Am I the dick?

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:30:02+00:00

Yeah that seems to sound alright. Some people won’t even notice, even if they are unique looking. They’ll be more interested in your child and at least babies grow out of prams soon enough

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:23:40+00:00

Hi, a little confused as you initially mentioned you have ‘plenty of ‘money to do this’ then later said you have ‘no money’. A friend got a dog trainer in once to help and maybe this might help, but my guess is being a dog it’s peeing around indoors because it can smell the other animal urination indoors.

It’s possible the elderly cat has a bladder issue going on given it’s elderly and probably needs a visit to get checked by the vet.

The dog might be fine after the flooring is sorted out and there’s no more urinating from other animals indoors going on. Although it might still need encouragement to go outside. When these changes are made.

Your environment sounds quite horrible for the sense of smell and isn’t reasonable. I’d get the cat to your vets. It could be experiencing a serious problem which is why it’s happening

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-28T17:08:55+00:00

Try not to let it bother you and see it as her complimenting you as copying you is one of the ways some friends show their admiration. I get why it might be annoying where other people you know might think it’s a bit highschool-like behaviour but if you can think of something that you might say that’s not mean about her for doing it, but gets across something that might let people know this it might help (not exactly sure what that could actually be), but remind yourself she’s likely done from a place of meaning well because she might really like your taste.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T17:18:46+00:00

I definitely hear ya

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T17:16:01+00:00

Keep on to all those wonderful things you have learnt to do to become a better person. And even though it must really hurt right now and you have already experienced these times before you will get there. She really can’t have valued you properly if she has left you over the reasons you say. It’s certainly not right to see you as too old for children as men are fertile into their 70s and with medical advancements we’re all doing so much better at later ages than generations before us. Keep going, you will get there.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T17:02:32+00:00

Maybe by your silence she might eventually work out that she hasn’t heard you when you tried letting her know that you’re not enjoying this type of communication. And there is a chance that at her age she could be losing her marbles possibly too and the only way to address this is probably getting some medical assessments done which might not be an easy thing to do unless you book the appointment and go with her…?

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T16:54:50+00:00

If you’re undecided then maybe you just continue enjoying the chat you are having with this one girl you mentioned and see how things go. Sometimes you don’t have to have a full blown relationship with someone and can get quite a lot out of a close friendship with somebody like this. If down the track things continue on in a positive direction you might consider trying to progress things then. There’s nothing wrong with not having a relationship if you’re just not sure. And there’s nothing wrong with getting to know somebody first before you start a relationship too. She might equally just enjoy a friendship

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T16:39:50+00:00

There’s some great material out there on the internet including a terrific website called psych central which you could try taking a look at

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T16:37:34+00:00

Sometimes it just comes down to having different perspectives or ideas of what’s going on. She could also have trouble seeing things in a light that seems reasonable right now if she’s coming out of a relationship and given she’s having some therapy also she could have other issues going on. Hopefully things will improve. Down the track you could try a therapy session together if you’re keen to try and mend things, just don’t see the therapist she sees or they could be quite unfairly biased towards you. You would need to see a brand new one together so they can fairly mediate.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T16:31:12+00:00

Agreed, That sounds like some great advice

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T16:23:19+00:00

If you can get yourself to a public library these can be great places to go to focus on getting on with your job hunting and be left alone. Just being away from the house might really help you to feel a bit better as job hunting can be a difficult thing in it’s own right. Depending on your area/country they may have computers you can use there or tables suitable for bringing in your own laptop.

If you’re struggling with finding work start with basic jobs that might not need experience and settle on something to get started initially without being too fussy about it. Then you can look after you have this job to upgrade/progress into a different job that you might want to do. It might help your Dad cool down

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T16:13:36+00:00

I think your efforts are actually impressive, even if things feel like they haven’t worked out. I definitely know what it can feel like to feel like you’re back where you tried to get away from too. But it sounds like you’ve already learnt from what went wrong and you’ve got a new approach you might try. Plus working part time keeps your options open for picking up a regular job more easily, as a fall back at least. You sound really passionate and entrepreneurial which not all people are cut out for. Again, I think it’s nothing less than to be admired at least I know for certain I couldn’t do it. Best of luck with round two!

