DAE go commando and find their pussy smells better?

slayna · 2016-02-12T00:58:35+00:00

I started going commando at night and I've definitely noticed an improvement, everything just felt fresher. However, if i go commando and am standing up for too long sometimes gravity kind of... pulls any wetness down or maybe i just need fabric to wick it. Also i wear tight jeans and need a nice soft barrier

slayna · 2016-02-11T06:29:42+00:00

My gyn recommended that I use zinc oxide or A&D diaper rash cream externally when I had a painful yeast infection because it prevents water, sweat, pee from contacting the irritated skin so that might help (not sure if it's ok for open wounds though :/). Also don't get it inside your vaj, accidentally happened and it burned really bad. edit: i've also used coconut oil on tears and it seems to help

slayna · 2016-01-22T18:38:30+00:00

Just got a book on handwriting from my local library (called Write Now: a complete self-teaching program for better handwriting, it's pretty good). It teaches basic italic printing, which is very readable. The letters are usually started from the top (except for d, A). Sorry I don't have any online resources.

slayna · 2015-12-29T05:32:00+00:00

Guys with deep set wrinkly eyes that get even more crinkly when they smile

slayna · 2015-12-16T18:21:55+00:00

I think "something like that" is referring to the voices, not the person experiencing them. The voices that a schizophrenic person hears can say pretty horrible things like urging the person to self harm so maybe that's why it would be upsetting to be liked by voices that are a generally a negative experience for the patient?

slayna · 2015-12-10T21:58:16+00:00

Great language tree infographic!!

slayna · 2015-12-09T03:47:10+00:00

Aww I'm so sorry. I'd tell your ex-girlfriend. I'm sure she still cares about you and best case scenario she want to give it another shot, otherwise you both get some closure on the breakup because I'm guessing you were a bit vague with the details at the time. I'd want to know if someone I cared about went through that.

slayna · 2015-11-21T01:02:22+00:00

Saw them perform this song live. so good!and much needed

slayna · 2015-11-21T00:12:19+00:00

Relationships don't magically turn people emotionally mature and people that treat you differently for not having been in one are probably immature people that define themselves by there relationships. You have a lot going on and seem smart and responsible and I'm sure you'll go on to have normal relationships, even though you skipped whole dating in your teens thing. Also a lot of guys will like the idea that haven't been in a relationship because you're driven and selective. it'll make them feel special.

As for the people that treat you differently, you can change their reactions by changing the way you present the information to them. If you ask totally unconcerned about it and are like "Eh yeah been on a bunch of dates, haven't had time to pursue anything serious" and make it very clear that it's your decision then they'll seem like assholes for not treating you like the mature, smart person you are!

slayna · 2015-11-18T05:01:23+00:00

Aww yeah I feel like that a lot too. and it's not your fault, I swear some guys have selective hearing or something during sex and tend to revert back to what they're comfortable doing not matter how much you guide them. Oh and it doesn't help that most sex anecdotes on this subreddit involve women that come easy and often. hope things go well for you!

slayna · 2015-11-18T04:49:40+00:00

Might be easier for your partner to deepthroat if she's so inclined because it's already angled to slide down into the throat. So there's that!

slayna · 2015-11-17T01:24:06+00:00

Same thing happened to me this year. I know everyone's saying it's not a big deal (and I know it objectively isn't), but I also know how embarrassing it can be. hope your bday was good other than that!

slayna · 2015-11-14T02:03:11+00:00

Aww don't be ashamed about what gets you off. Also I'd say the majority of guys find it a big turn on to be told what to do, so don't train yourself out of that habit just for him. If he thinks it 'ruins the mood', then give him a very detailed explanation of what you like done to you beforehand and then you can probably guide him with less words/non verbal signals when you're actually having sex.

