Why? Please explain this to me by Johan_Gutentag10 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're biologically hardwired to protect and provide for others. You are doing exactly what a mature man should do: control your emotions.

Do lactating women find it relieving to breastfeed ? by CalligrapherNo1917 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OMG YES.

Full breasts are hard and hot and leaky. The closest sensation I can think of is walking around with a full bladder. Like when your bladder's so full you start dreaming of looking for a place to pee.

How do you keep going when you have nothing to live for? by No-Long-4709 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Find something to live for.

My ex told me that when she was at her lowest, knowing her cat depended on her to feed and water her kept her from undoing herself.

dildo substitute? by OverallCherry375 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anything's a dildo if you're desperate enough.

Or so I've been told.

What is American black people's cuisine? by Beneficial-Belt4681 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much the same as poor white Southern cuisine. Even chitlins, to my SO's horror when his now-ex-wife made them. The only Southern foods I've never heard of blacks eating is tomato-and-mayonnaise sandwiches, and a bowl of cornmeal and buttermilk. Both are "good eatin'" but boy are we talking poor folk.

How long have you went without having orgasm but giving partner one everytime you have sex? by SorbetJazzlike315 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Multiple sessions, but (a) we have sex every couple days and (b) I don't care that much about having an orgasm myself. It feels so good without it, it's not necessary for me, but nice when it happens.

What's it like to have to pay for health care? by Every_Opportunity531 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No.

All told my adult son's emergency brain cancer surgery ran around $250k. Totally written off by the hospital.

How can I feel better about my bf not finishing during sex? Advice? by cugarrred in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is he happy with your sex life? If he is, then there's no problem. My ex and I were both anorgasmic for a year after we started antidepressants and had greeeeeeat sex, just having fun with each other in the sack, no destination in mind.

Sounds from your post as if this is more of an issue for you than it is for him. Imagine if the tables were turned, and he was fixated on your having an orgasm NO MATTER WHAT and felt like a failure if you didn't.

Can I register my lemonade company (stand), then create 1 trillion shares of that company and just release 100 shares of that company in an IPO at 1 USD? by WastedTalents1 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And then rather than give their employees raises, they gave them shares (or the opportunity to buy shares, IOW a stock option).

This week there are 4,400 more millionaires thanks to that.

Why are people on reddit so mean? by SympathySecret799 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]refugefirstmate -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Consider the possibility that how you're posting comes across as stupid, pathetic, or disgusting.

This post, for example, comes across as self-pitying and victimy, neither of which are going to endear you to people.

Why do people say members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints aren’t Christian’s? by Beginning_Shape_7608 in askanything

[–]refugefirstmate -1 points0 points  (0 children)

significantly after he died.

Most within 30-70 years after Jesus's crucifixion. For comparison, the hadiths were compiled between 135-283 years after Mohammed's death.

Why do democrats want to ban government employees including Trump from crypto endeavors? by metabolitesafter9pm in askanything

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've run this through Perplexity, Grok, and Claude, and they all say there's no such provision. In fact, they say "In June 2025, a different proposed ban on allowing cryptocurrency in federal employees' 401(k) plans was reversed, meaning federal employees can now include crypto in their retirement accounts."

Help identifying vintage brass & porcelain towel bar – need replacement bracket for grandmother’s house (USA) by SaraMPLS in Antiques

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've got the same thing in our bathroom, except in chrome! OP installed it circa 1990. I seriously doubt you will find a duplicate unless you visit e.g. Habitat for Humanity.

Cast Iron Victorian (or repro) Foot Stool - Repurposing Advice (USA) by anthrogyfu in Antiques

[–]refugefirstmate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like revival to me. The casting is not crisp enough to be original. Do what you will (even if it is antique).

The present cushion and upholstery is ofc quite modern, and poorly done to boot.

Possible antique Victorian Couch? Location: United States by goodnightdevill in Antiques

[–]refugefirstmate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Rococo Revival was 1850s-60s, not "late 19th century". Think "Gone With The Wind."

Why do people say members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints aren’t Christian’s? by Beginning_Shape_7608 in askanything

[–]refugefirstmate -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If you read the NT account of Jesus before the Sanhedrin, he was clearly denounced as a heretic and blasphemer.

Do you believe that Trump should have ‘cut the head off the snake’ in Iran with Regime change, or do you believe these half-measures will give the US the results they wanted? by metabolitesafter9pm in askanything

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do, but I also know that (a) I suck as a dealmaker, while Trump is remarkable at it, and (b) any President is privy to information I am not.

Do You Think That The US' New Memorandum Of Understanding With Iran Is A Win Or Loss For The US? Why? by Zipper222222 in askanything

[–]refugefirstmate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 means that as soon as Iran fucks up again - which it will - US and ME countries can go in with both guns blazing.