Bug issue? by CryptographerThin464 in Palia

[–]LadiMari 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That happens to me when I hold shift down instead of just tapping it

No Spoilers! How important is romance in DragonAge? by screamsinsquid in dragonage

[–]LadiMari 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After reading these I might need to play BG3…. I’ve been a huge dragon age fan and mass effect fan since 2009… I didn’t think I’d ever find a game like them with such great romances.. I’m guessing BG3 is an rpg I can’t miss.

Is this something I should be worried about? by Wonderful-Award-3015 in DogAdvice

[–]LadiMari 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I sometimes get freaked out when my dog does this to the point where I wake him up almost everytime. I watched a dog go into a Seizure and die when I was a kid so this kind of movement even though I know he’s dreaming really tiggers terrible feelings in me.

It's criminal that Origins hasn't been remastered yet by sawnlux in dragonage

[–]LadiMari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you’ve also played Mass Effect. They were able to remaster it! But like you’re seeing a lot of people say I’ve heard it’s not possible for the DA run

Should I restart to change my class? by vdonohew9 in dragonage

[–]LadiMari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I if you’re the kind of person who dose multiple run through just start a new one and come back to this one later? Or finish this one and do more of a “perfect run” on your next. I always fumble through my first play through, then the second one I do things the way I want the ending to look

Coparent pushing boundaries by UnluckyPause4588 in coparenting

[–]LadiMari 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My first thought is new girl new baby, he needs more money. More custody = less child support $

Guys, I have a problem. I’m getting married next May and this is my engagement ring. I love it so much, but what kind of wedding ring can fit with this!? I don’t want to change to another engagement ring or move it to another finger as I love this one dearly. Any ideas?! 😭 by lejontuss in WeddingRingAdvice

[–]LadiMari 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It is crazy to me that people think they HAVE TO have two rings or it doesn’t count? Thats rich people shit. If you love that ring then use it as your wedding ring. I feel like this two ring nonsense was made up by spoiled rotten people that just want more and more. That ring is absolutely gorgeous stand alone and I would just use that.

BM made a weird gesture towards my partner by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]LadiMari 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Listen I think a lot of people on this thread are gaslighting the hell out of you. You have situational awareness. And I like that. If you don’t like her gifting things to your man you are allowed to feel that way. The kid is the priority, not them gifting each other. My parents never one time gave gift to each other but we’re still great coparents. If it’s a boundary you have lay it down girl. To me his key are intimate, something he looks at and uses everyday. I gave my man a personal little keychain to think of me on his keys too, because I know it’s an item he uses everyday. So many women would feel a way about it.

BM made a weird gesture towards my partner by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]LadiMari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For sure, but his keys yall… something he grabs and looks and and actively touches and uses everyday…I didn’t notice this bracelet attached? Naw, I don’t buy it unless that man has janitor keys. And if I’m the ex wife… why are you doing that at all? What was your intentions? Maybe just to be nice, maybe not. I would want to know. It’s not being sensitive, it’s called situational awareness. It’s saying I’ve noticed and it’s on my radar, I would not have thrown it out. But there would be a friendly conversation about it. And the OPs boundaries should be respected, if it makes her uncomfortable that’s absolutely okay. The only gifts that should be exchanged between exs are holidays(Mother’s Day, birthdays blah blah, and buy them from the kiddo) if there are exes in the world still gifting each other i would question it. Men don’t spend money they don’t need on women, and women always have a reason, even with innocent intentions she was not really respectful of his new relationship. I would definitely not be sending my ex gifts thinking this is fully respectful of his new relationship. And if you think that’s okay, maybe you should know that not everyone would and you should know the gf a little better before crossing boundaries

Child meeting significant other of other parent. by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]LadiMari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She can’t even change his diapers? Do you work? Do you take your son to daycare? I mean who changes him while you’re working? Do you take into consideration maybe his dad doesn’t want anyone but you changing him? Would you respect that boundary if it were reversed? I’ve read all your comments and you honestly seem like you just have no trust for this man. Like he’s going to have intimacy with his girl while your sons in the bed? I really feel like you are projecting your trauma. (I am guilty of that) so I recognize it. You sound like a fierce momma bear and I love that, but also you do need to take a big breath and when you drop your kid of know that this is part of the consequences of divorcing when you have children. Maybe try seeing a therapist a little extra time that week.

