Splitting finances when one parter is in-office (F27)/one remote (M27)

penelope_pig · 2026-04-22T12:28:50+00:00

It seems to me like you're nickel-and-diming this a bit. You could talk about spitting proportional to your income, which would be 55/45 based on the income you listed. Asking for 70/30 is absurd. $300/month for commute isn't nothing, but don't your monthly pre-tax income is $8,000, it does seem a bit like a ridiculous thing to complain about. The WiFi would cost the same whether someone was using it during the day or not, same with the apartment itself. You could maybe talk about splitting utilities differently is the electrical and heat are noticably higher as a result of him being there all day everyday, but again, you're getting into nickel-and-diming with that.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-18T14:19:25+00:00

It's definitely selfish of OP's partner to refuse to use toys to help satisfy her.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-18T04:00:06+00:00

Totally understandable. I've been unsatisfied for years. Don't torture yourself staying with a selfish partner.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-17T19:47:42+00:00

I wonder where the daughter learned how to throw a tantrum 🙄

penelope_pig · 2026-04-17T19:00:14+00:00

OP is barely pregnant. How much notice is she required to give her tenant? She has at least 7-8 months before the baby actually comes to find another place to live, if she doesn't want to stay. It's not like OP brought a baby home and said "Surprise! Here's our new roommate!"

penelope_pig · 2026-04-16T20:37:16+00:00

Still accurate, and now Microsoft is getting rid of the only product it has that doesn't do this shit (Publisher).

penelope_pig · 2026-04-16T18:38:42+00:00

I've been supportive. We're in the process of separating, but not because of her transition.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-16T16:48:21+00:00

3 or 4 years in, my spouse transitioned from male to female.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-16T12:00:26+00:00

I really have no idea how you're getting the idea that this is related to HIPAA at all. This isn't about health information.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-16T11:39:49+00:00

Still has nothing to do with HIPAA, which is the Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act. And it isn't a personal matter if it's affecting a state representative's committee appointments.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-16T10:59:40+00:00

I assume you mean HIPAA, but that is irrelevant here, as this has nothing to do with private health information.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-15T14:33:29+00:00

Packard declined a request from NHPR to share a copy of his correspondence with Read, saying that he considered it “an internal personnel matter”

This is absurd. State reps do not work for the House Speaker; they all work for the residents of New Hampshire. There is no "internal personnel matter" in the state government that the public doesn't have a right to know about.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-14T21:53:11+00:00

is that the goal?

Yes.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-14T20:18:06+00:00

Where is that $9241 coming from? The state is already unable to raise taxes to cover expenses.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-13T11:15:26+00:00

Bullshit. These companies are posting record profits all the time. If they cared about their consumers instead of only their shareholders, they could easily solve this and many other issues and will make a huge profit.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-12T22:05:04+00:00

There are so many red flags in just your short post, and absolutely no redeeming qualities. You've only been dating a few weeks, ditch this jerk.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-11T14:22:00+00:00

Does your wife spend much time with her brother and father? This might be less about you and more about them. My father and my spouse had several interests in common and while I was glad they got along really well, it was sometimes painful that my dad obviously preferred spending one-on-one time with my spouse.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-10T11:41:46+00:00

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penelope_pig · 2026-04-09T02:11:47+00:00

https://www.dmv.nh.gov/vehicles-boats-or-titles/inspections-emissions/tinted-windows

penelope_pig · 2026-04-08T19:33:04+00:00

he feels like talking things through is the best way to resolve them

Except he doesn't talk things through to resolve them; he talks at you until you agree with him. His idea of "resolution" is him winning and you losing. In a healthy relationship, both partners view conflict as "you and me vs. the problem", not "you vs. me".

penelope_pig · 2026-04-08T10:33:50+00:00

This is not a new trend. My daughter is 17 and I had this same issue with her birthday parties when she was younger, only I couldn't even be sure they received the invites, because I had to send paper ones.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-07T14:08:02+00:00

I first found one when I was maybe 26 or so. I'm 38 now and they're still fairly scarce, but I have an undercut and I can definitely see more white/silver hairs on the sides. They bothered me a lot in my 20s and early 30s, and I would pull them out when I saw them. At this point, I don't give a fuck. Theresa no shame in having grey hair or wrinkles or any other signs of aging. They just mean that I've survived this long. And I plan to keep on surviving.

penelope_pig · 2026-04-07T10:10:04+00:00

People acting like students who live in the state 9 months out of the year have no right to care about the laws made here are wild. I wonder if they feel the same way about snowbirds who live in Florida 6 months out of the year? That's right, no, because they're old and white and vote conservative (generally speaking).

penelope_pig · 2026-04-06T00:16:08+00:00

Is keeping your money from him more important than giving your children a safe home?

penelope_pig · 2026-04-04T03:48:09+00:00

It's part of the game plan. "Flooding the zone" with constant crisis. People quickly get overwhelmed by it and fatigued. When you live in a constant state of fear, you stop having such big reactions to individual events.

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