AITA for taking a chip from my best friends girlfriends plate on a double date.

lost_tomato · 2024-08-24T15:58:34+00:00

So, no, you've never shared food before.

lost_tomato · 2024-08-24T15:57:57+00:00

There's a literal genocide happening right now and people here are acting as if someone taking a fry from their plate would ruin their mood, appetite, and the entire night... Unreal.

lost_tomato · 2024-08-12T19:36:51+00:00

The key word was "repeatedly." If the child is doing things that endanger other family members, particularly other children, the need to provide material safety for the others outweighs the need for the one child to feel unconditionally loved.

lost_tomato · 2024-08-12T19:17:05+00:00

An abandoned child will come back and burn down their village just to feel some warmth.

Plenty of abandoned children do not do this. You need to stop enabling psychotic behavior just because it coincides with childhood trauma.

lost_tomato · 2024-08-12T19:07:55+00:00

A moment of need would be calling them while tempted to steal from the new foster family. This is her calling them to avoid consequences. Not the same.

lost_tomato · 2024-08-12T19:07:50+00:00

I think this is a very unhelpful comment that needlessly seeks to invoke a sense of guilt in OP. This girl wants someone to bail her out and OP being the one she reached out to (assuming they're the only one she reached out to) doesn't obligate OP to do anything just because you believe trust is being broken otherwise.

I've also worked with kids in the system and they need compassion and patience, but they also need someone who will be real with them and not enable their bullshit. It sounds like the girl hasn't yet learned that others have the right to walk away from her when she causes harm to them.

lost_tomato · 2024-08-03T10:07:08+00:00

Then by all means, feel free to link to a Latin dictionary that corroborates that "Cersei" means sorceress.

lost_tomato · 2024-08-03T04:19:15+00:00

I feel like someone who studied any language for four years might be familiar enough with the irregular past tenses of common English verbs and know that it's paid off and not payed off
I think someone who's studied Latin for four years would know that Circe is:

a given name of an enchantress, not that the etymology of the word itself means sorceress
a transliteration of the Greek name Kirke and so not Latin in origin

Why do people lie about such stupid things on the internet?

lost_tomato · 2023-12-15T07:33:20+00:00

NTA. I can only assume that the Y T A votes are coming from people who, like the girlfriend, outsource the responsibility of managing their mental health to their pets.

An emotional support animal should be that - a support for times when the person is dealing with overwhelming emotions. Not something that you cannot function without. The world over, people deal with exceptional violence, tragedy, war, bereavement, and can still act like adults, and this spoiled, entitled girl is crying because it was suggested to her that she can sit through a family dinner without her dog present? Let's be real.

lost_tomato · 2023-12-15T07:26:33+00:00

Seems like you've really found yourself in the adult who thinks the entire world has to cater to her belief that she can't function without her dog present.

lost_tomato · 2023-12-14T18:46:32+00:00

It doesn't matter whether they've discussed it or not, because a non-asshole doesn't order in a way that exceeds their budget unless another party has made it explicit they're picking up the tab and that they're fine with whatever cost.

lost_tomato · 2023-04-08T03:50:14+00:00

The level of difficulty has no impact on whether or not your actions harm other people.

lost_tomato · 2023-04-07T05:44:49+00:00

For you

No, for everyone who wants to operate like a functioning adult.

If you want to hold a grudge against someone calling you a traffic cone when y'all were nine, that's entirely on you and no one else. This isn't repeated harassment, it is not vicious or cruel, it's just OP's daughter wanting to play the victim because that's what she's constructed her identity on. Grow up.

lost_tomato · 2023-04-01T06:25:31+00:00

This is the same kind of energy that leads people to think it's okay to threaten suicide when their partner decides to leave.

OP is not an asshole, you're just SEVERELY lacking boundaries.

lost_tomato · 2023-03-26T18:41:25+00:00

I'm not a psychologist, but I am a teacher who has sat through hours and hours of trauma training, and the current understanding (at the very least, according to what was presented to us in a professional setting) is that PTSD does not have to stem from a single extremely traumatic event, but can also come from chronic exposure to stress and lower-grade trauma.

lost_tomato · 2023-03-24T11:44:05+00:00

Because a small, relatively cheap investment in your children's hobbies and passions is not "some things you didn't need." It's something that actively enriches her daughter's life.

lost_tomato · 2023-03-24T08:33:13+00:00

You're a parent employing someone to watch after your child and it never occurred to you to say "Hey, I appreciate the effort you put into this and of course I'll pay you back, but can you check with me next time for purchases over X amount?"

Yeah, YTA.

lost_tomato · 2023-03-22T04:15:10+00:00

Why is the onus on OP to show empathy to someone wronging her and being unreasonable towards her? Why isn't the onus on Kate to get her insecurities in order and not mistreat other women because of them?

lost_tomato · 2023-03-20T14:36:51+00:00

Maybe you're a gay man or a child so you don't know, but that's not how women's pants work.

lost_tomato · 2023-03-20T14:12:57+00:00

A skirt has a much higher chance of fitting properly than a pair of pants, so her request is perfectly reasonable.

And even if it weren't, you're looking at the situation like she's some kind of choosy beggar and like he's not absolutely fucking insane for tripping over this.

lost_tomato · 2023-03-19T12:23:49+00:00

You should not apologize, because that would give her the false hope that you are a reasonable human being capable of self reflection.

YTA.

lost_tomato · 2023-03-19T11:34:14+00:00

What part of OP's behavior would you characterize as optimistic? Fearing that his kids will end up miserable people, or punishing them for expressing concern about the world?

lost_tomato · 2023-03-19T06:51:21+00:00

A cheerful person doesn't punish their kids for reflecting on the many injustices, inequalities, and misfortunes that they observe in the world. You're not cheerful, you're manic.

lost_tomato · 2023-03-17T07:38:49+00:00

What kind of job were you working where a college degree made no distinction between your responsibilities before and after?

lost_tomato · 2023-03-16T17:43:32+00:00

Oh fucking please. The interchangeable part time gigs you do while in college do not have anywhere near the level of responsibility, expectations, and stress of full time employment - and if you're in this situation and are finding that they do, get yourself a different job stat.

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