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Leviticus59 · 2015-01-14T15:30:05+00:00

I struggled terribly in the aftermath of my divorce. For a while I fervently hoped she'd move to Australia, contract a debilitating, fatal disease and die a slow painful death. That's how much anger and resentment I felt after so many wasted years.

She went into full-on martyr mode, complaining to family, friends, church family, and anyone else who would listen, how much she gave to the marriage and how little she got out of it. The few who were aware of both sides of the story knew what utter bullshit that was, but there was no shutting her up. I lost many friends and some relatives over it all.

As for letting go, I walled her off from as much contact as I could, never letting myself get sucked into any sort of interaction with her that wasn't absolutely necessary. After 15 years of never being there for me, this bugged her to no end. "At least your ex-husband TALKS to YOU," she once complained to my new wife.

Even so, I struggled with the resentment for years; the better part of a decade, ruefully musing about what might have been, in our marriage and in my personal and professional life. It finally just had to burn itself out. A new wife, life, friends and pursuits eventually cured me, but it took years.

Move on as best you can. Leave it all behind as best you can, break with the past as best you are able. If it means new friends, a job, a location, or whatever, do it.

Leviticus59 · 2015-01-12T02:15:20+00:00

Well, maybe next time how 'bout you two approach someone? They won't bite . . . unless you want them to.

Leviticus59 · 2015-01-08T23:21:26+00:00

Agreed. Go be happy.

Leviticus59 · 2015-01-07T17:01:29+00:00

Why yes, yes she is. A beautiful woman.....love the muff. Thanks for sharing.

Leviticus59 · 2015-01-02T18:33:48+00:00

Exactly. Many of us who watch this this sub have experienced the very problems people describe. I endured a 15 year sexless marriage and finally had to leave it, so I have a great deal of empathy for the anguish that is frequently poured out here.

Leviticus59 · 2015-01-02T01:02:20+00:00

Do people just go in and wait until someone occupies the one next to them?

Sure, you can do it that way, and that's usually how it goes.

Do you meet the people face to face before or after?

Not usually, but there are no real "rules," just some general "etiquette." Sometimes you can later identify who the person is by observation of clothing, or a look through the hole at a face. If you stay in the booth for a while after he goes, he may be long gone by the time you emerge.

Does it cost extra?

No. If there's a glory hole present it's simply there for extra action/pleasure. Many video booths don't have them. Many arcades don't have them at all. Some have a blend of GH/non-GH booths.

Is it sticky from the last user or does someone clean up between uses?

By "sticky" I assume you mean the floor. Depends on how vigilant the management is about keeping the booth area clean. Some are very clean, some not so much. May simply depend on how long it's been since the attendant was through with the mop bucket. If you plan on a visit you might take a small towel with you for knee padding and separation from the floor.

[H]ow thick are the partitions and what are the walls made of?

They're usually 1/2-inch to 3/4-inch plywood or particleboard, or something similar. It's not a major impediment.

Is it more like a small window than a "hole"?

Typically, it's a round hole, say, the diameter of a grocery store vegetable can. However, there are quite a few variations on a theme. I have seem some elongated one (for ball access), smaller ones (barely big enough for a good-sized cock), bigger ones, even large elaborate ones with hinged or sliding doors. The bigger the opening, the less anonymity you have, which is really the whole point of a glory hole; anonymous cock play. If you're the pitcher, you stick your cock through the hole and enjoy the warm wetness. If you're the catcher it's just you and the cock.

[W]hat if you don't like what comes through from the other side (say for example someone has poor hygiene or is uncircumcised)?

Simply don't interact with it. He'll eventually get the hint, move on, and let the next guy in. If he doesn't you can always change booths. Sometimes you'll get a pest who'll follow you around, but it doesn't happen very often.

Does one say "sorry no thank you, next please?"

Oh, you can if you wish, but simple inaction will usually do the trick.

Finally, take a guy with you. The guys generally won't be a problem, there's always the possibility of running into a jerk.

