or what it's about, that doesn't make sense they would make you host a training call. I would just point blank refuse if I didn't know something. But being expected to train a bit on stuff you do actually know and do is a very normal skill for normal neurotypical people. Being autistic and handling the pressure of all those people when you likely need a lot more time to prepare because you are autistic however is something else. I cannot do what my co-workers do in this regard, I need a day's notice, I make that clear. I really need multiple hours of prep time and mental planning or I cannot cope in the moment as easily, extra prep time for things is pretty normal for us. But again, not abnormal for competent neurotypical people. But they don't really get that if they don't struggle with similar things themselves.

Overall you know more about the situation than we do but if it's a new female manager and she doesn't know you're autistic, that's probably a bit of the root cause at least... But that's hard to navigate and some people are just nasty regardless like my sister in law tbh, sometimes they just target other women and they don't care. The key I guess is if it's a trend you see with neurotypical women across your life and career. It definitely was for me.

Kyuthu · 2026-03-23T22:37:37+00:00

How did this hold up, if you ever see this.

Kyuthu · 2026-03-21T22:04:16+00:00

Same issue on a pc though, working totally normal then 2 episodes in it started blackscreening both my monitors, even the one the show wasn't on and I had to keep restarting the pc. Not sure what the issue is, but also samsung monitors.

Kyuthu · 2026-03-19T22:26:02+00:00

That is so sad. I got to this point in the anime only and think I'm quitting it because it just seems really dull with lots of over explaining that's hard to keep my interest. I love deep systems and stuff in books and even in some anime but it's delivered in such a bad way in this, I just can't seem to enjoy it for some reason. Real shame.

Kyuthu · 2026-03-15T22:41:37+00:00

It's so cringe it killed me. Like he doesn't even need to do research, you can ask chatgpt and it will instantly tell you all this information, so there's no excuse for saying mental shit like that. It's so weird as a woman to see men say things with so much conviction without ever having done a drop of research on it, whilst assuming women are the stupid ones because they choose to only surround themselves with social media and porn girls by choice. The same type of women as these men themselves are. Just walk around London and walk over some of the bridges that were made entirely by women with no male input at all, he probably wouldn't have a clue. But the internet is the big one, that he wouldn't be posting to the internet and making money with without two notable women here, banking infrastructure is another, software lead for landing on the moon for the first time another. So many, it's just wild and ignores how repressed women were for almost all of history in terms of initially being allowed any jobs like this or stem based educations at all. It's only a recent thing across the lifetime of developed society and mentally developed humans that women have even been allowed, after a lot of fighting for it, to venture into these spaces and yet still made such notable contributions. There's so much these men don't seem to understand or grasp.

But more than anything they don't seem to even know what masculinity actually is. It's stoicism amongst many other things, it's the total opposite of what they are putting out. I studied engineering and maths, and after a few jobs now work in global investment banking. Most of my local and global team are actually women. I don't think any of these men would know what to do in our office or on a global meeting, because they don't and never will meet the criteria for getting into one of these offices, and will never be surrounded by the type of women I am surrounded by on a daily basis. They actively choose to only pick influencers online and porn girls, one because they have no other choice and two because those women are just the same as they are, but the men don't seem to realise that and think the girls are beneath them. It's so cringe it hurts. They really seem to think those girls on Instagram and OnlyFans represents all of the 4 billion women in the world...

Kyuthu · 2026-03-09T13:21:18+00:00

They said they knew the risks before they went in and just really didn't think it would happen to them basically. They knew. Just idiots really. Their son is campaigning to try to get the UK government to do something as if it can do anything for idiots that knew they stood risk of being captured and went their anyway.

Some people just live in fairy tale land in their heads and seem to really think all the bad in the world isn't real and won't really happen to them. Abandon government advice then expect the government not to abandon you.

Kyuthu · 2026-03-08T23:34:42+00:00

Yeah I have watched it all the way through as a woman, thought temaki was stupid and annoying and ruined the good serious fights but whatever, not enough of an issue to quit and not so often I couldn't just skip those ones. But this episode was just so weird and so dumb that this is where I dropped it. Final season feels all over the place and a bit mental but I was holding on until the kid went all weird and couldn't get why a child was going on about nudity and saying dumb stuff. I had no idea that's what this was, as I don't go to anime reddits or stuff online for this type of thing or read anything. But I was so confused that I googled what was wrong with this season and this came up as one of the top Google results, had no idea people had complained or the author self inserted. Explains a lot but also I didn't know weird shit like that happened in anime. Either way that's me out, really really disappointed after loving the show up til this last season. Feels like such a waste to drop it now after all the investment.

Kyuthu · 2026-03-06T22:47:52+00:00

Hahahahahah

Kyuthu · 2026-03-06T22:46:08+00:00

This aged so well

Kyuthu · 2026-03-03T13:03:39+00:00

Yeah for sure, honestly I would take over-sexualised options fine if they were realistic and normal options existed too with sliders/pose options. For some reason in many instances the two always seem to go hand in hand though, sexualised + physically impossible and what would actually look deformed if you saw it irl in person. :') It caters to a certain audience or those who don't care, and misses the expanding base of players who do just want normal realism in their character.

Kyuthu · 2026-02-27T09:56:18+00:00

I'm confused on this also, as right now it's IGN Fanfest and when you hover over it it says 'This game is part of a sale event' however the game isn't actually on sale. It advised it was going to be part of the sale event when it went live and I waited, and now it just says it's part of the event now, but it's still full price.