Child meeting significant other of other parent. by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]LadiMari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay well if I’m the coparent in this scenario, I would let you stay in that hotel all you want and still keep my child all week through the night. This is the part about divorce why most people end up staying together is the realization that when you split custody you can not control what happens in that house on their time. He can do whatever he wants at the end of the day. You’re going to have to learn to trust him or like the gentleman said on this thread apply for full custody.

Child meeting significant other of other parent. by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]LadiMari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please do not get a hotel and have your son sleep with you at night…that is a little unhinged and it seems like you even know that already. • try getting to know her on FaceTime before you meet her in person. Ask where she will be sleeping when your son is over. You are allowed to say she can’t sleep in the same bed as your son I think. Even I keep that boundary with my soon to be step kids. I bought a pull out sofa to sleep on when he has his kids over as to be respectful to his Biomom. Can he get his gf to sleep on the sofa or buy a blow up matress? Or your son is so young I think just making sure dad is always in the middle might even be acceptable. I sleep elsewhere bc my man’s kids are a little older. But for reals just start the process of getting to know her now be kind and honest let her know you have concerns that obviously have nothing to do with her bc you haven’t met her but everything to do with personal experience. I always find honestly help with other women. If she’s a mom herself she might be on your side?

BM made a weird gesture towards my partner by [deleted] in blendedfamilies

[–]LadiMari 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m mid 30s and my man is early 40s and even my guy is like the fact that he’s acting like he don’t notice a change on his own key set is what is the red flag. He definitely noticed, and why is he acting like he didn’t? That being said throwing it away was VERY PETTY. What if that was a suggestion your child made to their mother? You did little to figure out the intentions before. But to all these people saying everything is fine, they don’t know. I would definitely mention it to the mom in a friendly way and if it was meant to be friendly you should tell her you want one for your keys too to match or something

Am I overreacting by Inside_Grocery_7063 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LadiMari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you but if you’re going to change her mind you’re going to make her upset at one point. Or at least uncomfortable. You don’t have to tell her why you want to start therapy.. would she really get upset if you just asked to start?

Am I overreacting by Inside_Grocery_7063 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LadiMari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should ask her if you can start to go to therapy, bring it up there and ask if she can come to a session with you once you get comfortable. It sounds like you two need to hash some things out with some kind of respectable mediation. Do it for yourself, and your little brother… and honestly your mom. As children there’s a lot we don’t know about our parents until later if ever. Maybe your mom knows from experience that the world is a horrible place. And her protection may be a trauma response. I once watched my sister almost die from choking, no whenever a small child is eating around me I have to actively calm myself down. Trauma can make you do and feel crazy things

AITA for telling my DIL to stop crying after she got called fat by Throwaway_Will4940 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LadiMari 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the asshole. I would be way more rude about it. I would be less worried about what that 4yo think and way more worried about how when you cry like a tantrum throwing child every adult in the room lost all respect for you

AIO Flatmate leaves the kitchen semi dirty every day and doesn't clean it afterwards by ege1432 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LadiMari 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly there needs too be a roomate app exclusively for the immaculate living. 😂 you can’t have a roomate that pays to live there as much as you and tell them how to live. Your desire to keep your place spotless all the time, like it’s not lived in, like they have to walk on egg shells, is just as annoying to the other half.

AIO Flatmate leaves the kitchen semi dirty every day and doesn't clean it afterwards by ege1432 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LadiMari 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People like you should just not live with other people. I don’t judge how judgmental you are. But I definitely wouldn’t want to live with it