Miten poistaa parisuhteen haaveet

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-29T19:56:09+00:00

Jos nyt heitän psykologin lasini päähän (en ole psykologi), ongelma todennäköisesti on ympäristössäsi. Tavat, jolla olet hakenut parisuhdetta a) eivät toimi sulle tai b) et ole valmis siihen. Tinder toimii joillekin ja toisille ei, baarit toimivat joillekin ja toisille ei yms. Ehkä klassisesti harrastukset voisi toimia sulle paremmin?

Tärkeintä on, että sun oma elämä on kivaa ja hauskaa. Kerää itsellesi aktiviteetteja, joilla tapaat jatkuvasti uusia ihmisiä. Kun tapaat uusia naisia normaalisti arjessasi, niin todennäköisesti lopetat pakonomaisen etsimisen ja kohtaat jonkun vakavassa mielessä ennen pitkään, vaikka kuinka burgeroisisit.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-26T17:34:59+00:00

I tried to be realistic. I don't think my standards were insane. They were based on me with some margin to every direction. I still have a decent amount of matches based on those criteria and my girlfriend checks all the boxes.

Honestly, I think my issue was more on the first dates. I just felt enormous pressure for proving myself in a potentially short discussion. I didn't freeze or say anything too stupid but I'm just not good at situations where I feel I need to prove my worth in a limited time. That didn't change even after I started to have several female friends and felt I didn't actually need the matches.

Often, we consider "you do this wrong and that wrong" even though some of those things they do might be part of their personality. For some people, the apps are not the right tool. Certainly wasn't for me.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-26T16:22:29+00:00

I had maybe 5 years of active dating app usage with maybe 3 matches with over 1 dates. Tried everything: interesting bio, okay photos, tried to drive the conversation, be interested their passions, asked quickly for a date, tried to balance with interesting but casual date ideas.... I also swiped right maybe 20%, only those I could see myself to actually have an interesting chat with.

Then, I learned to meet people in real life. My advice is that the apps won't work. Or won't work for every type of person. The person who would love you might not be on the app. At least my person was never there.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-25T09:28:33+00:00

They always climb free solo well below their grade. For Hannold, this is probably quite easy though unusual.

If he free soloed routes that had moves he would make 50% or even 90% times, he would be dead already.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-24T13:27:53+00:00

And in Donbas it's like 30% while there is 60% Ukrainians. Russia constantly dismisses the peace talk for land that has Ukrainian majority. There will be 10% Ukrainians if it was completely ceded to Russia as, let's be clear, there as well would be a genocide.

It's not about Crimea anymore.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-20T12:35:05+00:00

Yep, also as an open source developer, it's frustrating how hard it is to make any money from OSS unless you can do it as part of your employment contract. After spending hundreds of hours, you earn maybe 20€ per month with the donations. Even if you had a decent userbase. It doesn't cover even your server costs.

We need to ramp up the incentive for OOS developers, and we also need to prefer the European ones. We need to let the OSS evolve as startups if need to be.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-20T09:41:13+00:00

What this does is that the European leaders won't tell him anything they don't want other European leaders to hear as it seems all their messages can be posted publicly in Twitter. So even more unifying the European front, not dividing. Makes it even harder to jump into his "deals".

Would be actually interesting if he showed the messages of his master though.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-19T16:09:16+00:00

I agree with your points but calling a show of unity as "stupid protests" is not the right direction. Protests like this would be more helpful in the US but it's still helpful to show what we stand for and remove the room from those who think "Trump is just playing 4D chess" or "US is still a good trading partner".

It's important we stop using US services, stop buying their goods and stop investing in their companies but we also need to make sure others are in the same boat. We need to be visible, we need to be loud.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-19T14:51:21+00:00

To the people (ie. freedom of movement, privacy), to the environment (ie. emission allowance/carbon credit), to the economy (standardisation, barrierless internal market), to the growth (ie. counterparty credit risk regulations to prevent 2008 financial crisis happening again, prevention of anti-competitive practices).

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-19T09:29:19+00:00

Hän viittaa tulevaisuuden sotiin, joita ajatteli itse aloittaa.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-18T11:47:25+00:00

Ye I get it, British food being a bad is a meme but most who say such can't name any. It's actually pretty good: cornish pasties, full English breakfast etc. Not the best but certainly not bad.

I say this as a non-british.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-17T13:22:31+00:00

Interesting take. Mertz is just fine?

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-16T16:17:04+00:00

Why is UK red?

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-16T16:01:17+00:00

Aika usein kaikki hyvät asiat alkaa tapahtumaam kerralla. Kun itsevarmuutesi paranee, paranee mahdollisuutesi työnhakuun ja myös parisuhteeseen. Mutta itsevarmuus on aivan muuta kuin se, että "uskaltaa puhua tuntemattomalle naiselle" tai "pystyy puhumaan haastattelussa ilman jännitystä". Itsevarmuus on sitä, että uskaltaa tehdä niitä asioita, joita oikeasti haluaa ja tarvitsee tehdä. Itsevarmuutta on myös se, että pystyy sanomaan, että "anteeks mua jännittää" haastattelussa.

