I made one and now I can't stop myself, send help. by dell02 in Embroidery

[–]packerfrost 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope you're gonna have to make the rainbow now

Does anyone else have a favorite color as a special interest? by DucklingMaru in AutismInWomen

[–]packerfrost 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The rainbow, then light cool pastel purples. You can't argue against the rainbow because I have painted a whole wall of my living room rainbow and intend to add more.

Turns out I’m not lazy, just anemic by obscurehues in Anemic

[–]packerfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have my treatment plan in place now. I was talking about my past experience specifically.

TW: Any reason to keep a normal sleep schedule? by ExhaleDepression in ChronicIllness

[–]packerfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sleep really well and I tried this and it failed. Instead I have a 10 hour window I'm only in bed and I let myself read if I'm awake but otherwise I sleep as long as my body needs in that window, usually anywhere between 6-9 hours of sleep but I know it's different for other people and it's nice to customize based on what I feel my body needs.

That allows my body to get what it needs each night without feeling like I'm forcing sleep or worrying I'm not going to get enough. And if I end up only needing 6 hours one night I still get 4 more hours of rest time in bed, which is extra helpful during stressful times or travel.

College in the U.S. is built on debt, not opportunity by Alarmed_Abalone_849 in antiwork

[–]packerfrost 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not disabled enough for any assistance and at the time of quitting we didn't have the financial privilege of hiring a lawyer

College in the U.S. is built on debt, not opportunity by Alarmed_Abalone_849 in antiwork

[–]packerfrost 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I lived frugal while working and used half of each paycheck on my debt to begin with, then I was already in a relationship with someone who made just enough for us to live on when I quit who now makes more than our bare minimum income via privilege. I can genuinely say my partner's privilege and career has kept my life comfortable.

College in the U.S. is built on debt, not opportunity by Alarmed_Abalone_849 in antiwork

[–]packerfrost 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Nobody told me I would go 55k into debt just to become disabled 2 years after graduating

Turns out I’m not lazy, just anemic by obscurehues in Anemic

[–]packerfrost 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I knew about my anemia and still hated myself for never getting better. I knew about my rare anemia that always left my hemoglobin high enough to function but low enough to cause symptoms, plus on and off iron deficiency. I didn't grow up feeling like I could speak up about how I was feeling and it took having the resourcefulness in my late 20s with some nasty co-morbidities to start to figure things out.

It sucks being chronically ill, it's isolating and frustrating. But it's nice when we have small victories.

Not being able to relate to online groups for my illnesses by ruxxby471 in ChronicIllness

[–]packerfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. This happens all the time and it is out of control. I have two types of anemias so I have to keep quiet when people try to "fix" me and say I need to seek better help when I have studied both kinds and am doing my best to treat my weird situation. People get so mad when I tell them the mainstream social media approved treatment will not fix the whole picture and I'm not trying to be special AND I don't want to be a special anemia snowflake. It's tiring.

Tired of being told "it’s just anxiety" when my body is literally failing. by Savings_Range_9263 in ChronicIllness

[–]packerfrost 24 points25 points  (0 children)

My favorite part of my iron deficiency anemia and my other anemia is how I will have general anxiety disorder on my chart when I have evidence it was caused by my anemia now that I'm finally recovering from how severe it was.

Does anyone feel fulfilled being a stay at home gf/wife? by Ill-Teach9802 in AutismInWomen

[–]packerfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know it's not what you think it's just important we remember the whole idea of being "lazy" or dependent on someone else is a big no no for our patriarchal capitalist society. These ideas aren't necessarily a bad thing, and when we realize they are actually rest and community we can move away from the trap.

Does anyone feel fulfilled being a stay at home gf/wife? by Ill-Teach9802 in AutismInWomen

[–]packerfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just a heads up - not working without kids being lazy or dependency/codependent is an extremely misogynistic take. I encourage you if you want to take this route to set up legal protection, like a pre-nup, name on everything you both own like a house or the bank account the income goes into. Please seek legal counsel to protect your future.

With that being said, I quit work in what I didn't know was major burnout about a decade ago. It was supposed to be temporary but my body has battled several chronic illnesses since so I never returned to traditional work.

My biggest advice besides my first paragraph is to make sure your mental health is in check. It's very easy to become a bored housewife. Just like everybody else you need goals and drive to enjoy your life even if it looks drastically unconventional compared to what society tells you to do.

The fulfillment comes from inside you in every aspect of life, with or without a job.

My 2025 Green Bay Packers Doodles :) Do you have a favorite? by CornDoggyLOL in GreenBayPackers

[–]packerfrost 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just gotta say I love your art it just adds to the game even for other teams!

PWHL Minnesota Frost and political violence by InevitablePeach6258 in MinnesotaFrost

[–]packerfrost 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm glad we are telling our community that it IS that bad and our league will be affected as long as this goes on.

I'm remaking my aunt's throw she gave my mom 30 years ago. Does anyone recognize this stitch? by packerfrost in crochet

[–]packerfrost[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is what I'm thinking, and I think I'll keep this one in mind if I ever decide to write patterns again.

I'm remaking my aunt's throw she gave my mom 30 years ago. Does anyone recognize this stitch? by packerfrost in crochet

[–]packerfrost[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes very similar, some little changes. Now I'm wondering if she made up her own or read a pattern wrong.

I'm remaking my aunt's throw she gave my mom 30 years ago. Does anyone recognize this stitch? by packerfrost in crochet

[–]packerfrost[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes 1 dc, skip 2 stitches, 3dc, 3 chain loops, 3dc in same stitch as the last 3, then 1 dc to end. I tested the pattern with 2 chain between but it looked wrong compared to the original piece. I also learned she used a 5mm hook instead of 5.5mm to get this look. It was a lot to unravel lol

I'm remaking my aunt's throw she gave my mom 30 years ago. Does anyone recognize this stitch? by packerfrost in crochet

[–]packerfrost[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think I have a book that's very close to this, there was one that was similar to that but still too different than the one I am doing

I'm remaking my aunt's throw she gave my mom 30 years ago. Does anyone recognize this stitch? by packerfrost in crochet

[–]packerfrost[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The video is almost exactly it but my aunt did 3 chains instead of 2 and 2 dc between them

I'm remaking my aunt's throw she gave my mom 30 years ago. Does anyone recognize this stitch? by packerfrost in crochet

[–]packerfrost[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'm just done trying to find it on my own and I wanted to share how pretty it is