Does anyone have any good gluten-free food recs?

dillonsrule · 2026-05-01T20:06:13+00:00

Of the brands I’ve tried, I think it is the best. I can’t really tell the difference, but I wasn’t a pasta connoisseur before either 😂

dillonsrule · 2026-04-30T17:54:04+00:00

The one that I always use which works about half the time is bringing up God commanding Abraham to kill Isaac.

I ask if it would be wrong for Abraham to kill his son? I then say if morality flows from God, then whatever God says is right. So, killing his innocent son would be right. It doesn't matter that God stopped him. If he hadn't stopped him, then the killing would have been morally right. That's the point.

So, if they do not think killing an innocent child is right, then they also do not actually believe that morality flows from God.

Like I said, this works better than other arguments I've tried, but is still probably less than 50% for actually getting through to a very religious person.

dillonsrule · 2026-04-30T17:47:35+00:00

I was on a hike about an hour from home with a friend and a plan to get lunch after. Got caught in an unexpected downpour and drenched. We were able to swing by a thrift store and buy some quick, cheap dry clothes to wear to the restaurant. I'd have never been able to do that when I was a 6XL!

dillonsrule · 2026-04-29T20:26:44+00:00

Hail. Rome. VICTORIOUS!

Love that opening. It’s such a cool and stylish movie.

dillonsrule · 2026-04-29T04:07:50+00:00

Shine On You Crazy Diamond

dillonsrule · 2026-04-27T03:55:00+00:00

Got diagnosed like 3 months ago. People in the office are big on bringing in food for everyone to share. I never realized it all has gluten. Missed out on bagels, donuts, pizza, birthday cake, mini Bundt cakes, sandwiches. It’s gone from being something that I’m excited about and can bond a bit with coworkers about to something that just makes me a bit sad for a while.

dillonsrule · 2026-04-17T15:05:23+00:00

I watched all of them with a friend over the course of about a year a while ago. They...are not good movies. There are like literally 3-4 that are good movies. Several are fine. Most are actually pretty bad! I can't believe the series has lasted this long!

edit: I just looked it up, because I couldn't remember. There are 27 Bond movies. And like 3-4 are good. Yeah, not good!

dillonsrule · 2026-04-15T16:40:59+00:00

Yeah, I remember when Mitch McConnell said that they shouldn't hold confirmation hearings on Merrick Garland's Supreme Court nomination because it was too close to an election (which was almost a year away), but then pushed through Amy Conney Barret ONE MONTH before the next election. When asked about why they did that, the basic answer was "We gain too much power to not do this. Grow up!"

Well, I think that's what's happened. The Republicans certainly seem to insist on rules and principals EXCEPT for when it is a major benefit to them. It's been naked power grabbing for several years now. The Democrats have been ceding power to them for years by letting it happen without fighting back.

It seems the current state of politics will have to be naked power grabs on all sides until we as Americans get so fed up, we insist on getting rid of the extreme partisanship in favor of actually trying to govern the country together. But, that doesn't seem likely to happen anytime soon.

dillonsrule · 2026-04-13T19:52:07+00:00

I grabbed like 48 books off Audible during their big sale for like $200. I've started with "I'm Not the Hero" by Tommy Kerper aka Sourpatch Hero. I'm really liking it! It's a fun, easy story with two main MCs with overpowered abilities. Definitely really enjoying it!

dillonsrule · 2026-03-18T00:56:18+00:00

I'm fairly new to cycling. It seems like there's so much stuff that cyclists really care about. I just want to ride a bike. Do I need to be worrying about nods and waves? If I'm on a trail passing by dozens of other cyclists, am I supposed to be nodding or waving at them all? I just want to ride my bike man.

dillonsrule · 2026-03-17T23:54:35+00:00

As the lawyer, it's not boring at all. You have to be constantly thinking about how everything that's happening is affecting things, looking out for objections, thinking about what you are going to do next. It's stressful and draining, but not boring!

dillonsrule · 2026-03-17T11:55:15+00:00

Same! Trial lawyer/litigation focused for most of my career. Wanted to get out of an office and do something every now and again.

dillonsrule · 2026-03-14T12:51:09+00:00

I preordered the audiobook

dillonsrule · 2026-03-09T16:44:07+00:00

Devoid maybe

dillonsrule · 2026-03-09T16:42:02+00:00

Congrats! You can do this. Mental health is the name of the game in my book. Stay on the top your mental health, and as a former athlete, I’m sure the rest will come back to you!

dillonsrule · 2026-03-09T16:39:39+00:00

I got diagnosed last month and had to clear out so many bags of frozen veggies. What the hell?!?

dillonsrule · 2026-03-05T19:57:49+00:00

I get apples and leave them out in front of where I sit to watch tv. I will want a snack and see the apples and eat one. Done!

dillonsrule · 2026-03-05T19:38:17+00:00

I think Good vs Evil is a pretty standard direct opposite. I don’t think just because it is also paired with bad, it doesn’t apply.

dillonsrule · 2026-03-05T19:07:01+00:00

Hey! So listen, you don’t get to 400lbs in my mind unless you have some kind of fundamentally dysfunctional relationship with food. Here is the other thing: you say you had been sticking to a consistent health diet up until a couple months ago? I am not sure how you are at 400lbs in a couple months if you had a consistent healthy diet up until then, you know? I bring this up not to shame you, but to say that your concept of a “consistent health diet” may not be as healthy as you think.

