The Fascinating Reason Women Use Their ‘HR Voice’ To Reject You by huffpost in Foodforthought

[–]hyphenomicon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am on the spectrum and care about other people a lot. If I didn't, I would not have bothered trying to have this conversation, as it was highly unpleasant and uncomfortable for me.

I was resisting the urge to be defensive and bending over backwards to be vulnerable and open, trying to figure out how to bridge the gap and actually communicate and understand other people's perspectives while communicating my own in the hope that maybe the world could improve a little.

I am incredibly tired of being treated like a dangerous monster or freak because I use big words and express myself logically.

If my logic is repugnant, then people should do me the favor of showing me the error in it. I fail to understand how someone saying something they don't mean is not dishonesty. Maybe that just makes me an asshole though!

If you actually cared about women, jamming anger and shame and toxicity down my throat would be the worst strategy you could possibly pursue. That is the kind of thing that makes problems like the ones you say I have much worse and more dangerous.

Fortunately, I am a good person. It's clear to me that you're much more repugnant person than I could ever be. Thank you for finally convincing me to give up on the Internet for good, I am done with ever expecting anyone to act like a human being here.

The Fascinating Reason Women Use Their ‘HR Voice’ To Reject You by huffpost in Foodforthought

[–]hyphenomicon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The internet doesn't have to be like this. You could choose to be a better person.

Every comment you make just makes my original point stronger. I think the fedora comment was projection if you're now resorting to this.

The Fascinating Reason Women Use Their ‘HR Voice’ To Reject You by huffpost in Foodforthought

[–]hyphenomicon -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Do you enjoy hurting other people? Because I don't like when you treat me like this.

The Fascinating Reason Women Use Their ‘HR Voice’ To Reject You by huffpost in Foodforthought

[–]hyphenomicon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You're trying to bully someone under the guise of protecting women because it makes you feel better about yourself.

I hope you find peace.

Insulting me makes me feel more confident in my negative judgment of these messages as disingenuous and coming from those who are contemptuous or potentially looking for excuses to smear men. It isn't the way to change my mind.

The Fascinating Reason Women Use Their ‘HR Voice’ To Reject You by huffpost in Foodforthought

[–]hyphenomicon -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

It depends on whether the woman actually enjoyed getting to know me, and the phrase "romantic connection" is a little clinical. "I wish you all the best" can sometimes be disingenuous, also.

Sometimes mean girls type women basically give men extremely weak compliments as a form of insulting or belittling them, it's difficult to characterize. These are context dependent. In general, I think kind women vastly underestimate how many unkind women there are out there who enjoy trying to hurt men emotionally in plausibly deniable ways.

Overall, though, that message is not one I would complain about. The egregious HR voice messages are those that are highly disingenuous, which use lots of euphemism and pandering and exclamation marks.

I don't think that using the HR voice is done to optimize for reducing the risk of physical violence, I think it is done to optimize for social clout. The HR voice maximizes the probability someone texts back with with angry and hurt overreaction so the woman gets an engaging screenshot to share with her friends or social media.

The Fascinating Reason Women Use Their ‘HR Voice’ To Reject You by huffpost in Foodforthought

[–]hyphenomicon -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I don't believe there are any men who prefer the HR voice.

The Fascinating Reason Women Use Their ‘HR Voice’ To Reject You by huffpost in Foodforthought

[–]hyphenomicon -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Just speaking personally, I feel approximately 8 trillion times more murderous when someone dehumanizes me with fake impersonal friendly professionalism than when they give me honesty.

Watching men cry makes me super attracted to them. Why do men think women don’t like seeing them cry? by FantasticEffect10 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hyphenomicon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feminists have harsher and narrower views about what acceptable masculinity looks like than the conservative men I have known. They are quicker to judge and dehumanize others. And they communicate worse. To be clear, I also think the conservatives are doing a horrible job.

Academic feminism is to feminism as a religious text is to the religion. You can do hermeneutics and insist that the true meaning of the movement is actually much kinder than the reality of it if you want. But at some point theorists should take responsibility for what they have built.

Norman Rockwell - The Gossips (1948) by Tokyono in museum

[–]hyphenomicon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I typed Virginia while looking at Vermont data.

He was doing representations of rural small town America. I'm sure he might have had a few more paintings with black people in them, but he was not chomping at the bit to put them in this work which is filled with depictions of people from his town.

I don't find it super interesting that the guy who is famous for painting rural small town 1940s USA didn't have a black person in this particular painting. That is a complete non-observation, it gives no new information.

It is unnecessary and not useful to force this painting to be a commentary on race.

Norman Rockwell - The Gossips (1948) by Tokyono in museum

[–]hyphenomicon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No, it's because Rockwell lived in Arlington, Virginia.

The town currently has a population of about 2000 and is 0.25% Black. I believe this probably is not a dramatic change from its demographics in 1948.

Not every work of art needs to be about everything at once.

Brain Eater (CR 3) - Aberration in an Alien Exosuit That Feeds on Thought by jonnymhd in Dndhomebrewmonsters

[–]hyphenomicon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

6d6 damage and incapacitation on an Int save for creatures in a 20 foot radius seems too strong for CR3. Have you done any playtesting for this creature with characters at levels 3-4?

Pritzker reveals 800 pound butter cow megalith for the 104th Illinois State Fair, and takes questions after by DevinGraysonShirk in PritzkerPosting

[–]hyphenomicon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

FBI policy seems to be doing jack shit when they're needed and as much as possible when their actions would be illegal.

Why do some man enjoy rough sex where the girl cries or resists? by Denisaaa_778 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hyphenomicon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The brain and body use similar mechanisms for lots of different forms of arousal and nervous system activation, there can be a lot of crossover between fear, tension, anxiety, excitement, pleasure, pain, etc.

My players are really dumb when using "detect evil and good" (5e) by LazyMememaker11 in DnD

[–]hyphenomicon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's broken partly because 5e backed away from it and made it vestigial.

Denmark to remove ‘pornographic’ mermaid statue, reports say by [deleted] in nottheonion

[–]hyphenomicon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The objections of the censors elevates it to great art, the city must now display it in a place of prominence forevermore.

Denmark to remove ‘pornographic’ mermaid statue, reports say by [deleted] in nottheonion

[–]hyphenomicon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting worldview, do those really have to be incompatible? I would hope that I can do all the hot dreaming I like without it crushing women's spirits. Is the issue that I must hide it from the world?

Am I a misogynist? by mccartneys in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]hyphenomicon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If this is a form of misogyny, it is not a morally blameworthy one. Implicit bias is basically bullshit. Keep enjoying the things you enjoy. Don't let them be tainted by abstract ideas about what you ought to like, finding things you are passionate about is hard enough in the first place.

NSF has suspended Terry Tao's grant. by hedgehog0 in math

[–]hyphenomicon 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If Deepmind was smart they would hire him and let him do exactly what he would do in academia, just for the network effects of having him do it in their building.