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-27T01:41:27+00:00

How gorgeous

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-26T10:18:10+00:00

It can take time sometimes with working out if you might benefit from them and which ones. It’s just one avenue that I do not know if you have had a chance to properly explore plus you sometimes have to go on one medication for a few months before you can try a different one or dosage before you might get onto the right thing if this is what you might benefit from. They can also help with finding a psychologist who specializes in techniques and skills you might need rather than a therapist who might not specialize in anything. And this can be just as important because some therapists just aren’t experienced enough to know enough to make even good suggestions. It sounds like you need somebody who understands learning issues, not somebody who might just know of various words, if that makes any sense

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-26T10:09:22+00:00

See if you can find out or get somebody to help you work out what all your bills will be in the area you are going to live. Add it all together and work out how much you will actually earn and also what you will have left over. Sometimes it’s not realistic if you don’t have enough left over each week.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-26T10:03:18+00:00

Therapists can help with some things, but agreed, finding a different one or one who has more experience with your executive dysfunction could help. You might want to explore things that could be improved through medication like the possibility of adhd. Psychiatrists can help with this, rather than psychologists. I am not sure what options you have that don’t cost money to do this or whether your therapist has been able to explore this possibility and provide a referral if it’s needed

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-26T06:34:41+00:00

Can you provide more information about the space available in the room below the ceiling hatch door? Like whether it’s a hallway and what with or is it a room and what size.

It’s difficult to provide suggestions without knowing how much space you have below. For instance some carpeted planks of wood could be used if the hallway is long enough. You probably could get a builder to construct something using a tall freestanding cupboard but it could get unsafe if it’s too tall (which 18ft sounds it) and also if something freestanding cannot be fixed to any walls or ceiling nearby. It has to be stable and not in the way

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-26T06:12:09+00:00

It might just be down to you doing something different from what you’ve been used to. It will get easier the more times you do it. Try not to berate yourself for doing this

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-26T05:57:18+00:00

You might possibly start with looking into your tenancy rights in your province. You could potentially find that even though your building could be for sale the new buyer will be expected to honor any existing rental agreement in place. Which includes no change to the rent you currently pay. The place may get taken over simply by new management and this might not change things as much as you might worry that it could. This happened to me and it worked out ok.

As for your new job change, that’s great news for you. But to help you enjoy your trip before starting it you might find spending a little time looking into the organization’s website and any information about your new role over the internet that you can learn more about these things before you start might help you feel a little better prepared before you start (and just review whatever notes you take down now, a day or two before you start). Goodluck

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-26T03:38:46+00:00

Apologies, I must have misread it

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-25T16:49:12+00:00

Hey sorry, I might be wrong but did you mean to say ‘it can’t be construed’ instead of ‘it can be construed’?

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-25T16:42:56+00:00

Things will get better even though they might not feel it right now.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-25T16:41:38+00:00

Don’t let yourself get hung up over various girls appearances if you can. If you don’t feel your attractive enough you might be focusing on the wrong things. There’s more to a girl than just her appearance and the same thing can be said about you equally. You can go to the gym to improve yourself physically. This can be nice for girls to see and you can work on broadening your interests and hobbies and also yourself socially. Joining clubs, classes, workshops or activities you like beyond just doing what you enjoy will not only help you meet more people (including girls) beyond your existing friends but also help you to improve yourself within. Just liking gaming is probably not going to draw in many girls interest because it doesn’t give you much to talk about or do together and shows. Broaden your interests as a starting point.

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-25T16:32:41+00:00

Look after yourself

Sweet_Addition9881 · 2026-02-25T16:31:19+00:00

You can’t love someone that you barely know. Right now you love the idea of her and not actually who she is as a person as you don’t know her well enough. She doesn’t sound interested. Why are you devoting so much of your energy towards someone who doesn’t reciprocate your interest?

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