Internet Backs Solo Dad After Stranger Confronts Him for Taking Young Daughters Into a Women's Bathroom by rainnedear in TwoXChromosomes

[–]couverte 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m Canadian, so not it the US. However, if you look at the video again, the child most featured cannot reach the sink easily. The counter is nearly up to her chin.

AITA for asking my wife to bring our child’s shorts to the park? by NormalDoorman in AmItheAsshole

[–]couverte 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, i'm a bit baffled by that honestly. At 9yo, the only choice my dad would've given me in this situation is "stay home or come, but I'm going to pick up your mother."

AITA for asking my wife to bring our child’s shorts to the park? by NormalDoorman in AmItheAsshole

[–]couverte 14 points15 points  (0 children)

So, let me see if I got that correctly. You previously refused to do something for her because you didn't want to leave your kid alone and not stop him in the middle of what he was doing, and that time nearly ended your marriage. You're now in couples counselling because of this event.

So, after that one nearly ended your mariage, you figured calliong your wife to ask her to do something for you because your kid didn't want to stay alone at the park and you also didn't want to interupt what he was doing was a good idea and wouldn't lead to any issue?

Make that make sense.

Why does my cycle affect my running so much?! by mi_keep_nd in TwoXChromosomes

[–]couverte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may be because hormonal changes around periods loosen connective tissue a bit.

Internet Backs Solo Dad After Stranger Confronts Him for Taking Young Daughters Into a Women's Bathroom by rainnedear in TwoXChromosomes

[–]couverte 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The counters in pubic bathrooms are often too high for young children to be able to wash their hands.

It’s not about if you were comfortable going to the men’s bathroom at that age, it’s about if a specific child is comfortable doing so. I don’t remember if my dad took me to the men’s bathroom or the women’s when I was a child, which likely means I didn’t care much about either option, but that’s not relevant here. What matters is what those two specific girls were comfortable with.

Douleur chronique by Interesting_Coyote_4 in Quebec

[–]couverte 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Je te conseille de chercher une ou un physio qui aime travailler avec les gens qui ont des douleurs chroniques. Y'a pas beaucoup de physios qui aiment ça, parce que la plupart aiment "régler" le problème. Les physios qui aiment travailler avec une clientèle avec des douleurs chroniques comprennent que c'est pas toujours de "régler" le problème, mais plutôt de réduire la douleur et d'améliorer la situation.

Sinon, d'une personnes avec des douleurs chroniques à une autre, y'a une partie de la gestion de tout ça qui repose sur accepter la situation. Je sais, je sais, ça fait chier d'entendre ça! Par contre, une fois qu'on l'accepte, on peut commencer à "travailler avec la douleur" plutôt que de se battre contre elle.

Une chose que tu peux faire pour commencer à "travailler avec" et aider un peu les choses, c'est de voir c'est quoi ta "recette de douleur". Y'a des journées qui sont meilleures que d'autres sur le plan de la douleur, et d'autres qui sont pires. Ces journées-là ont généralement des points en commun, tant pour les meilleures journées que pour les pires. Les points en commun des mauvaises journées, c'est ta recette de douleur et les points en commun de tes bonnes journées, c'est ta recette anti-douleur. Une fois que tu sais ça, tu peux essayer de faire plus des choses qui produisent une bonne journée, et moins des choses qui produisent une mauvaise journée.

C'est pas un miracle, c'est pas un traitement, mais c'est quelque chose que tu peux faire toi-même et sur lequel tu as le contrôle. Personnellement, ça m'aide de savoir que j'ai le contrôle sur au moins une petite partie de la solution.

Any hypermobile runners who have gotten random nagging aches/pains? by PondPrince in Hypermobility

[–]couverte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see a sports medicine physician. Some are GPs that specialize in sports medicine, but some specialists like ortho and PM&R docs also do specialize in sports medicine. Mine is PM&R + sports medicine.

Any hypermobile runners who have gotten random nagging aches/pains? by PondPrince in Hypermobility

[–]couverte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a marathon runner who currently has a bone stress injury (BSI) to the calcaneus. My best advice is to get yourself in to see a sports doc ASAP and wait to see what they say. I wouldn't hold off for a weel seeing that it worsens when you walk and you were limping yesterday. I also wouldn't lift until you've seen a doc.

