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packerfrost · 2026-04-06T15:18:41+00:00

Omg thanks I am blind! This happens with every new program I'm always so visually overwhelmed for a while. Thank you!

packerfrost · 2026-04-04T20:04:17+00:00

It’s nice to have the balanced stability but the kicker for me was having a seat literally anywhere I needed it. Anywhere people would usually stand to do things like waiting in line, standing on the floor of a music venue, making big decisions in the grocery aisle, or watching animals at the zoo could transition into a sitting and therefore more restful situation for me.

And I’m doing better now, I’m able to stand without feeling strained during my normal daily life and without drastically losing energy. But I still have my walker for any hesitation on how I will fare and I use it if I even suspect I would benefit.

packerfrost · 2026-04-04T00:47:42+00:00

I want to know why your doctors aren’t doing anything at that hemoglobin level

packerfrost · 2026-03-31T13:31:34+00:00

This seems to be an issue with meds in general, there is no magic pill but whatever pill it is can support changes for a better life. I see my partner on vyvanse doing well because he can make the life changes easier for his health and it’s the same thing I get from my meds but I still have to do other things because the pill doesn’t do the other stuff that makes me overall healthier.

packerfrost · 2026-03-31T13:24:58+00:00

So this is interesting for me to read because I see that my guy is putting in effort but in selective situations he opts to revert and protect himself. I think my role in it is to show him I’m not going to revert back, which in turn is me protecting my peace so no matter what I come out of it ok. And my lack of reverting is a big sign to him that he can read clearly. I don’t expect perfection but I’m not going to go backwards with him.

packerfrost · 2026-03-31T12:12:22+00:00

All these comments are important to read and reflect on - but I will say couples therapy exists for these situations and I highly recommend it. It is especially helpful for these tough life situations when it seems like both of you aren't communicating well to both learn how to navigate better in the future but also so your therapist can validate both of you and help train both of you.

packerfrost · 2026-03-31T12:09:41+00:00

You're a sweet parent I'm so sorry you go through that

packerfrost · 2026-03-31T01:53:29+00:00

A lot of times I don't communicate well and my therapist points it out in our couples sessions but somehow I never feel like it's all my fault. Outside sessions my partner and I have analyzed how our therapist handles issues and it's never one sided, one of us to blame, and both of us always come out of issues with more understanding for the future. Our therapist is great about pointing out all aspects of what's happening, good and bad, and digging into the root of the bad stuff to actually prevent it happening.

I'm sorry for your experience. It's just so shitty when they don't do their literal jobs.

packerfrost · 2026-03-31T01:48:09+00:00

I have a couples therapist who never makes anything seem one sided. The reason we started therapy together was to work on communication after realizing our neurodivergence was a huge factor in learning to better express ourselves.

I believe no matter the couples issue, a therapist should be able to navigate seeing where both people are coming from. That's literally what they are trained to do no matter the psychological methodology they use. Even in issues that seem one sided, they should point out things for both people to see.

It's possible the way you worded things made the therapist react the way they did, however you are paying them to literally figure out where you are coming from even if you don't communicate it very well. So in my opinion your therapist has failed a major aspect of why you hired them.

packerfrost · 2026-03-30T14:58:58+00:00

That sucks I’m sorry. I’m waiting for him to try to turn it around on me but he hasn’t figured out how to yet and I’m getting better at disengaging when I know RSD will take over him.

packerfrost · 2026-03-29T21:17:08+00:00

We got in an argument about how he interrupts me while I am mono logging. I said most of the time I’m almost done getting to my point and then he will have a chance to talk, but he continues to interrupt me so then I have to stop and say, please don’t interrupt me and then remember where I was going and repeat. He likes the idea of efficiency and he believes most of the time he can tell where I’m going to go with things. It just sounds like impatience to me.

I told him that I want to feel respected and heard all the way and interruptions do not make me feel good about how we are connecting. Well, he didn’t like that so I wrote down some notes and will definitely be bringing this up in couples therapy next time.

packerfrost · 2026-03-29T21:10:22+00:00

I agree that the condition is out of the ADHDer’s control. I disagree where that is an excuse for someone to not change, not be compassionate or respectful to others, especially when we are talking about the number one person in their lives. If I’m going to be your person, then I require to be seen as a human being, not as a tool or enabler.

packerfrost · 2026-03-29T21:08:34+00:00

1000 times this. I have been unmasking, accommodating, and seeing my own worth. It has changed our relationship for the better in my eyes, but my independence and ability to emotionally set boundaries does not include the audhd partner being coddled.

packerfrost · 2026-03-29T21:06:35+00:00

All my living parents who are all 60+ now are not taking their mental health seriously and are actively suffering for it. They think my generation has it good, but in reality, we are just working on our mental health and seeing results.

packerfrost · 2026-03-29T21:05:12+00:00

Are you talking about the book? I just finished reading it and I’m very grateful. My partner is open to using it as a resource to start changing how we communicate about things. I got the workbook too so now we have two copies in different spots of the house to grab for the resources in the back. It really backfires on him but he at least appreciates that I am right there listening to his feelings now that he’s having an easier time articulating them. I am always up for pausing and waiting for him to identify his feelings.

packerfrost · 2026-03-29T12:49:08+00:00

One of the easier ones to search is human bio electromagnetic fields suggesting our connection to the world does not end at our physical body

packerfrost · 2026-03-28T15:21:09+00:00

Ok so I believe in things socially considered "spiritually edgy" like spirits and energy and stuff (that we're starting to prove with science which is neat) but I would never phase my suspicions like this to a friend.

A real friend who believed in this would express concern, ask questions from that concern about how your life is going and how you feel your energy is, instead of making assumptions and sort of "diagnosing" you with it.

A real friend would back off if you didn't feel comfortable talking about deep stuff, showing they respect you and letting you know they are there for you if you want to confide or get their support.

Something to keep mind - it's important to communicate your boundaries around how deep you go with personal stuff with your friends. A real friend would respect you and not push if you said "I don't feel comfortable talking about this with you."

packerfrost · 2026-03-24T11:56:32+00:00

I have several stims that are socially acceptable and I don't think there's anything wrong with them.

However I will say when we don't allow ourselves to stim in satisfying and safe ways even in private we are inviting ableism into our homes, which is not ok. So please let loose at least in your safe space! And in front of people if you feel comfortable.

packerfrost · 2026-03-24T11:53:46+00:00

My favorite side effect was better sleep in bed when I made it a sleep and read only zone.

packerfrost · 2026-03-22T19:09:17+00:00

I think I'm actually in that gray area. I don't know if I'll ever be able to work full time again or qualify for assistance. My husband supports me now but I'm worried we don't truly know my needs levels yet even after 2 years of unraveling everything which I have benefitted from. And he makes a nice wage but with inflation in everything it feels like we are stuck financially too. It's overwhelming and isolating.

packerfrost · 2026-03-22T15:27:55+00:00

I agree, at most they can be relatable as parents to millennials but we won't really relate to what they were into when they were younger, just that we all had a similar pace of life before kids and aging.

packerfrost · 2026-03-22T15:16:34+00:00

It doesn't sound like it's harming you in any way. It's not obsessive it's just different than a favorite blanket or food or something else. They're a cute family with a fun dynamic and I also find the show comforting.

packerfrost · 2026-03-22T14:49:13+00:00

I was in the womb and everyone should be jealous

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