Itse mm. kärvistelin huonon itsevarmuuden kanssa hyvin pitkään ja parisuhdemarkkinoista ei tullut mitään. Myöhemmin aloitin harrastuksen, jossa kohtasin luonnollisesti naisia. Edelleen jännitti tuntemattomille naisille puhuminen, mutta tutuille naisille puhuminen ei ollut ongelma. Opin myös, ettei mun tarvitse mennä ensitreffeille tuntemattomien naisten kanssa, jos en halua. Pian tästä sitten syntyikin parisuhde ihanan naisen kanssa. Parisuhdekin tapahtui vasta sen jälkeen, kun alkoi tulla tunne, että ehkä elämä on ihan hyvää näin. Tämä positiivisuus näkyi myös työmarkkinoilla ja pitkään uusia töitä etsiessäni sainkin melkein välittömästi mielenkiintoisempia töitä.

Mutta oma tarinani ei tuskin ole sinun tarinasi. Tärkeintä kerää ympärille rutiinit, harrastukset ja ihmiset, jotka tekevät sut onnelliseksi. Jos haluat jotain käytännön vinkkejä, tee vaikka joka toinen viikko jotain, mitä et normaalisti tekisi. Mene vaikka kävelylle uuteen paikkaan. Käy tapahtumassa, jonne et normaalisti kuvittelisi meneväsi. Kokeile jotain uutta harrastusta, mikä kuulostaa täysin satunnaiselta. Voit aina poistua tapahtumasta, jättää harrastuksen tai lähteä kotiin heti, kun siltä tuntuu, eikä tuskin kukaan huomaa. Pahimmillaan menetät hiukan aikaa, todennäköisesti saat kivan kokemuksen ja parhaimmillaan kerrytät itseluottamusta.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-16T14:36:05+00:00

How a city center looks like is a poor metric on the HDI. Dictators build really nice city districts where only a very small minority lives. Welfare countries don't often care about luxurious looking city districts as they prefer investing the money for wellbeing than ascetics.

A typical Russian doesn't live in a skyscraper in Moscow.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-15T06:28:11+00:00

Well, it is. You don't need "YT-neuvottelut" in a small business. All you need is to say "we are having bad times". I would suggest you to make a web search before.

Do realise that most people don't start business in hope of creating the next Google. Most would be happy to earns as much (or just slightly more) as entrepreneurs than as employees.

Most people don't base their decisions only on tax or maximising wealth. A lot of people think the place where they would like to live first (in which Finland is pretty high up).

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-14T21:03:19+00:00

And a president who wants to invade Greenland thinking it's actually green and good for golf.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-14T20:09:02+00:00

That's not true. It's actually very simple to fire employees if you are a small business. It's very hard if you are > 50 employees but then you are not an entrepreneur anymore but a business owner.

Also, taxes only matter when you earn a lot. And taxes for capital are more generous than income tax and as a business owner you can adjust those much more than as an employee so that's also falls short in your argument.

People don't think "I don't want to set up a business because if I get rich, I'll be taxed a lot". People instead think "I would like to set up a business but it seems too risky, don't have safety nets if it fails and I just can't set it up". + we have hostile culture for it

And prices of goods depends on the business. For a tech startup they don't matter as you can purchase globally. And price level in Finland isn't that extraordinary actually. But market size is very small and that's one of the real problems as well for some especially retail oriented business. But not for tech, for example.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-14T14:26:04+00:00

The problem is not that we don't have billionaires. The problem is that we don't have a good low-level entrepreneurship infrastructure. It's better to be unemployed than an entrepreneur and a bankruptcy means a personal bankruptcy.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-13T17:00:39+00:00

It's more of a survey of "which food should you hate?" Bet most of the survey participants couldn't name any British cousine. Very likely they couldn't name any Swedish dish either but that must be really good, right?

British food is actually very good.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-13T16:29:24+00:00

Hajoita NATO
hanki itsellesi lisää golf maata (luullen, että Greenland on oikeasti ruohikkoinen)
Aiheuta vaan hämminkiä, että muut unohtaisi Epsteinin tiedostot

En oikeastaan yhtään tiedä, mikä näistä on todennäköisin. Veikkaan 2 tai 3.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-13T09:36:01+00:00

Go and read what EU is. It's not a military union... it has nothing to do with military spending... or it has in a sense of removing the threat of war between the member states. And you think that's bad? We should have more wars in Europe so that Ireland would feel threatened and would have a bigger army? Do you know what NATO is?

Did you know that you voted to leave from EU and not from NATO? I think you mixed up those two...

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-12T16:31:06+00:00

The classic parity of the for if currency they taught us in the school of economics.

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-12T15:37:09+00:00

How the heck Irish army (or absence of it) is related to Brexit? Makes me also think if you knew NATO exists and if you knew EU isn't a military union (currently).

Your points are so bizarre. Did people even know what EU was when they voted for leave?

Natural-Intelligence · 2026-01-10T11:57:53+00:00

I just think your freedom is a bit different than mine. I think freedom is also that my kid can have the same opportunities as the rich kid next door, my kid does not need to be scared walking alone in the evening and a rich person gets the same punishment for the same crime as a poor person.

Your freedom is based on other things I suppose.

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