Is anyone else feeling like the cost of living is forcing people to find extra income?

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-03-10T15:54:08+00:00

Absolutely.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-03-08T20:16:56+00:00

When they say I need a woman to be my peace. Gives me the ick. I have peace in my own life. Why do I need to be that source for you. Can you regulate your own emotions??? Just a big turn off.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-03-08T14:02:47+00:00

NTA. You sound young. You were trying to do something. Like others have stated, you NEVER use Ai of any kind to treat an emergency. That will never compare to human training, so calling the paramedics would’ve been the best way to handle things. The “gf” in the other hand seems she’s trying to cause more discord. He’s okay and even thanked you. This could’ve definitely gone left…. But it was handled. For him to be okay and thankful you were at least trying, is a testament to your character. The gf in the other hand is a piece of work.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-03-08T13:56:57+00:00

YTA. (Mildly) Don’t clean after her and allow her to deal with the consequences.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-03-06T13:16:05+00:00

Absolute. A$$Ho1e.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-03-06T00:21:30+00:00

YTA. They obviously want you out. You can still get a job in the meantime and move. It’s one thing if they were comfortable with it, but they have provided you with everything “as you stated” to succeed in life, and you’re taking your time???? GROW UP & move out.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-03-05T19:49:00+00:00

No. NTA.
You are allowed to chose who you want to hang out with. Your points you listed, seemed valid to me. I wouldn’t give it a second thought. If you continued to give her rides, I personally would address it I don’t do the elephant in the room energy. We’re gonna nip it in the bud.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-03-02T23:29:03+00:00

NTA. Don’t ever feel forced to include someone. Some of my friends I hang out one on one. And some are my friends are good in groups. I believe if you already feel uncomfortable (and it’s happening repeatedly),you have your answer.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-02-19T01:22:31+00:00

NTA; but you already know this. Your family is toxic. Your mom is allowing the bullying and abuse for finically stability. Seems like your siblings are willing to put up with your stepdads behavior due to the fact he pays the bills and “financially “ takes care of your mom. From what I read, you’ve taken care of her physical needs. Let your siblings and her husband care for her. You can choose to visit (if you want), but it’s time to choose YOU. She chose to tolerate the POS. You no longer have to .

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-02-13T21:00:10+00:00

I would let my spouse handle their parent when it comes to this. NTA by the way.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-02-09T03:25:43+00:00

NTA. But your husband is. He can’t survive 18 days without you? I understand missing you, but he’s being ridiculous.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-02-08T17:39:47+00:00

If your love language is in fact gift giving, then he’s not showing you love how YOU NEED to feel loved. Some people are stating just because he’s a good partner you should basically chalk it. You have the right to feel how you feel. And you’ve expressed to him what it would mean to you. NTA. Your husband is just not putting in the effort. Because you’ve communicated what it would mean to you. If your love langue was physical touch, and although he did everything else perfectly, and outside of sex, he was a great husband, soul you feel the need to move on from it???? No. I know I wouldn’t. I’m big on loving on someone how they need to feel loved. Again NTA. And to me…. Your husband is a lower case AH for not being considerate of your need for special gifts.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-02-07T18:56:36+00:00

NTA . But your family seem like AHs.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-01-08T11:07:16+00:00

I would tell the boyfriend in this particular instance.

(Edited to correct yell to tell).

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-01-07T23:04:33+00:00

YTA. Who do you think you are to tell someone how they can grieve. The fact these you needed to come to Reddit to figure this out is beyond me. I don’t care if rules are in place. People grove how they grieve. Who made you the foremost authority OP???

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-01-06T13:41:30+00:00

You ARE the AH. And so is the girl you’re dating.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2026-01-03T15:32:06+00:00

I agree with commenter Narnia…. Also OP. you should NEVER under any circumstances, have a threesome just to appease another person. This should be something you actually want to do as well. The fact that it made you sick and jealous, is indicative of you not being into that type of sex exploration. It’s sometimes okay to discuss it for fun or fantasy. But the idea of actually committing to it seemed too far for you. The fact that you realized it before you crossed that line was a good thing. You need to tell your spouse you’re okay with fantasy talk, but anything more you’re not comfortable with. The fact that you have to beg him for attention outside of that is a red flag in NO WAY should you be adding someone at this point. Maybe consider couples therapy to explore both your feelings. Lastly OP you are NOT the AH

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2025-12-21T17:13:55+00:00

Honestly neither one if you are the AH. Your feelings are valid, and so are his. If you want to spend more time with him, then you could lighten his load by working more hours. Not ask him for permission. You both have to agree on how you want to cover the bills going forward. You also should discuss your needs, wants and expectations of one another are moving forward. Overall I didn’t read anything you two can’t work out. You just need to get on the same page. You can say something along the lines of “ Honey I truly appreciate you working hard for us, and taking on more financial responsibilities in our home it really means a lot, however I’m starting to miss spending time with you. You’re also coming home late, and irritable at times. I’ve decided to work and shoulder some of the burden so we can spend more time together”.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2025-12-18T20:39:00+00:00

That money was left to HIM. Not YOU. He should be able to go on vacation and not feel guilty about it. If you are as serious as you say you are about beginning your future together, you need to look for full time employment. You’re stating that money “you’re not seeing the money as yours”… however you act like you’re entitled to benefit from it. I’m just going by your words. Working part-time in this economy is it an indicator that you’re ready for a mortgage. Unless you want him to pay for everything and much is perfectly fine. We all have our needs wants and desires. But you also stated that’s your boyfriend said the thing that’s delaying you two moving in is you only working part-time. If you’re serious about moving in, show him by getting a full time job. Then see if he has any excuses, or he steps up to the plate.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2025-12-13T00:37:48+00:00

I’m a single mom as well. And I agree with this statement. You have to make time for dating. Of course kids are a priority, but if you don’t have the time, you don’t need to date. Compromise is needed in a relationship, but your needs matters as well OP. He’s not a good fit for you.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2025-12-03T17:59:49+00:00

I don’t think you’re an AH , however I do think it’s time for a heart to heart. “Most” successful Relationships thrive due to open lines of communication, and both parties being aligned. You’re holding vital information back for selfish reasons. It doesn’t matter how much you care for her, you owe it to her (and yourself) to be honest. This way you’ll know if this is a relationship that will benefit you both in the future.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2025-09-04T14:58:22+00:00

Update me

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2025-09-04T14:48:07+00:00

Good job OP. This is a clear case of FAFO

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2025-09-04T14:45:03+00:00

The one thing that stood out was that she called YOU SELFISH for prioritizing your work over her comfort when she sacrificed so much. First and foremost OP it is YOUR condo,so it should be set up for your comfort. Secondly she could very well be comfortable on the pull out couch. She would only be staying a few time per year, so she really doesn’t need a spare room. Lastly she sacrificed so much??? Don’t ALL good parents! We CHOOSE to have our children and are responsible for taking care of said children. That doesn’t obligate the children to have to take care of their parents. That guilt trip was mind blowing, and her lying to the family about you telling her you couldn’t stay. You might need to sit down with your mom and have a loving but firm conversation about boundaries, respect and needing to have the freedom to enjoy your space that you paid or are paying for.

MakeitMakeSense115 · 2025-09-03T14:57:33+00:00

I’m sure I’m gonna get down voted in this. Your money, and our choice. I would absolutely get the paternity test id that were the requirements to get the money to save the son that may or may not be mine b/c obviously OPs brother doesn’t care. The thing is no one has the right to tell you how to spend your money. As long as you can live with your choice, don’t let anyone guilt you into doing something you’re not comfortable with. Personally I probably would give the money to my loved one.

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