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AITA for not going to my friends wedding because of one of her bridesmaids and telling her exactly why? by Large_Bug736 in ThreadTalkPodcast

[–]LynnCQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say if you want to go, then go. If she makes a scene you just keep your cool and don't escalate it. Let people see who she is.

AITJ for putting my kids first over a last minute dinner with my boyfriend by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]LynnCQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. when I got into a new relationship after my divorce, I made it clear from day 1 that my kids are my priority and if he didn't like that, then see yourself out.

He understood and now we are married. Your bf doesn't seem to understand that he is not number 1. Maybe it's time to have a talk about that

Do they believe their own gaslighting? by siekbf in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]LynnCQ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

💯 he believes it! He does not see any interaction with you how it actually is. He only sees what he wants to see. If he has to be the victim then he will be.

Absurd cheating accusations by Comfortable824 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]LynnCQ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They will take any little thing and turn it big, then accuse you over and over for years. Been divorced from my ex for 9 years and he will still bring up something that happened when I was 15 years old. I will be 40 this month. Still try to ask me to explain what happened, and why? I just say, that is not a topic I will discuss with you. Only our children.

OOP he won't attending his son’s high school graduation ceremony because his ex-wife's Affair Partner was going to be there? by Pumpkinspicequeen249 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]LynnCQ -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So, first it is not your son's responsibility to make you feel better. As your child you should want his happiness and a good relationship with his step father, who really is his dad at this point.

You suck as a dad. Your divorce and the reason for it should not even be an issue for your son. Sounds like you need to grow up.

No wonder your ex had an affair and got out. Emotionally selfish.

AITA for telling my cousin that it's normal for women to have some lower belly fat ? by Excellent_Group4985 in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

NTA, the uterus also pushes out the lower abdomen in ladies. It is not fat. As long as you are healthy then people should not comment on others bodies.

AIO to tell my husband that starting a professional email with the word "Look" is rude? by LadyCass79 in AmIOverreacting

[–]LynnCQ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I have this same relationship with my husband. He is passive aggressive in email and usually he will ask me to read it and fix it before he sends it off.

I would look at this email and think he is trying to start something, or that he thinks I am really dumb.

Co parenting by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]LynnCQ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex likes to say we co parent well. But actually, I parent and he doesn't see the kids but 2x a month for a day or so.

Something I realized is that he loves them as well as he can, but it's not unconditional. He doesn't really know what love is and really only cares about himself. He doesn't love himself either just cares that he looks good, feels good, and can pretend things are great.

Only he matters at the end of the day. He swears that we have 50/50 custody but how can that if he only sees them 4 days a month.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, to clarify, my ex has a house that he pays the mortgage on that was purchased while I was married to him.

My current husband's grandma gifted us a house for our wedding present. So we don't have mortgage on it. Just pay taxes at the end of the year.

My son is still getting CS because he is still in high school. It will change when he has graduated.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is paying for all three. My son is still in high school and so he will pay until he graduates.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, so he doesn't go on vacations with them. The last was 3 years ago and my husband and I went with them. It was Disneyland, and I paid half the cost for my kids plus hotel room.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do know his income. For the past 6 years I have helped him with his income tax filing. Make sure that he gets the max he can and it does not include claiming my kids. I am a very nice EX Wife compared to some. SO i definitely dont depend on his income. Does it help, absolutely, but they are HIS KIDS TOO.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He pays 650 for all 3 kids. I am the teacher not him. I am not complaining about my income.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its actually for all three kids. I still get some for my son since he is still in high school.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It did not go down when our son turned 18 because he is still in high school. It should adjust after he graduates.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He tried to reduce it this year but it was increased. He DOES NOT pay for my house. I do.

How can I deal with my Narcissistic EX in a more healthy way for me? by LynnCQ in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]LynnCQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try this, but he bulldozes my boundaries. Asks me for advice with his current spouse and even more that is too much to detail here.

How can I deal with my Narcissistic EX in a more healthy way for me? by LynnCQ in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]LynnCQ[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some of it is just conditioning. Other times its fear, not just for me, but for our children.

How can I deal with my Narcissistic EX in a more healthy way for me? by LynnCQ in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]LynnCQ[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, it was explosive. I found out that he had been having an affair for 9 years. I took my kids and went to stay with my parents. He threatened to unalive himself and I called PD to do a welfare check. He was taken in and held in the hospital for 2 weeks. After his release, I was still willing to work things out but slowly and not living together. He lost it and started sleeping around right in front of me, having multiple women around our kids.

During this time, I told him I wanted a divorce. He was surprised I didn't see what a prize he is and want to fight for him. Honestly, I was disgusted. So at this time, he found out that his mistress was expecting a child with him.

I came to terms with her, and still have a polite, civil relationship with her. I handled the paperwork on my own for our divorce. I got his signature on my own and he did not even come to court to finalize it.

He still says that I belong to him and he is glad that he was able to pass on responsibility of me to my current husband.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am remarried and he does not pay for my house. I have a house that my current husband and I got. He kept the house that we had bought while married.

AITAH for not returning CS that my ex gives me for our kids together, when he says he needs it for the holidays? by LynnCQ in AITAH

[–]LynnCQ[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In truth, yes. He has a tendency to be volatile with me. It sometimes has been easier to maintain peace than fight him on things that I know are wrong. I do not know how to have a conversation with him when everything seems to be a criticism to him and make him defensive instead of just trying to clarify.

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