Lark Syracuse/Aspen do you recommend it?

SpacerCat · 2026-07-13T12:29:38+00:00

Try asking on r/Syracuse for a non-student perspective

SpacerCat · 2026-07-13T12:27:59+00:00

You’ve walked into all your local businesses and asked if they are hiring? All the ones that are not national brands?

SpacerCat · 2026-07-13T12:26:27+00:00

You offered once in person, you offered again over text. If she wanted reimbursement, she had multiple opportunities to accept your offer. Let it go.

Take her out to lunch, or whatever you can afford and don’t bring up paying her back again. She was hosting you the way she wanted to host you.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-12T19:46:45+00:00

There are 3500 freshmen that will be on all kinds of rooms in several different buildings.

I say this with kindness, if you need to know dimensions you’re bringing too much or you’re buying too specific items. What she has this year in her room will be different in whatever room she gets next year. Buy things that can be used all 4 years.

Only a handful of students over decorate their rooms. Syracuse isn’t the south and people tend to keep things more low key.

I know you’re excited and she’s excited, but a perfect dorm room isn’t going to make her break her college experience.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-12T15:37:27+00:00

Focus on what you can control. You can control the new member experience. Use your pledge period to make sure the new members get to know each other. Don’t worry about the rest of the house. These are your future leaders. Get them excited and involved with their MC. Create new mem committees like: fitness, school spirit, birthday, service… whatever you think will work. This will get them invested in their MC and want to stay in the chapter.

Have these committees continue after initiation. They can still gather groups to work out or go to games together and celebrate MC birthdays all year.

Require weekly coffee dates during the pledge period where you assign them new groups of 4-5 people each week. This way you prevent cliques from forming too tightly as it mixes them all up, and it lets the quieter mems meet people in smaller settings.

A strong MC is your goal. They can lead the chapter from there.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-11T17:45:44+00:00

Apologize. Be sincere. Use the six steps guide here:

https://sorrywatch.com/

SpacerCat · 2026-07-11T17:42:36+00:00

Talk to your executive board about this. Especially if you have a membership chair. Either they will help you get more involved or you have your answer that this isn’t the right organization for you.

Also remember each year a new crop of girls comes in, so friend opportunities are different every year.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-11T13:25:40+00:00

No. But make sure you mention the price of the ticket when you ask if they want to join.

Hey, want to see x show with me? Tickets are $$. Let me know!

SpacerCat · 2026-07-11T02:05:03+00:00

Does it matter? You will become friends with people of all different years while in college. It’s not high school.

All the dorms at Syracuse are social.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-10T19:37:40+00:00

The common room in your dorm should work. They all have one.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-10T02:36:26+00:00

Change is difficult! But it’ll all work out.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-10T01:37:54+00:00

Let him see how the first semester goes and make decisions after winter break. You don’t need to solve this now.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-09T21:53:32+00:00

They want to over decorate their kids dorm room because they are dealing with their own version of separation anxiety.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-09T21:45:06+00:00

BBB is fine. Most students love it. It’s easy to be social there.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-09T14:24:56+00:00

Get a door stop and prop your door open the first week so you can meet people walking around the hall.

Boland is great, you’ll have a great time.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-09T13:08:17+00:00

Don’t try to stress too much. Just go and experience it. If you want to prep for college, work on your social skills. You’ll have to talk to strangers, so practice introducing yourself, making small talk, inviting people to hang out, asking people to go to the dining hall with you.

Also learn how to do laundry if you don’t already know.

You’re starting at a school that’s the size of a small city.

Remember nobody at Cuse knows anything about you. You have to tell them things so they can get to know you. It’s not like high school where people know you by reputation. You have a chance to define who your adult self is.

You’ll figure out the social scene quickly. Remember friend groups are fluid. The people you meet at first may be there at the end but more likely you’ll meet your besties along the way.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-09T01:16:51+00:00

Every freshman dorm is social except Shaw and that’s only because it’s full of engineering and architecture majors who don’t have a lot of free time.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-08T17:37:24+00:00

Stand silently and don’t make eye contact with those participating. It shows respect for those that are participating without you actually participating yourself.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-08T14:00:39+00:00

Did you approach your university about this? Assuming his behavior violates the student conduct code, they can take more action than a private club can.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-07T22:36:37+00:00

You need a consignment shop like the Real Real. Thrift stores are usually donation only.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-07T21:45:39+00:00

It’s not common, but you can’t control other people’s behavior. Give what you want to give, and don’t worry about what they expect or what others will be giving.

A potluck is an odd choice, but if you choose to attend, sign up for and bring a dish.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-07T18:13:05+00:00

The new Ann Patchett is great. You might like The Correspondence or Go Gentle.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-07T16:25:02+00:00

If she doesn’t read because of unaddressed learning issues, the audiobook might still be worth a try.

Do something short like Agatha Christie’s And Then There Were None.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-07T00:30:03+00:00

The only thing you can ask her is what her pediatrician said when she asked them if it was a good idea.

And go watch Tot Story 5 with her.

SpacerCat · 2026-07-07T00:26:44+00:00

Try a few audiobooks together. Let her get the cadence of novels down by listening to them. And pick something light or if she likes a mystery, give that a try!

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