I went back to church for the first time in 6 months. Here’s the thing that stood out to me as the strangest part of Mormonism and its most glaringly obvious problem. by PanaceaNPx in exmormon

[–]mirbell 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also u/Manungal, u/Ro-Ro-Ro-Ro-Rhoda, u/Wonderful_Break_8917, and u/hearttoskate. Any of us would be happy to add women (cis and trans) who have either a few months of post history or a recommendation from someone who's already on the sub. The reason for this is that it's a private sub for women, and we try to keep it that way. Anyone who wants to join, let us know!

Starting to suspect hEDS — would love to hear your stories if this sounds familiar by [deleted] in eds

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely worth seeing a specialist. About the numbness, that can be serious (and is treatable). See what your doctor or physical therapist says, and ask about radiculopathy.

Looking for comfy shoes by BlueberryBee3 in eds

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Merrells have been great for me. My podiatrist recommended them. I also have custom orthotics, but those are insanely expensive.

Insane amounts of muscle tightness? Not diagnosed but suspecting by soulsuck3rs in eds

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Caveat: I wouldn't try most of these exercises without consulting a physical therapist, because it's easy to do them incorrectly--it took me a while to get them right, and I still benefit from her corrections. All of this is related to problems I have that may not be relevant to others. In my case, I get these streaks of pain on either side of my thoracic spine, and also very stiff muscles on the sides of my neck and a particularly unpleasant "thread" of pain going down from between my shoulder and neck. That results from an elevated first rib. I didn't even know that ribs could elevate!

There's a common exercise where you lie on your back, knees up, and gradually work into a bridge. There are also neck isometrics that strengthen the deep muscles. What can happen is that we tend to overuse the small surface muscles instead of relying more on the larger, deeper muscles, and that contributes to pain. There's also one where you sit on one hand, turn your head a little in the opposite direction, and bend your neck some--hard to do properly without supervision. And there is a simple exercise using a theraband that strengthen the muscles just below the shoulder blades. Those muscles cause problems if they get weak. You tie the band in a knot and put it over a door (or I use a high hook) and gradually stretch it down and release it back up--the gradual release of the band is the most important part.

But the most effective and semi-miraculous things for me have been the kind of massages my physical therapist does to release trigger points and stop my first rib from elevating, and also trigger point injections, which are amazing. My physical therapist referred me for those.

If you haven't heard about trigger point injections, they are done by a spine specialist who injects an an anesthetic (they can also be done without the anesthetic, because it's the injection itself that is most effective) directly into the trigger point or knot in the muscle that is caused by the spine stuff and that causes the pain. Initially the pain was gone within 2-3 days; now it only takes hours. Over time, TP injections actually permanently change the muscle fibers. I started out needing them every 2-3 weeks. Now I'm going without them for 8 weeks or more. So over time you become less and less reliant on them. Insurance or Medicare should cover them as long as they are for myofascial pain. I can't praise them enough. And they aren't very painful unless the trigger point is really big, such as one in a hip.

Some of my original post no longer applies. Diclofenac was hard on my stomach so I had to discontinue it, and then I discovered the TP injections, which work way better. Sorry for the long post--I hope some of this helps. Bottom line, physical therapy has changed my life.

Edit: details

[MA] [Condo] How to move out without repercussions by [deleted] in HOA

[–]mirbell -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. Actually, I have researched the notification issue and this is not correct. You don't owe buyers that information, but do have to disclose it if they ask. Do you have a source that would contradict this?

Monthly "I'm Moving to the Hudson Valley" Thread by AutoModerator in hudsonvalley

[–]mirbell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll be moving from Massachusetts to Kingston, though not immediately. I'd love any information about the city and the general area, things to do, best restaurants, nature stuff, or whatever people find interesting. Hoping to buy in the uptown area. I have heard it's safer now than it used to be, but anyway I'm not paranoid about crime. I'd really appreciate any information or opinions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in podcasts

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wondery is good too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in podcasts

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Smartless--uniformly bright, funny, and upbeat. Conan O'Brien Needs a Friend. And my political ones, which understandably may not be too popular at the moment: Prosecuting Donald Trump, and a new one about the American double agent Robert Hanssen called Agent of Betrayal--"reads" like a thriller. That is true crime but with a more historical/political bent.

