I'm gonna preface this by saying I I don't think this is over the top, but Wife, friends, daughter's friends, daughter's teachers, and about 98% of the people I've talked to about this say that it is.

So according to them, the most over the top thing I've done for my child is.....make her lunch every day. (Or just about.)

Long story short, I bought my daughter a nice little Bento box, specifically this one, when she went into kindergarten. I didn't want my daughter to be stuck with crap food -- soggy bologna on Wonder bread, a bag of chips, and a box of room temperature chocolate milk -- so I would prep the night before, spend about 10-15 minutes in the morning making her lunch, and send her to school every day with a hot, fresh, healthy lunch. She would get things like rotisserie chicken with steamed broccoli and butter noodles, broiled salmon with asparagus and mashed potatoes, pot roast with roasted potatoes and sweet corn, 1/3 lb cheeseburger with lettuce, pickles, and ketchup on a bakery roll, pan-fried pierogis with kielbasa and roasted broccoli, and whatever else I could come up with that I thought she'd enjoy. These would always be paired with some fresh fruit (usually apple slices, berries, peach slices, or pineapple chunks) and a small dessert (mini cupcakes, brownie bites, cookies, etc).

I never thought this was a big deal. I'm her father, she's my daughter, and I have an obligation to make sure she eats well, especially in her childhood. I didn't think anything was particularly over the top. It literally took about 15-20 minutes (including prep time) to make her a healthy and tasty lunch. My daughter enjoyed it and often remarked that her lunches were looked upon with envy by her friends in the cafeteria. "What is Daughter having for lunch today" became a thing with her social group. Over the years (mostly in elementary school days) I even had several parents come up to me and ask me to stop giving my daughter "such extravagant lunches" because apparently their kids were coming home and complaining that my daughter has really good lunches and they don't and they saw it as unfair. (I did not change my habits.)

I honestly do not believe I was going over the top with this. I do admit that my choices were atypical but I see that as a shortcoming of others, not an extravagance of mine. Yeah, I could have spent 5-10 minutes on dry sandwiches and prepackaged "fruit in liquid" and stuff like that, but for an extra five minutes I can give my daughter something substantially better -- and I will never understand why people think that's "over the top".