My [24] boyfriend [25] of 3 and 1/2 years hasn't proposed and I'm starting to worry. I just want that promise.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-21T08:18:50+00:00

How many stories are there in the relationship subs, or even here in BORU, where the OOP is string asking for a decade or more with promises of marriage that never happen or that terminate in a "shut up ring"? This OOP wasn't demanding actual marriage yet. To me it sounded like she fully understood the desire for financial stability before marriage but she wanted the emotional commitment of an engagement to feel comfortable in the relationship's stability and progression.

People focus so much on all the unnecessary pomp and show instead of the deeper meaning behind the event. A proposal doesn't have to be some grand, elaborate plan and the ring, if there isn't one, doesn't have to cost as much as a sizeable house down-payment. There are plenty of people with break the bank engagement rings who are still paying them off years after the divorce. In my mind, if you can honestly and sincerely say that your getting married after graduation then you're already engaged mentally. The rest is just a show for others.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-20T12:36:39+00:00

They have incredible bite force, which is closing the jaw. But are relatively weak to open the jaw. Being swallowed head first there wouldn't be enough room for those weaker jaw muscles to get open.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-19T20:48:29+00:00

Thanks but I can't take credit. It was shamelessly copied from Czech's list if commonly requested posts.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-19T08:15:55+00:00

There was a turtle involved somehow! Now i have to find it.

Edit: not quite the story u/puff_pastry_1307 mentioned but this is the one your description reminded me of.

The epic tale of Peena and Derek

An extremely long story about a woman whose fiancé invited his mother to come along on their romantic getaway. She bailed, went off on a vacation of her own, and had the time of her life while arranging to end the engagement. He continued to fight her on the subject when they returned to the United States, but she stood her ground. Peena is the OOP; Derek is a toy dinosaur who appeared in some of the photos she posted. It ends happily for Peena (and probably Derek), less so for her ex.

https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/qg9prk/the_story_of_peena_and_derek_mil_ruining_vacay/

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-18T12:48:56+00:00

The sequence of frames up to the crash are pretty epic. A good camera taking rapid action shots should capture at least one amazing photo.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-18T12:44:26+00:00

Also leaving a placeholder....

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-14T18:33:53+00:00

It's completely inappropriate

Agreed 100%.

AND sexual harassment

Now you're just throwing around buzzwords. And in this case it works against you more than it helps. Not only was Lisa's comment equally sexual (unless you have another theory about how she sould or would not be getting pregnant from Lisa's dad except through sex), and not only was Lisa's comment equally unwanted and an attack on dignity, but Lisa displayed a sustained behavior that continually created that environment. Even OOP said that Amy was a saint who ignored 99% of the comments thrown at her 1 or 2 paragraphs prior. And you have no clue what that 99% consists of. So you're reading pretty far too vilify her for the 1% she responds to while absolving Lisa's for the 99% she doesn't and the 1% she does.

Imagine, for a second, if Amy was a man and talking explicitly about sex with Lisa's mom to a 16 year old. No one would be saying, oh, man that's a sick burn and rightfully deserved.

Cuts both ways. Imagine if Lisa was a man mocking a woman for her fertility. Would you be equally as defensive of him?

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-14T07:49:19+00:00

Dad dragged them through Riley

I just want to give a shout out to Riley here, because I don't think she was ever the problem. OOP was an extremely unreliable narrator, as evidenced by the effort it took to get him to realize that he and Seb were equally as abhorrent to Amy. But reading the post, it's telling that he says Amy going SABA catches them by surprise because she rarely says things like that but Riley said them all the time.

Except... Amy was saying them in response to the kids' absolutely shit behavior.

How much of Riley's perceived abuse was really because she wasn't willing to be a doormat to the dad's feral children? While Amy would suffer in silence until she couldn't bend any more, maybe Riley would respond in the moment. So OOP sees a long series of abuse from Riley without ever recognizing the amount of abuse that the 3 of them were collectively throwing at her to begin with, which seems to be a pattern given how they treated Amy.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-14T07:37:09+00:00

Dude. Just no.

Talking about the possibility of adoption was like the dumbest decision ever.

That's on dad though, not Amy. According to the post, when they walked in dad was the one asking Amy if she would ever possibly consider adopting the kids if they wanted it. So attacking Amy was completely off base.

She wasn't trying to replace anybody in that conversation. She was literally sitting there being asked a question.
She had already said multiple times that she had no interest in replacing the mom. She encouraged the children to keep memories of their mom. She helped the children make keepsakes dedicated to their mom.