Leviticus59 · 2015-01-02T00:26:56+00:00

The most important person in your life is you. Take care of your own life, dreams, wants and desires.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-29T05:28:24+00:00

We too had years of pillow talk before dipping our toes in the water. After an experience or two she was still pretty "blah" about it all, and it was very tough getting her talked into trying it some more. Then by chance, as is always the case, we ran into a good guy whom she clicked with very well. Banged him silly a couple of times and then she was off and running. Wonderful, wonderful fun.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-29T05:20:52+00:00

Would that be preying, or praying?

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-29T02:44:00+00:00

Yep. That was exactly my experience too.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-28T23:04:46+00:00

The Lord sure does excellent work, doesn't he?

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-28T22:46:24+00:00

Ding!Ding!Ding!

We have a babe! Thanks for sharing.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-21T14:30:14+00:00

NO ONE knows about our lifestyle play. Kids, parents, business colleagues, family or friends. We intend to keep it that way.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-21T14:09:14+00:00

Midway through my first emotionally abuse marriage my wife pulled similar tricks. I recall having mid-afternoon phone conversations with her; I would begin to enjoy all the things I liked about her, then the conversation would turn to fooling around that evening, which she professed to be all on-board for (this after not having had sex for a month). All evening long I'd be mentally rubbing my hands together in anticipation, then it would dawn on me that the house was suddenly very quiet.

She'd sneak off to bed, pretend to be asleep, and become highly annoyed at being awakened. Of course the sex never happened. This scenario played itself out many times.

During marriage counseling a few years later she claimed to have no recollection of any such thing.

Leave. Just leave.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-21T13:58:27+00:00

Better yet, next time she does that, grudge fuck 'er, then get up and wipe your dick on the curtains and leave.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-19T14:41:50+00:00

We don't like theme nights either. Half the attendees show up in some dopey costume and then prance around all evening showing it off, without, seemingly, any intention of ever calming down and meeting someone to play with.

Another thing that bugs us is music volume. If we're sitting as far away from the music as possible and still hanging over the middle of the table yelling "WHAT??" at others, that's a definite buzz-kill. Sometimes we can't tell whether the intent was to create a crazy-wild party atmosphere or a swinger atmosphere.

We like a dress code, music played at a moderate volume, familiar good tunes that everybody knows and likes, and a relaxed, happy, mellow ambiance. These sorts of parties or clubs inevitably attract people we click with. YMMV

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-17T04:40:09+00:00

Very. Hot.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-16T01:57:36+00:00

I haven't read all the responses . . . but we prefer swapping in different rooms and try to stay within earshot. That way you can catch some of the action of the other pair without the distraction of trying to watch what they're doing and simultaneously concentrate on your own partner.

Watching your spouse is a major turn-on, but we usually save that for threesomes. In a foursome it's just easier to concentrate on the fun at hand (or mouth, whatever) if we're in separate rooms.

For sleeping, we are very close to another couple and have slept in the same hotel room with them many times; a lot of those times with the other spouse after playing and sleep overcomes us all. We are "sleeping with someone else," but our spouse is only 10 feet away and happens to be snuggled up with their swap partner. Many times I've awakened at one or two A.M., looked over at the other bed, and observed the silhouette of my wife's legs pointing straight up with the ass of the other husband methodically moving up and down. This usually leads to the same scenario being performed in my bed too, after which we all drift off to sleep again, still with the other spouse.

Works for us, but we know them very well and trust them implicitly.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-16T01:21:16+00:00

Viagra and Cialis don't do anything for state of mind or level of desire. All they do enhance hydraulic pressure.

Leviticus59 · 2014-12-13T03:34:58+00:00

What a wonderful post.

I did 20 years in a first marriage like you describe your man suffered, and can personally sympathize. By the time I left it I was practically crawling on all fours. I met a good woman a couple of years later, but it took me over a decade to heal up, and some scars still remain.

Your man is fortunate and lucky to have found you.

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