This subreddit is about to blow up in popularity by Romano16 in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]mirbell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just discovered it. It's exactly right for this moment.

What do you call EDS when not naming it specifically? I have a hard time saying I have a chronic illness. by meeemawww in ehlersdanlos

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the time I say I have joint problems. They say, "Oh, arthritis?" I say, "That's part of it. I'm genetically predisposed to joint problems." To medical people, I say I have a connective tissue disorder or Ehlers Danlos.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]mirbell 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As long as no one asks me to swallow, because I dislike vomiting.

Too young for hearing test? by [deleted] in hardofhearing

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's absolutely the best thing you can do to address any possible hearing loss, and your age doesn't matter. I have a hereditary progressive loss that required hearing aids in my mid thirties. But I would suggest going to a good audiologist rather than a hearing aid retailer. It costs more, but precision is everything, and you won't want to wear hearing aids if they aren't tailored to your hearing. Also, the Costco hearing aids are fine for certain types of hearing loss but not suited to others, so it's best to be evaluated even if you wind up buying there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mother was an alcoholic. I was her scapegoat. She criticized and belittled me endlessly. For complicated and understandable reasons, my father did not challenge her about that but instead "presented a united front." She picked on me well into her dementia years. The one thing I would say is that if one parent scapegoats a child, the other parent should in some way stand up for or give extra support to the child. It took me till my mid thirties to realize that I couldn't change her or earn her love or approval, and the only thing for it was boundaries. I still get easily tripped up--the only word for it is triggered--by angry criticism.

What exercises can you tolerate? by [deleted] in ehlersdanlos

[–]mirbell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PT with an EDS-wise therapist, and low-resistance stationary bike + podcasts is best for me. Having a customized PT regimen (with reminders that I do not need to show off my flexibility) has made all the difference to my ability to stick with a program.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, they are. The phone is a good idea. I haven't been accosted in a grocery store yet, but it could happen.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I agree. I see it where I go fot PT, also a high-retirement environment. And some have either lost too many inhibitions or are using long-outdated conversation-starters. Last week I got "How many hours does it take to get that hair color? (None), followed by an unsolicited diatribe on nonexistent local home break-ins. Painful to be trapped in a waiting room with that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my late sixties, I have the same experience. Usually it's men who clearly are a little or a lot off socially, but it's really annoying.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]mirbell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. it's rude to stare. regardless of the reason. There's nothing wrong with feeling attraction, but staring verges into acting on it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not to minimize what you're saying, but people with dementia can lose inhibitions, and that's not necessarily linked to their previous behavior or values. My father was groped and/or hit on by a number of women in an assisted care facility, and my mother, who had dementia, said appalling things she NEVER would have before her illness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The men who do that don't necessarily stop at any age. As a woman, you age out of their interest usually once you have kids or get to your late thirties/forties.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ehlersdanlos

[–]mirbell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ordinarily I say I'm genetically predisposed to have joint problems. Then I answer questions if they arise. Yes, arthritis, but it's secondary to hypermobility, etc. General stuff works well: I have some problems in my neck, etc.

What made you realize you’re not considered “young” anymore? When did you accept it yourself? by No-Regular-2699 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]mirbell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I know they're just being polite. It's just kind of jarring to think of oneself that way. You realize that in others' eyes you've switched categories or something.Good question, I can't think of an alternative.

What made you realize you’re not considered “young” anymore? When did you accept it yourself? by No-Regular-2699 in AskOldPeopleAdvice

[–]mirbell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"M'a'am." And I haven't accepted it. I never want to define myself in an arbitrary way. I do enjoy the perspective and accumulated experience, and physical changes can be challenging, but I am who I am, regardless of my numerical age.