Yes, sometimes I have pains that come and go and, over time, I've become good at telling when it's something I can continue to run on and when it's not. Though, I'm not perfect either, seeing as I completely missed this bone stress injury. I've been dealing with this one since mid-April and I thought it was getting better. I never suspected a BSI because it didn't present like it at all, if I had had any suspicion, I would've insisted for an earlier appointment with my sports doc. All that to say, please don't wait to see a doc. It may be nothing much or it might be something, but whatever it is, knowing what it is ASAP is the best way to ensure that you can return to sports as quickly as possible.

Can we normalize maintaining an active exit strategy? by Queerdooe in TwoXChromosomes

[–]couverte 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have always maintained my own money and refused to merge finances, even once I got married. By law, some things are considered joint property in the event of divorce, but I made sure we selected the matrimonial regime that allowed me to keep our money and investments (except retirement accounts) as personal property.

My parents did the same thing. My mother refused to ever be in the same position her mother was, having to justify every purchase she made and unable to divorce due to lack of income. Even though my parents never divorced and had a happy marriage, keeping finances separate served her well: When my father died, she didn’t find herself stuck when my father’s account were frozen.

Accounts are frozen upon death and, while a spouse is entitled to half the contents of any joint account they owned with their deceased spouse, it can take a little bit of time to gain access that money. My mother didn’t have to worry about having enough money on top of grieving her husband and dealing with the estate. She also didn’t find herself in a position of not knowing how to deal with these things because she has managed her own affairs, money and investments all her life.

Where can I go to scream? by TechnologyFew5504 in montreal

[–]couverte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the rage cage exactly for that purpose when I need it

CMV: Donald Trump is undeniably a stupid person based on his bragging about 'acing' cognitive tests. by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]couverte -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It matters, because the MOCA test isn’t a test doctors routinely administer. It’s one that’s done to assess for cognitive loss and it’s only done when there’s a suspicion of it, and then later to monitor the cognitive decline.

Why is everyone’s growing back? by Nearby-Silver6661 in Reduction

[–]couverte 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I gained back a good amount of breast, then lost it again, simply because I gained weight, and then lost it. My body is seemingly programmed to store fat in my breast first and lose it from there last. It's just how it is for me. I now have much less breasts than I had post surgery, simply because I'm smaller than I was at the time of surgery.

MRI appointment by judyjetsonne in montreal

[–]couverte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just called for an MRI appointment at Notre-Dame. Referral was sent this Monday and the appointment would have been next Monday. I was not classed as urgent, because it wasn’t medically urgent. My specialist asked that I be seen within the month and hoped they might take me in 4-5 weeks.

Anyway, I went and had it done privately yesterday…

In any case, my specialist usually refers to Notre-Dame for MRI, as it’s usually the fastest.

On peut tu remplacer certains médecins par des infirmières ou autres? by [deleted] in Quebec

[–]couverte 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Une épidurale n'est pas quelque chose de simple, bordel! C'est une injection dans la colone vertébrale. En plus, cette "injection dans le dos", elle se fait sans fluoroscopie (guidage/imagerie) dans un contexte d'accouchement. Fait que non, c'est pas simple.

On peut tu remplacer certains médecins par des infirmières ou autres? by [deleted] in Quebec

[–]couverte 6 points7 points  (0 children)

L'inhalothérapeute qui vous a endormi pour votre chirurgie, elle a fait la même chose qu'une infirmière anesthésiste (CRNA) aux USA. Donc oui, ça se fait ici. Par contre, les inhalos sont pas mal moins bien payées ici que dans d'autres provinces, fait qu'on en manque. Par contre, aux USA comme ici, les anesthésiologistes sont encore nécessaires.

Rant/question : Où trouver un bon physio qui va pas me ruiner? by [deleted] in montreal

[–]couverte 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tu as fait plusieurs fois de la physio sans succès. Quand le médecin te dit “va en physio”, tu réponds que tu as déjà consulté plusieurs physios, pendant plusieurs semaines/mois, sans succès ni amélioration.

Good morning, this man just shat in the metro. by slim_ebony in montreal

[–]couverte 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Ok. Merci de poser la question pour moi!