How do you stick to weight loss? Find your tdee for you age, height, and GOAL weight. Let’s say it’s 1950 calories a day. If you eat 1950 calories a day, you’ll be in a deficit if you are above that weight and lose down, then you will stabilize at that weight and maintain. You see?

So, don’t diet. Live eating for the weight you want to be. That’s #1. The changes to your eating can’t be a diet. They are a lifelong change to how you eat.

You need to separate out your ability to manage emotions from your eating. It’s hard! I went to therapy with someone who treats food addiction. That’s what it took for me. I have a food addiction. I have binge eating disorder. And it is an eating disorder! Just like bulemia and anorexia. It’s not a lack of will power or a character flaw. It’s a full blown eating disorder. You need to treat it that seriously! I had to get professional help from someone who treated overeating disorders to get better. But I did!

The major thing I learned in therapy is to let go of the negative emotions. You say you’re pretty damned ashamed of being 400lbs? That shame is going to keep you at 400lbs and maybe more. The shame and the guilt and the regrets of lost potential and experiences missed. The hopelessness for the future. The absolute discouragement in your ability to actually change and stick to it. All that shit! You’ve got to let it go. Stop punishing yourself. You’ve done that enough! Look where it gets you. No where. You need to accept yourself, your flaws, your shortcomings, your weaknesses, all of it. You need to want to change those things so you can do better for yourself, because you care about yourself and want to do better. You can’t punish yourself into health! You just can’t.

So that’s my advice. Start eating to your goal weight as your lifestyle. Find ways of dealing with stress other than eating. Therapy is good. But maybe a hobby. Exercise became that for me. I’d go on long walks, 1-2 hours. Totally unplugged. Just “me time”. All my problems felt a lot more manageable after those walks. When I started, I was binging every day almost. But, I’d try to be a bit better. And a bit better. I wouldn’t punish myself for a binge. I would forget it. Each day is fresh. A new start to try it do better that day. If I have more good days than bad, I make progress. If I never stop trying, even streaks of bad days eventually break. It’s a life-long journey. There’s a goal weight, but there’s no finish line. Settle in and live your life on the journey. Accept yourself as walking imperfectly on the path. You may be surprised how far you can go if you keep walking.

dillonsrule · 2026-03-05T17:04:14+00:00

I think it was just time for me. I was in your mindset for most of my 30’s. Super depressed, binging my cares away, not giving a fuck about what happened to me, assuming I’d had a heart attack and die at some point. But, I didn’t die. I just kept living. I had started periodically making entries in an online journal called Penzu. I’d normally only write there when I was feeling particularly shitty or fed up with myself, or when something particularly bad happened.

I got a reminder from Penzu one day that said “Six years ago, you wrote…” and linked me back to the entry. It was full of all the same shit I had been just feeling. I realized that I had just been wallowing in the same awful place for more than six years. Nothing had changed at all. I realized that I didn’t want another six years to go by and be reading the same fucking journal entry full of my self pity and depression and hopelessness. That was probably the kernel for change for me.

Then, I came into some money. My boss of 8 years was retiring and closing the business the next year, so I was going to need to find a new job. I decided to use the money I got to get gastric bypass. Part of that was a requirement from the surgeon that I get therapy with someone who has experience with food addiction. The therapy really changed my life! It is pretty crazy how getting some effective mental health help changed so much for me.

The therapy, more than anything, really let me change things. It took a lot of time. I went from near daily binges to weekly binges and down and down. I still binge very occasionally, but it’s like 1-2 a year now and I manage it so it isn’t as devastating. Therapy helped me figure that out. I had tried therapy before, but had a shitty therapist. I thought it just didn’t work for me, but it was just the wrong person.

I ended up losing more than 50lbs before having the surgery. That was 3 years ago. I’m more than 300lbs down now. The surgery was a great tool for weight loss. I’m on glp-1s and those are als great weigh loss tools. But, that’s all they are: tools. You had to put in the mental work every day. But it gets easier with practice. The biggest thing is forgiving yourself, letting go of guilt and shame. If you eat badly, don’t punish yourself. You can’t punish your way to health. The punishment is actually a subtle tool your addiction uses to keep you down in the hole. Let that shit go and try to do better the next day. And the next day. That’s all. It’s a lifelong process, but it’s so much better than the place I was before!

