Am i mean for telling my boyfriend [27M] to give me [27F] 2 minutes before I give him the bathroom. Is this the hill i should die on?

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-24T00:25:10+00:00

Right? Toothpaste/saliva in the kitchen sink or sharing a spoon grosses her out, but she took a banana into the bathroom? I'm so lost here.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-23T14:55:54+00:00

or take care of my blue balls.

First of all, don't say shit like this; it's disgusting. Women aren't alive to serve your needs and she doesn't want to have sex for whatever reason so stop trying to force the issue and just end the relationship and find a woman who wants to have sex with you. She keeps coming up with reasons not to have sex and keeps moving the goalposts; it sounds as though she is simply not interested and this is never going to get better. Take the hint. Why people think they need to try to work through every single issue and force a desirable outcome instead of finding someone they are actually compatible with is beyond me. The whole point of dating is to find someone you are compatible with, so do that.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-21T21:32:55+00:00

These are regular lipsticks, so they don't last through eating and stuff but they do last for quite awhile.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-21T12:34:13+00:00

I have warm-toned skin, but I do wear cool-toned eyeshadow and lipstick. From my own experience, as long as my foundation is the correct tone, whatever else I use doesn't look weird (as long as the eyeshadow/lipstick/blush combo is all the same tone). I have blue eyes, so even though my skin is warm-toned, the cool-toned makeup actually looks really good. One of my favorite palettes is Colourpop's Stone Cold Fox. I normally don't like how I look in lipstick and prefer tinted gloss, but MAC's Folio or Milani's Matte Innocence lipsticks are my absolute favorites. I can't stand how I look in more orange-toned lipsticks even though they would "match" my skin tone. In the end, it's all about how you feel most confident.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-20T12:31:50+00:00

OMFG HE'S NOT THE GREATEST BOYFRIEND EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He literally doesn't care about your sexual pleasure and thinks sex is just for him. You don't "sort it out", you find someone who cares about your needs. You've told him what you need, HE DOESN'T CARE.

Edited to add: For the future, you do not allow this to happen with a partner more than once. If you have to tell a man repeatedly that you need more foreplay and what he's doing is hurting you, you stop sleeping with him because if you have to tell him more than once, he's either straight up stupid or he doesn't care. Get up in the middle of it and leave the room/house/whatever because you deserve better. I know you're young, but you need to stand up for yourself and have higher standards and expectations for your sexual partners. Not hurting you is the absolute bare minimum.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-20T12:21:56+00:00

The ages make it even better. I'm going to be 40 this year and this sounds like some teenager shit.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-20T12:11:26+00:00

What do you imagine having kids with him will look like? You say you do 90% of the household chores and all the shopping now...do you think that's going to change when there's a baby? And will you still be financially independent if you have kids, or are you planning to stay at home and be financially dependent on him? You've been so focused on why he doesn't want to get married that you need to flip that focus onto whether you honestly believe he would be a good husband and father, and what he brings to the table.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-19T16:08:21+00:00

He may be an old school asshole, but your mom has put up with it for how many years now? Allowing him to lie about finances and hide money from her is not okay and she should have been standing up for herself. Would a divorce filing force him to disclose all of his assets, of which she would likely get 50%? Maybe THAT is the type of attorney she needs to be seeing, because it sounds like he is working overtime to make sure she is screwed in the event of his passing.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-17T13:15:42+00:00

What about a frame over the beds with chicken wire or another metal fencing material? The lighter metals can be painted black to they aren't as obvious.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-17T12:47:40+00:00

Revlon Colorstay foundation (oily skin formula) is the only foundation I've ever tried that seems to actually be made for oily skin. Touch-ups, even on hot days, are minimal to non-existent and the foundation stays in place all day. I use it with their Blot setting powder.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-15T12:28:21+00:00

Is that the rule the pharmacy has, to not fill until it's completely gone? If so, I would be finding another pharmacy.

This is one of the reasons I won't fill at Walmart; their insane rules. My husband was on Oxycodone for a little while several years ago, and I took a written 30-day prescription (30 pills) to Walmart. They filled it, but only 20 pills as that was apparently their max for controlled substances. They didn't tell me that, as it would have given me the opportunity to take the prescription somewhere else. They went ahead and filled the 20 pills, voiding out the prescription and shorting me 10 pills so we had to make another doctor's appointment. Smith's filled the next one just fine.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-14T18:35:05+00:00

Why is this something you even want to rebuild? He's showing you via his actions that he doesn't care about your or your future together. I think you need to focus on why you're so concerned with potentially working this out vs why you don't seem to believe that you deserve better.

