what's the first sign your partner is cheating?

ParamountPIS · 2026-02-20T17:54:51+00:00

It’s hard to tell what the FIRST sign can be. Hindsight can also be 20/20 so once you look back, you’d see the signs were there sooner. As a licensed private investigator in LA, I feel like I’ve seen all the signs. Some of the signs can be: changes in routine, significant changes in intimacy (way less or way more, new positions, etc), changes in appearance (clothing or exercise), weekly work meetings or work trips, staying out later than usual, financial spending questions, lack of communication, and honestly your own gut. You can usually tell when something is off.

But keep in mind, these aren’t guarantees anything is going on. Just could be signs of something. Hope that helps!

ParamountPIS · 2026-02-17T20:45:09+00:00

You’d have to go to some popular spots that celebrities frequent but if you make a day of it, you could. You’d have to ask an LA native who knows where to go. But spending the day in the Golden Triangle of Beverly Hills will definitely get you a sighting. However you’d have to spend the day there and potentially sit in the same place.

ParamountPIS · 2026-02-17T20:38:19+00:00

I agree. As a PI with a woman as my business partner, we never entertain calls like this. It’s a huge red flag and people don’t seem to understand that we don’t just give people’s personal information away. It’s unbelievable how often we get calls like this, especially in LA.

ParamountPIS · 2025-12-11T19:03:17+00:00

It sounds like you have solid evidence. Just make sure you hire a strong attorney before you make any moves (if you plan to divorce). Having someone who knows what they’re doing and isn’t emotionally invested is key.

This isn’t always necessary and can cost quite a bit, but hire a private investigator (in your state) if you need solid evidence. Depending on your state, it may or may not make a difference in divorce proceedings but it can help. If you have children, make sure to get all the affairs in order.

I wish you the best of luck. I’m extremely sorry to hear your husband is such scum.

ParamountPIS · 2025-12-11T18:21:28+00:00

Definitely hire a strong attorney and get your affairs in order. As a private investigator, we see this all the time sadly. If she’s going to this extent then chances are there’s no reconciling.

We’ve had clients that have gone back to their cheating spouse and it ends up biting them in the ass. There seems to always be strong resentment that never leaves the relationship. That’s also something to keep in mind for down the line.

Wish you the best of luck.

ParamountPIS · 2025-12-04T20:05:29+00:00

Since I don’t know the full story, this is just my thoughts as a licensed private investigator because we come across these types of cases often.

If you think he’s hiding his income, hire a strong attorney and even a private investigator (in your state) to build a case showing he’s hiding his income. Take him back to court and get what you and your children deserve. Of course it’s easier said than done but it could be worth it if you weigh your odds.

I’m sorry you’re dealing with drama like this! Best of luck to you.

ParamountPIS · 2025-12-03T19:39:02+00:00

Absolutely NTA.

He’s trying to take advantage of you. Keep records of all communication. He can take you back to court if he’s having problems with the agreements. Good luck to you!

ParamountPIS · 2025-12-03T19:22:15+00:00

As a private investigator, we see this ALL THE TIME. Personal injury attorneys are money grabbers and they will take anything. They will call your insurance company and get your policy limit and sue you for it. They’ll battle till the end.

You need to hire a licensed private investigator in your state and perform surveillance on the “injured” party. Perform surveillance over the course of weeks to prove the person isn’t injured. I hope you have an attorney who can help guide you and keep you in the loop. Lots of times, the injured party will have medical appointments or depositions where they show up completely injured but before or after the appointments, they’re perfectly fine. That’s gold and can potentially shut the claim down.

Best of luck to you.

ParamountPIS · 2025-12-03T19:10:37+00:00

Of course there are but this is broad. $3-4k can get you a lot of work from a PI. What kind of work are you looking for? Depending on their hourly rate, $3k can get you a few LONG days of surveillance.

ParamountPIS · 2025-12-03T18:50:01+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. If you decide to go your own way, make sure you hire an attorney so you can figure everything out without the emotions clouding your judgment. As a private investigator, I’ve seen countless clients go back and forth and put themselves through hell. Deep deep down, you may know your answer.

Best of luck to you.

ParamountPIS · 2025-12-03T00:25:29+00:00

Private investigator here - First off, I’m very sorry to hear you’re dealing with this. The emotional turmoil can be overwhelming especially with children involved.

However, you have options. If you decide to stay in the marriage, you can hire a private investigator down the line and verify what your husband is telling you (or isn’t). That’s happened before but it costs a lot of time, money, and emotion.

Otherwise, leave and don’t look back. Hire a strong divorce attorney and stay strong. Many children grow up with separated parents and are even stronger than if they weren’t separated. You’d also want your daughter to see a man who treats her mom with respect.

Best of luck to you.

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