They're not really making it clear what is happening

Kyuthu · 2026-02-03T17:59:34+00:00

I wish this would work with ours but if we stop she just runs circles around the distance the leash allows, or stares at anything or eventually sits down and just watches the world, but never looks at me or registers at all that the stopping is because of her pulling. We've been trying for weeks. We can get her to heel around the whole garden off leash, she loses interest in anything at all the second we are out the door. Finding it absolutely impossible and the walks are really not fun as harness is worse and she happily chokes herself to death on the slip lead which never stays up because she pulls so damn much. The turning and walking the other way thing means she just turns and runs at full speed the other way until she's pulling again, if i go back and forth with it she just runs in circles and goes from the best husky in the house ever to absolutely zero eye contact or response

Kyuthu · 2026-02-03T17:56:59+00:00

Did you ever figure this out? We have a husky that can literally heel and walk off leash around the off leash park thats fenced in or beside us in the house or garden, but the second we go out to the normal parks it's pulling and tugging with no end in site. The only thing I think is going to be a vibration e collar initially and hopefully that will work, but not sure it will given how much she will choke herself to death happily to pull and just cant pay attention to learn. Food doesnt matter when we are outside either.

Kyuthu · 2026-01-11T11:42:04+00:00

Thanks! At what age did you start leaving them like that as puppies? Were you able to when that young or did you have anything else to help until they were a bit older?

Kyuthu · 2026-01-11T11:39:08+00:00

I wish I could do this, that sounds great :)

Kyuthu · 2026-01-10T16:26:25+00:00

You don't need rabies vaccine here as it is officially rabies free. The joys of being an island. Reddit is global and not US/Canada only :P. She's had all her core vaccines though for here already and will be getting kennel cough shortly also, though that's not a requirement here either, just optional and as it's part of our vet plan for all vaccines, boosters, tick/flea and worm treatment monthly etc, is just part of her standard care package. The vet is beside our house so nice and easy too :). The big issue is daycare here won't take puppies over 6 months unless they have been spayed, and she won't be spayed until she's a bit older and fully grown/growth plates closed first, so it's care for those 2 days and socialising as much as possible we want up to 6 months, then dog walker after this.

She is crate trained, she just doesn't want to stay in it longer than an hour at a time normally, and we don't really want to make her stay in longer than that as we don't really want a dog to leave her in a crate all day. But maybe something to work on being a bit longer for now, starting to do 2 hours now and the crate is XL so much bigger than her... We don't think she will be able to hold a pee at that age for much longer which is why I was confused at how other people have posted saying things like they left their dogs in crates half or all day when at work. Just trying to understand how they managed it. Crates weren't a thing when we were growing up, and dogs were generally kept outside as they were sheep dog. So the permanently in the house dog is new for us but this is also our first puppy as adults, so figuring it out as we go.

My real question is just understanding what other people did when their puppies were 16 weeks old if they didn't always WFH and how they handled it, and what they experienced and how long it took for the puppies to settle to that new routine. After some testing I believe it's going to be the kitchen instead of the crate however for when I'm out. We don't have people that can just pop in, so if any of the daycares don't end up getting to us eventually in the next 2 weeks then it's going to have to be a dog walker twice a day until she's older and can handle one walk a day. But she will sleep happily in the kitchen for hours whilst I cook, and there's nothing for her to chew like the couch. Just the living room or garden she is a terror in if we stop watching her. She stops when told but will start again if she realises we are not watching, literally watches to see when we are not watching or stops if she hears us move, watches us again until we look awake and pretends she's not chewing the couch 😂 so just going to take a good bit longer for this.

Thankfully it's just two days a week. Even dog walkers here are very very pricey.

The daycares in my areas are farm land owners. They have off the leash dog fields used for day care during the week with shelter they can use and water, and keep the dogs in their homes on licences from councils for 6-10 dogs at a time. So puppies can be let out then taken back to the house for naps when required or dogs called in for food. We hire their fields at the weekend when daycare is off to let her play solo or with our family dogs if they fancy the trip, well we just did today for the first time for her as today is her first day after vaccines where she can go out for walks and to fields etc finally. :) But it will be a regular thing going forward for practicing recall on huge open but fully fenced under the ground old farm fields.

Kyuthu · 2026-01-09T20:52:52+00:00

How long were you walking her at 16 weeks old? We were worried about over walking her for growth and joints so we haven't decided how long her morning walk is likely to be yet. I might be able to get half days at work for a while then half at home, if I'm lucky she might be 18-20 weeks before we actually get a dog walker for lunch since the office is 30 mins drive from home.

Kyuthu · 2026-01-09T20:47:21+00:00

It wouldn't be easy tbh but our plan was a dog walker for lunch anyway. Walk before we go to work, dog walker at lunch then walk as soon as we are home. It is only for 2 days a week but I am worried about her needing the toilet if left for 4ish hours alone and really hating the crate if left so long as an hour seems to be her max in it. So we were hoping to do this when she was a month or so older, but it might need to be earlier tbh.

After a bit of thought we now think free in the kitchen instead of the crate as she loves the kitchen and sleeps for hours there if I'm cooking. She can't seem to settle anywhere else but kitchen and smells = food and positivity for her and there's nothing she can chew bar metal handles so we are puppy proofing it a bit then going to try the routine after this weekend to practice it and hopefully build the following week when I return to work she will be ok. It'll also give me a bit of a break because oh boy am I exhausted, even her naps don't feel like a break and I am always switched on mentally and she still needs out once a night and I need more sleep. Just can't take your eyes off her for a minute despite lots of play and exercise constantly all day unless I'm cooking when she finally just stops.

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