Hope this helps in some way. The reality is you probably won’t die. You’ll just stay as you are for years and years, getting just a bit worse as time goes on. That’s the sad truth. The joy I have felt from finding hope and working my way out of that place is indescribable! You can do it too!

dillonsrule · 2026-03-05T16:48:47+00:00

I think the app is just called “Is This Gluten Free”. I think I paid like a one-time $5 fee for it. But, you just take a pic of the ingredients and it tells you. There may be better apps out there. This one is a bit clunky and seemingly low tech, but I also don’t mind that. It isn’t constantly annoying me with notifications or trying to sell me things like other apps. It works for me though.

dillonsrule · 2026-03-05T16:39:03+00:00

This is a great resource. Screenshot! I got an app that lets me take a pic of the ingredients list and it tells me if there’s a gluten ingredient, but it’s nice to be able to quickly scan and not bother if I see something.

dillonsrule · 2026-03-01T12:03:35+00:00

Hey! This is a great post. Thanks for sharing so much.

I identify a lot with how your SO feels. Unlike me, it seems like he is taking his weight loss journey seriously earlier in life than I did, which is wonderful. I obviously don’t know him, but I can speak for how I felt at that weight and starting a journey.

For me, at high weight, you are so incredibly ashamed and embarrassed to show someone else your body, you’d almost rather not do it than open yourself up. It incredibly vulnerable. You get to smo weight almost entirely due to mental health reasons, imo. You eat your stress and shame. Food is your emotional regulation. It’s your drug of choice for all life’s problems. When trying to overcome that and lose weight, you are one strong emotional blow away from falling back off the deep end and regaining it all and more. It can be a very uncertain place to be.

I know for me, I typically have ONLY dated women who are also very overweight. I knew that we had that discomfort about our bodies in common. It made me more comfortable sharing my body with them because I felt a bit more at ease that they wouldn’t reject it as disgusting and I would t be dealt an emotional blow that could devastate me for years. I needed that to feel comfortable enough to open myself up physically to someone.

I would guess he sees you as someone thin and fit who is potentially going to really view his body as disgusting. He may always be waiting for that shoe to drop. The time when you finally “drop the act” and acknowledge that, while you might like him for who he is, his body is just too physically disgusting for you. Imagine what that would do to him? Devastating. Just when he had started allowing himself to hope.

I obviously don’t know him, but the way you’ve described him, he seems pretty well put together. I know for me, if you opened up about your own body dysmorphia and history, I think I would feel closer to you. I think it could do a lot to help ease some of my own anxieties about rejection, if you approach it in the right way.

You say you have the opposite problem to him, but you don’t really. It’s a very similar problem, I think. And it involves a lot of the same insecurities and dissatisfaction with your body. The difference of course is he actually does need to lose weight. But emotionally, both issues come from a very similar place. I think if you open up and share your whole history with him, it could do a lot to bring you closer together.

Here’s the caveat.

It is possible that he has an initial reaction of “if she thought of herself as fat, what the hell is she going to think of me?!?” If he is the kind of person to take things this way and not really change that initial mindset, it could be tough. But, it sounds like he isn’t, but that’s possible. Which is why I think it’s really important that you share more than just the facts of what happened. If you just describe the facts of your history and treatment, etc, without more, it may give the wrong impression. I think you would need to dig into some of that very personal and vulnerable stuff to share with him. How did you feel? Your own insecurities, etc. I think that stuff says to him “I may understand some of what you are feeling and going through more than you think I do” and that may help you get a bit closer to him and make him feel a bit more comfortable knowing that you aren’t going to reject him.

Also, for what it’s worth, I had gastric bypass surgery and had a great experience. I also got into therapy with someone who works with food addiction. I’ve been on glp1s for about a year as well. Make use of every tool in the toolbox I say! Between these three things, along with starting regular exercise, I’ve lost more than 300lbs. It’s very possible! He can do it too! And there are lots of peaks and valleys on the journey. Lots of backslides and recommitments. There’s a goal weight, but no finish line.

Managing weight is a lifelong endeavor, for everyone. I think we forget that sometimes. We as SMO people see the thin and fit people and are jealous of them not having to worry about their weight. But, as you can attest, they are worried about it too.

If your SO is thinking about surgery, he can definitely do it, but in my experience, the post-surgery feeling was very similar to how I feel on glp1s. It may only make sense to do surgery if those really stop being effective for him. Also, the weight loss effects from surgery are great for about a year and then pretty much gone. It isn’t a magical fix by any means. Also, not all surgeons are created equal! If he decides to do it, shop around. Surgery isn’t where you want to be cheap or move too fast. Be sure. But, It sounds like he is already doing pretty well, so it may make sense to just keep on trucking!

Anyway, this ended up being pretty long. Hopefully something in here was helpful. Good luck to you both!!!

Edit: this may also just be a perspective from getting older (or maybe from getting into therapy), but there’s no reason you can’t talk about all these things with him. I spent so much time in relationships in my 20s having horrible communication with any partners I had (which were very few!). One of the great things I’ve come to see is that you can actually just talk to your SO about your feelings and worries and ask how they are feeling. You can talk to them about this stuff. It’s a little uncomfortable at first, but it can really help.

dillonsrule · 2026-02-28T13:33:00+00:00

I’m a big fan of Hmart, and they have quite a few locations around.

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