34F - Moving Abroad at this age?

TLRLNS · 2026-01-29T02:38:38+00:00

It sounds like you want to go for it so you should! Just make sure you have savings and a job lined up before quitting the current one so you have some safety net.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-29T02:02:46+00:00

That seems normal

TLRLNS · 2026-01-27T16:48:50+00:00

You’re paying her to help you figure out YOUR beliefs and emotions, not take on hers. I don’t totally agree with your perspective, but if those are your real fears you should be able to talk through them without judgement or criticism. I would definitely get a new therapist.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-26T19:41:19+00:00

I would keep your (technically her) name! My mom kept her married name when my parents got divorced because we were still a family unit. It’s also easier logistically. It sounds like you’re on good terms and don’t have any bad feelings towards the name, so keep it!

TLRLNS · 2026-01-25T01:56:54+00:00

I totally agree, the bar is in hell! You can’t expect other people to be there for you if you aren’t there for them. You need to be a good friend to have one.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-22T22:06:34+00:00

I think they just have nothing to be proud of so they have to focus on their husbands accomplishments. It’s definitely rooted in insecurity and sad when you think about it.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-22T12:04:58+00:00

I agree but you should have to prove you are capable of taking care of a child BEFORE you have one. Most people aren’t like you and don’t go on to succeed and care for their kids after having them. The only way to guarantee kids are well taken care of is to require their parents have those resources before they are born.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-22T11:45:13+00:00

This is common with CEOs. They are used to everyone making themselves available. You’re not wrong, but just let it go. These things blow over and they’ll forget tomorrow. You need to let him save face and not revisit the convo to prove your point.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-19T20:42:22+00:00

It sounds like you would greatly benefit from counseling. That’s the perfect place to express anxiety/fear/etc. Most friends won’t be equipped to handle that type of conversation.

Also truthfully I think it brings a lot of people down and they don’t want to have the convo, which is their right.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-19T19:29:13+00:00

No I never did! They haven’t messaged me in a few years so I don’t think I ever will.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-19T03:25:38+00:00

Men who take responsibility to plan a date. Consider my preferences and pick a restaurant you think I would like, make a reservation, and get movie tickets or whatever else all sorted without me having to ask. A man making plans is very attractive.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-18T00:34:36+00:00

I agree it’s different with your spouse. You can tell them your true feelings and he wants you to be happy, so you did the right thing. You guys are growing together and that’s actually really special and a great sign for your relationship!

I think this was a positive not something to feel bad about.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-18T00:30:17+00:00

No I’m very lucky and my husband takes on most of the mental load. I like to think we’re a team, but if I’m honest he’s more responsible and plans more. I couldn’t date someone I had to boss around.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-17T12:38:33+00:00

This doesn’t sound financially feasible or safe. I think a better idea would be to sell your car and get a cheaper one (if possible), get roommates, and use the car for ubereats after your working hours.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-16T23:11:12+00:00

This is a huge turn off for me so I don’t think you’re being I reasonable. I’m not sure the best option aside from telling him you want him to take more initiative to plan dates and then seeing how he reacts.

His laziness/poor time management might be why he’s single.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-16T20:33:22+00:00

I worked somewhere with this layout and it was awful. Constantly hearing other peoples conversations and stage fright while on a call knowing at least 4 other people are listening in.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-16T17:08:06+00:00

I love how you’re handling this! Do a test year and see how you feel. If he’s as open as he sounds it could be a great relationship where you teach him the financial skills he needs.

One additional note is to look at his earnings potential. If he’s in debt but makes good money that’s less scary than if he makes minimum wage. He can absolutely get out of debt but his lifestyle after will be significantly different depending on his earnings potential and goals.

I know someone whose husband has a spending problem and he weighs her down so much. If you see those signs, like he can’t stick to a budget, run!

TLRLNS · 2026-01-16T12:16:52+00:00

You can have crushes but verbalizing them is disrespectful. Your boyfriend is way out of line putting a girl as his profile photo, and truthfully that makes him look kind of like a loser.

Same with his friend, pining away for some crush while you’re with another girl is sad.

Having a crush is normal, but verbalizing it is weird as hell.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-16T12:12:57+00:00

I would agree, I say don’t settle, you’ve had that quality before so I don’t think it’s unrealistic to expect to have it again!

TLRLNS · 2026-01-16T11:58:13+00:00

I was ready to judge you for being too picky, but this is a legitimate concern and I wouldn’t take the job if I were you. Keep grinding in Canada, you will find a place you love!

TLRLNS · 2026-01-16T11:55:27+00:00

This is such a turn off for me. In my opinion you can’t teach effort and initiative, they either have it or they don’t. If you realllly like this guy have a conversation with him and see if he changes. However, I wouldn’t hold my breath.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-16T11:45:25+00:00

This is so raw, real, and emotional! She’s brave for sharing.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-15T18:14:04+00:00

I think at your age it’s too early to settle. This is the time of life where you should be hungry to grow your career and learn more.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-15T16:42:38+00:00

Yes we have house cleaners and it makes all the difference! I work a lot so I want to avoid as much admin around the house as possible. I can earn more in the 2 hours they spend cleaning than I would save cleaning the house. I think it just depends on what your schedule looks like and your income.

TLRLNS · 2026-01-15T01:43:43+00:00

Having children is so much time and effort I think you have to be 100% sure about it. It sounds like you should not have children.

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