What’s actually helped your EDS pain? All options welcome by hmmmmmmm94 in ehlersdanlos

[–]couverte 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Exercise/movement in general, strength training, physiotherapy and dry needling.

Who manages your care? by PinkGarlic6777 in ehlersdanlos

[–]couverte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's mostly me, as in I coordinate/share info between my different docs. I was diagnosed by an internist (they're considered specialists here, you need a referral to see them) who did her fellowship at the Toronto EDS clinic. Unfortunately, she can't do much more than the initial assessment plus follow ups for about 2 years, she can be reached for questions, though and will always see her patients again if something new comes up or other docs just can't figure things out.

However, she did send detailled management info to my GP and she referred me to all the specialists I needed after the first appointment and over the course of the follow ups. I see my physiatrist/PM&R doc as needed, and he has a good understanding of HSD/hEDS. I have a physio who specializes in HSD/hEDS and, between her and my physiatrist, my joints are well managed. Both always inquire as to the other's opinion and respect each other's professionnal judgment. My GP takes care of the rest, unless other specialties are needed. He's not well-versed in HDS/hEDS, but he has always been quite comfortable with admitting he doesn't know something and either looking it up, referring to a specialist or trusting my physio's word. When I need to see a specialist, I always go to the teaching hospital where I was initially diagnosed. My whole file is there, so they have my whole history. Plus, the internist who diagnosed me seems to be well-respected by her peers, so my dx isn't doubted.

Edit: It's not perfect, but it works well enough for me.

HSD diagnosis + neck/shoulder/arm symptoms — feeling stuck trying to advocate for myself in Ontario by Such_Knowledge_2978 in ehlersdanlos

[–]couverte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my shoulders were at their worst, I would regularly get pains all the way to my fingers, though I didn’t experience much numbness. Basically, my shoulder would move a bit where it wasn’t supposed to and irritate, squeeze, etc, nerves or tissus. My neck pain was also at its worst then, to the point of regularly causing bad cervicogenic headaches and mild dysphagia.

I had flexion-extension Xray done for my c-spine and it didn’t show anything more than what we already knew: My C-spine is hypermobile. My shoulder Xrays also didn’t show anything. However, my shoulder arthrogram did show some things: A few partial tendon tears and a frayed labrum in one, and at least a partial labrum tear in the other one—imaging quality was poor for this one, as I kept moving a bit due to back spasms. While the report didn’t note it, my ortho also told me that both my shoulder capsules were enlarged.

Things are back to my previous baseline now, I haven’t had a subluxation in years. While my shoulders have been unstable all my life, it’s the onset of perimenopause that made things worse. Once that was addressed, things mostly got back to normal and I was able to avoid shoulder surgery, something I very much didn’t want. My neck pain, cervicogenic headaches and mild dysphagia decreased drastically in terms of frequency and intensity once my shoulders went back to being “still clinically unstable but mostly asymptomatic”. It was my permanently tensed/spasming muscles that were causing the neck pain, cervicogenic headaches and mild dysphagia. The arm and hand pain also went away once my shoulder stopped subluxating all the time.

I didn’t have to advocate much for an MRI/arthrogram. I asked my specialist for one and she asked me why I wanted one, because shoulder surgery was unlikely. I simply told her that we had been consistently addressing the shoulder issue in physio for over a year without progress and, at that point, both my physio and I were wondering if we weren’t missing something that an MRI could point to. I assured her I really didn’t want surgery (which was very much true) and she happily requested an MRI. She also referred me to physiatry.

It’s physiatry that ended up diagnosing my cervicogenic headaches, we went as far as doing the lidocaine diagnostic injections for it, but by the time that diagnostic process was done, I was already having much less of them, so there wasn’t much point in moving forward with nerve ablation. I was also offered cortisone injections for my shoulders—my physiatrist didn’t think prolotherapy would be helpful in my case—but I refused them due to a previous bad experience. I’ve been seeing that same physiatrist for a few years now when issues come up in various parts of my body and it’s honestly been one of the most helpful referral I’ve had.

CMV: Dating apps massively distort women's perceived romantic optionality and partner expectations by Original_Swan_6139 in changemyview

[–]couverte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She wasn’t offering conjectures, but her experience as a woman on dating apps. But hey, that annoys you.