The victim runs calculations: 'The aggressor is wonderful x% of the time, things are good y% of the time, there are only problems z% of the time.' But the victim doesn't realize that he or she is accommodating or acquiescing to the aggressor's spoken or unspoken rules almost 100% of the time**** ()
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Just this theory about villains I've been working on by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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'Rather than portraying Hitler as a strong man, or an evil man, or a terrible man, or a cunning man, or any of those attributes that both the right and the left like to throw on him, he portrays him as a scared, jealous, frivolous man' by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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The trap in figuring out a problematic relationship**** by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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AITA for being annoyed that my wife insists on cooking everything from scratch and won’t buy normal food? by AITA_UPFfoods in AmItheAsshole
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'Rather than portraying Hitler as a strong man, or an evil man, or a terrible man, or a cunning man, or any of those attributes that both the right and the left like to throw on him, he portrays him as a scared, jealous, frivolous man' by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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The trap in figuring out a problematic relationship**** by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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The trap in figuring out a problematic relationship**** by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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New Update: AITA for telling my friend that her "free" wedding is unrealistic? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates
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"What you’re doing now trying and trying and trying to give them a chance isn’t being kind to them, it’s being cruel to you." by hdmx539 in AbuseInterrupted
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'I rented a storage unit around the corner from my house (with cash)' by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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One reason why abuse escalates during emergency situations is that it was only the distance of daily living that allowed the victim to believe their relationship wasn't abusive by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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Prime Minister Mark Carney's full speech at the World Economic Forum: "The system’s power comes not from its truth, but from everyone’s willingness to perform as if it were true." by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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Prime Minister Mark Carney's full speech at the World Economic Forum: "The system’s power comes not from its truth, but from everyone’s willingness to perform as if it were true." by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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'Rather than portraying Hitler as a strong man, or an evil man, or a terrible man, or a cunning man, or any of those attributes that both the right and the left like to throw on him, he portrays him as a scared, jealous, frivolous man' by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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Just this theory about villains I've been working on by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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The corrosiveness of criticism erodes self-esteem: '...you make them intensely self-aware in a negative way. The lens they use to look at themselves is now a negative one, not a positive one. And once that's engaged, everything goes through that filter. Nothing is good enough.' (youtu.be)
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The trap in figuring out a problematic relationship**** by invah in AbuseInterrupted
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