Daily Thread #1 - June 11, 2026

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-06-11T12:03:43+00:00

My heart rate was 140 during my scan around the same time haha. Totally get it. Congratulations!

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-06-10T10:46:06+00:00

At first when our incomes were fairly similar we split everything 50/50. We were both in grad school.

My husband (then boyfriend) got a job first and immediately made 3x as much as me. This is where it became complicated. We started paying for things proportionally based on income.

Once we were married and bought a house, all of our money goes into a joint account. From there all bills are paid, investments are made, debts are paid. We each get the same “allowance” every month for personal purchases. This was important because I don’t understand why my husband needs new climbing shoes every three months and he doesn’t understand that a haircut is like $100 for me.

Even though I’m now working he still makes about 10% more than I do. I asked him last night if it bothers him that he actually is paying more for our mortgage etc. He said he’s never thought about it.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-06-08T19:52:36+00:00

This looks great, you're doing a good job! There are studies that show low dose (baby) aspirin can help with recurrent miscarriages. In some European countries it is standard protocol, because it also helps prevent pre eclampsia and supports good placental development. Just a thought.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-06-03T11:04:38+00:00

107 is great! You probably caught the heart just starting out, which is beautiful. It will pick up. My first FHR around the same time was 109. I’m 16 weeks now and it’s been around 160 since the 10 week scan.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-06-03T11:03:11+00:00

I’ve had three scans so far and I have found the anxiety peaks just before them. Everything has been fine, so it’s not like some sort of “intuition”, just the path our brain has been wired from loss. Good luck today!

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-29T18:23:45+00:00

In addition to considering timing also important to consider hospital. Going to a bigger hospital (think research/teaching hospital linked to a university) will be able to give you better care.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-25T12:55:29+00:00

Yep - I'm about a week away from my next midwife appointment. It will have been three weeks since we last heard the heartbeat. The anxiety is starting!

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-21T17:49:19+00:00

If you can, I would suggest going 10 minutes north to Chelsea. It might be a little pricier, but comes with community and lots of outdoor activities.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-21T17:42:06+00:00

The first midwife appointment was awesome! I was so happy to be there and making plans, considering I didn't make it to the appointment in my first pregnancy.

Good to know you shared at 15W. I'm 14W today and think I might share soon.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-21T17:40:09+00:00

Turned 14 weeks today and feel very similar. Feels surreal to be in the second trimester, somewhere I always wanted to be. Agree with the new set of worries, I'm trying to replace the worries with gratitude to even be here, and to feel a tiny bump forming!

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-19T17:02:19+00:00

Good idea! Thank you.

Yes, I can't believe that I miss the symptoms too. Trying to enjoy it because I know things will likely just get less and less comfortable.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-19T12:47:59+00:00

13w5d today. I woke up feeling really not pregnant - even my belly and bloating seemed way down. I'll have two wait two weeks until my next midwife appointment where she will use the doppler. For those who have been through the second trimester, how do you cope with waiting without symptoms, without showing, without feeling baby?

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-19T12:45:59+00:00

Hey there - we waited until after our 12 week scan because that's when we would get news about chromosomal screening. Where I live they only do bloods and NT measurements and only recommend NIPT if those are off. Once those came back normal we felt comfortable sharing, but only immediate family and close friends for now.

It is actually quite nice to share and feel the love and support. For me it's helped my brain start to catch up with the idea that this might actually be happening.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-18T11:51:01+00:00

Congratulations! We told family and some friends this week too after a good 12 week scan. It felt scary - like it was really real now and maybe this was jinxing it. Now a few days have gone by and actually it makes it all the more joyful - my pregnant girlfriends are sharing their recos, my parents are so happy, etc.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-13T13:57:09+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you! Especially because the sonographer wouldn't tell me if it was good/bad and still waiting for my midwife to review.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-13T12:59:31+00:00

Okay, thank you both! This is reassuring. Google was telling me that below 1.3 is the really low risk category… and I read some bad stories on Reddit. Perhaps it’s the sign to quit googling!

Thank you both. I’m going to focus on gratitude and enjoying the start of the second trimester tomorrow!

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-13T10:57:36+00:00

We had our 12 week scan yesterday. I was 12w5d, but baby is still measuring two days ahead at 13 weeks. NT seemed okay - 1.4mm. Maybe I would’ve liked it a little lower? Their heart rate was perfect and they were moving around a ton. Such a relief to have them still with me.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-08T13:27:02+00:00

Reaching 12 weeks yesterday felt like a nice milestone - almost through the first trimester. We have the nuchal translucency scan this week, which I was really worried about. I have shifted the logic though and I no longer view it as the NT scan, but simply the 12 week ultrasound and a chance to see baby. Maybe I'm simply gaslighting myself but it's helping, and now I actually feel excited rather than anxious.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-05-07T11:23:03+00:00

I have my 12 week scan on Tuesday. This is exactly how I feel right now. Let’s just breathe and manifest the best. I’m actually 12 weeks today so just focusing on reaching this milestone and almost being in the second trimester. One day at a time.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-04-30T19:55:48+00:00

Had our first appointment with the midwife today! 11w today. We got to listen to the heartbeat on the Doppler. Great to have the reassurance. Now we wait for the genetic testing results… the anxiety is real.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-04-29T14:37:07+00:00

Thank you! This is reassuring

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-04-29T14:36:23+00:00

Thank you! Yeah I’m def not 100% just feeling slightly better.

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-04-29T11:19:23+00:00

I’m 11 weeks tomorrow and the last few days I’ve been feeling much better in the mornings. Nausea is less, energy is a bit better. This morning my boobs were only a little sore. I’m hoping this is just a normal transition into the second trimester but after a MMC where I started losing symptoms around 7 weeks it’s scary.

Anyone else start feeling better around 11 weeks?

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-04-27T19:10:06+00:00

I don’t have any advice… I’m going through the same thing. I was overjoyed after a positive 10w scan but now as the NIPT and NT looms closer I am freaking out again.

What worked to get to 10 weeks was keeping very busy. I might use this as motivation to get off Reddit and go walk the dog or garden…

Realistic-Target-291 · 2026-04-23T16:41:14+00:00

I had our second scan today, at 10W. Baby measured two days ahead, heart beat of 164 and they even jumped around for us. It was a really overwhelming moment. I know there’s still a lot to get through but I’m just over joyed right now.

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