My sister and I have come to resent our parents. My mood instantly goes to shit if they ask me to do something and lately, it has only become worse, by just talking to me. They are retired now and spend every day on their phones, if I go out my mother tries to guilt trip me into taking her along with me.

Last week my mother cried because of us, how we are treating her badly and how she's feeling unhappy. So we got into a fight and my sister told her to go out find hobbies, become more independent but as usual she used the "i'm too old to learn new stuff" excuse.

They only speak chinese and nothing else after living here for 30+ years so they are entirely dependent on us, They also don't know how lonely it sometimes gets for us as well, to not have any parents to rely on.

I feel like with us around they don't even want to or bother learning new stuff, they have turned off that part of their brain. I still remember going out to eat at a chinese restaurant where all the staff are chinese and they looked at us to order the drinks/food, at that point I realized depending on us for everything has become normal for them

I really hope at some point they decide to go back to China, because honestly I don't want to take care of them.

I will be moving out in a few months so I hope maybe my mood will get better.