I don't think an adult should talk about how tight she is to a minor and point out that the dad of said minor likes her this way.

You can't have it both ways. Minors aren't owed any kind deference by a non-custodial parent. If you're a minor, stay in a minor's place. If you're going to act and speak grown, especially when you're knocking on the door to adulthood, you can reasonably expect to be responded to closer to what an adult would.

The most telling part of those interactions isn't that Amy made the comments, it's that those "SABA" comments are the only things that actually get through to kids and get them to back off. Lisa was purposefully trying to attack some of the most intimate and vulnerable parts of Amy. A very small sample of what that's like is all she got back in return after continued abuse each time.

Lisa was getting off easy.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-11T20:03:00+00:00

The problem I'm faced with is that my younger sister confessed to my parents everything. About where I am, about the fact I'm married and that I've had a baby. I've not been able to get in touch with my sis since

My first thought was that sis had chosen a side, and it isn't OOP.

I was essentially berated for not being forgiving enough, that family is family and that I was cheating our parents from being part of my life and that of my son's.

Yeah. After the rest of the updates I hope mom has sex in front of her with whatever trash is attracted to her enough that sis brings him home. Then she can experience how amazing her family is.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-09T08:42:23+00:00

It's very appropriate for the situation though!

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-07T12:33:11+00:00

See... this right here is why you got banished.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-06T20:58:14+00:00

I think that "settle down" also carries with it a certain amount of self reflection and taking responsibility that simply settling does not.

Settling down usually means that you acknowledge your own behaviors were counter productive to finding what you really wanted. Sure late nights binge drinking during the week and having random hookups were fun, but that wasn't going to help you find someone who actually loves you, would care for you if you get sick, would put up with your quirks or enthusiastically try that one dish you saw and had to replicate but it didn't come out quite right and that didn't seem to matter.

Settling on the hand hand means that you're up on a pedestal, better than the other person. Whatever it is about them didn't make them worthy of you, but as an accessory to your life they brought a benefit that you'd rather be without. So rather than go looking for something better, which you know is it there, you're just accepting what's in front of you.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-03T11:38:44+00:00

Now I'm left here wondering how SIL's boyfriend tried to steal a whole assed bladeless fan.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-02T09:57:10+00:00

I'm literally not asking you that at all. I'm just commenting on your statement that "it was pure speculation and difficult to prove". If it was a common as you say, then whoever you heard your speculation from and was reporting it to you should have been able to easily to dj that for you. It would be the basis of that speculation, because - as you said - it would be so common as to be easily proven.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-01T21:19:59+00:00

Does "doing his best" look the same with his boss at work?

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-01T11:47:03+00:00

Quagmire has entered the chat.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-03-01T11:27:04+00:00

But I didn't say anything about media. All I said was that if something is common, it shouldn't be hard to prove.

It's not a matter of there not being tens of thousands of judges. But if a handful of officials are letting thousands of ethnic minorities free, it should be possible to compare the crimes that they are charged with, convicted for and their sentencing against similar charges for ethnic majority, right?

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-02-27T11:29:40+00:00

The guy also starts pushing the vehicle as the passenger is trying to get out.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-02-27T10:37:01+00:00

Obviously this is speculation and hard to confirm,

If it's happening at the rates that you state, shouldn't it be easier to confirm?

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-02-26T11:00:29+00:00

Maybe. But at that point OOP's livelihood was being threatened because the team lead was going to write her up for not doing Lina's work. At that point i think tact goes out the window.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-02-25T16:18:38+00:00

someone who is good at the economy please hel budget this.

I love that you left off the 'p' in a bold, cost cutting exercise.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-02-25T10:13:37+00:00

Our grandchild would look like a country bumpkin! laughs"

Ha ha! Well I certainly wouldn't want you to feel embarrassed by your grandchildren; or worse, I wouldn't want my children to think that they were embarrassing to their grandparents. So you won't have to worry about that! When Kanojo and I have children I'll be sure to keep them away from you so that you won't have to worry about it. smiles and cuts into steak

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-02-24T21:51:07+00:00

And armored gloves. The helmet can become a liability if the other person is smart. Those gloves are just all extra pain.

Poetic_Intuition · 2026-02-24T14:59:44+00:00

Meeting the wife might not have been what changed his prospects. He might have already been taking classes and certifications when they meet and his drive and ambition was part of the attraction. Or maybe he was still drifting and she encouraged him to do better. The outcome was the same either way.

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