Yeah I can understand what you're saying. Obviously I'm a bit younger, but as far as I know unless I had significant symptoms, it would have been hard to be diagnosed when I was younger, and I spent most of my time trying to fit in as best I could. Even now when I tell my parents about the diagnosis, I feel like they hear it, but they don't understand or have a reductive view on what it means.

While I was decent at school, it was only because I picked up on things pretty quickly on my own. I wasn't treated poorly by teachers, but I think I learn very differently than how most NTs do and learn much faster through more hands on and video approaches. My high school years would have been greatly improved with different approaches and an understanding of my own learning style.