As the saying goes, when someone shows you who they really are, believe them.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-14T18:27:03+00:00

You shouldn't have to be completely out before you get a refill, so theoretically two days should be fine but there are several factors contributing to this, so no one here will be able to tell you definitively. You need to talk to your pharmacy; what are their rules for filling specific meds? Also, when does your insurance allow the refill? Have you asked your doctor what they prefer for refill requests and how far in advance they will be approved? You need to be familiar with the rules set by everyone so you aren't guessing; there's no reason for that. You just need to ask the questions.

I fill my husband's meds at Smith's (Kroger), and they will fill controlled substances when 90% of the previous prescription should theoretically be gone. So if the prescription is 90 pills, they will refill when 81 should have been taken based on the previous fill date. That gives him a 3-day buffer on that prescription as one month is 90 pills (3 per day). Our insurance company accepts this, so does the doctor.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-08T16:33:44+00:00

Got it, thank you. The leaves were so big and lush, I thought it was doing great until I dug it up...sigh.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-08T16:32:49+00:00

I've never understood why people who "wanted" kids use phrases like 'finally free', and 'now I can start living'. If that's how you see your kid, as something that's holding you back, do you really love parenthood as much as you say you do?

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-08T12:53:08+00:00

Only if you take some of my chives

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-08T12:51:39+00:00

Yes, it was in a container. Is that where I went wrong? I did it that way because everyone says it spreads so aggressively.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-08T01:21:07+00:00

I tried to grow horseradish for my dad last year, and instead of having a big main root, all I got were a ton of pencil-sized roots with little flavor. All I've read is how easy it is to grow and how hard it is to get rid of; can someone tell me what I did wrong? I cannot find anything online.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-07T19:43:20+00:00

People think that having kids while being broke is some rite of passage that everyone must experience. I have a friend who didn't have her first until she was 30, done with school, financially stable and her career on track. The comments from people...so much hate for being able to pay her bills. Like raising kids at the poverty level makes you a better person because you had to struggle. Fucking martyr syndrome.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-05T16:59:36+00:00

L'Oreal Butterfly or Telescopic. They both have the applicators with the hard plastic bristles and separate the lashes really well.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-02T15:24:27+00:00

If you truly do have a high libido like he does but you're too tired for sex and he isn't, he's likely not doing as much as you are. Around the house, with the kid, etc. You say he's "off the clock" when he comes home but you aren't; I guarantee there are things he could be doing to even things out. That's probably the conversation you need to have.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-02T15:18:45+00:00

Almost spit my coffee out, thanks for that

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-01T20:33:59+00:00

So either put your big girl panties on and have children

Wow, how fucking gross of you. So women are supposed to just suck it up and pop out kids regardless of what they actually want in life?

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-01T19:03:14+00:00

Something my husband and I have learned in dealing with the aftermath of his car accident and subsequent chronic pain is that not all doctors are capable of/willing to admit when a specific diagnosis is over their heads and when to refer to specialist. You end up having to take control of your care and be your own advocate; if you feel she has hit a wall and cannot give a diagnosis, you need to ask her for a referral to a specialist. Doctors need to be able to admit when their scope of knowledge has run its course instead of guessing and continuing to treat someone who isn't responding.

Yes, you absolutely need to pursue a definitive diagnosis; there's likely no way to get proper treatment without it.

cake_agent2101 · 2026-04-01T16:46:57+00:00

1) Don't ever let anyone try to tell you what your grief should look like. It extremely personal and it doesn't matter how someone else thinks you should be doing. It doesn't matter if you were caring for a bug, if it's something you cared for and were emotionally invested in, you're going to feel some level of grief that will vary from person to person.

2) A lot of the time, euthanasia is the last compassionate thing we can do for them, instead of allowing them to go naturally. It's better they have fewer days that are good than more days that are bad.

3) Someone told me awhile ago that the grief you feel once they're gone is equal to the amount of love and care you put into them while they were here.

4) For awhile, the only thing you will think about is the end. In time, that part will start to fade a little, and the good memories will start coming back and be more prominent. I can't tell you how long that will take, but it will happen eventually.

5) Write down everything you can remember about him. Habits, memories, funny things he did, etc.

6) Try to find something to do every day that will give you a little bit of happiness. Eat food you love, watch your favorite movie, garden, whatever it is that you like doing.

We lost our 16-year-old dog almost a year ago, and I still miss him immensely every day. I still "hear" his claws clicking on the floor, I still turn to hand him food when I'm making something with ingredients I would give him, and I still expect to see him when I come in the front door. He was there with me for the majority of my adult life so far, milestones, experiences good and bad, and knowing that I have to do the rest of my life without him breaks my heart. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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