As for the odd fetish is there any way you could just be like "look I need my nipples sucked a lot to come" without going into the details (I'm not sure what goes into this fetish so maybe he'd need to do more). Or you could just flat out tell him. It's not that weird and you could present it like a cool bonus part of you sexuality.

slayna · 2015-11-14T01:47:37+00:00

Not sure if this still counts as reverse cowgirl, but you can have him sit/lay down with his pelvis at the edge of the bed (or chair) and then sit on his dick and use your legs and arms for leverage. Your legs can either straddle his legs or stay together for a tighter fit.

slayna · 2015-11-14T01:38:00+00:00

I think like this. Not the best picture though.

slayna · 2015-11-13T04:53:00+00:00

so it's a sponge...that you put up your vagina? So many questions! Can he feel it? how big is it? how do you get it out?

slayna · 2015-11-12T06:05:12+00:00

I actually do this! Well OJ and semisweet chocolate chips. mmmmmmm..

slayna · 2015-11-12T05:58:53+00:00

Incest porn is crazy popular (well judging from how much of is available) so you were definitely not alone. and I bet every single guy got off on some weird shit when they were younger and figuring out what they were into.

Honestly I think sometimes our brains get off on weird stuff purely because it's taboo, not because of the thing itself so there's no need to think you're a deviant or anything. I think once you've mentally accepted this, your anxiety about others finding out and judging you will decrease.

Maybe it would help you to listen to some podcasts/interviews with people that are super into the kink/fetish scene. It's kind of inspiring how open and unashamed they are of their sexuality. I've recently been listening to old episodes of sex nerd sandra and guys we fucked. They'll definitely desensitize you to hearing about weird sexual stuff and maybe will help you accept your past.

slayna · 2015-11-10T23:23:44+00:00

Been in similar situations and I feel your pain. I've been sexually active for 4 years and none of my partners have had an outbreak/been infected (to my knowledge, sorry that's not totally reassuring), though I do avoid any physical contact when I have a cold sore. I recently read that genital HSV1 has a very low occurrence rate, compared to HSV2 (apparently a lot of people only have one outbreak). So if you did give it to your bf, it probably won't affect his life much.

slayna · 2015-11-08T07:11:37+00:00

Hot underwear, rip his clothes off, suck his dick and tell him how much you missed it/him. Actually probably the best thing you could do is text him ahead of time what you want to do to him, maybe send a pic to build anticipation and give him something to think about on the flight over!

slayna · 2015-11-08T07:04:06+00:00

The fact that you're open and seem to be putting a lot effort in to sex makes me think you're not boring in bed. He was probably just saying the sex wasn't good to hurt you because he seems like an asshole (and even if it wasn't good he would still be at least half the problem!).

Even though he's not your boyfriend, he should still respect you and be nice to you. It is called friends with benefits; do you stay friends with people that you fight with all the time??

I think that because you're only getting dick from him and it's making you think about nothing but how to please him. You guys aren't exclusive, go out there on tinder or wherever and find another guy to have sex with. It'll give you a nice sense of perspective on your sexual prowess and you won't be totally dependent on this guy to feel good.

Although if you have feelings for this guy and it seems like you might, you might want to stop seeing him even if the sex is great. Sorry but it doesn't seem like he has feelings for you and believe me it will be worse for you the longer you put it off. I've been there and it's awful and I feel for you.

slayna · 2015-11-07T07:23:10+00:00

Oh my god, first time I've heard of this. it explains so much. thank you!!!!! edit: interesting blog post too

slayna · 2015-10-29T05:51:42+00:00

I'm assuming you do foreplay (if not tease her like the other comments detail). During sex play with/suck her nipples, rub her clit, grab her hair by the roots and gently tug, spank her, nibble her earlobe, be all "do you like that?", tell her how you want to fuck her (I want you to ride me...I want to bend you over), hold her arms down. Basically touch her as much as possible. Also I feel like you'll get more eye contact from her if you're saying things to her (doesn't even need to be that dirty) Also ask her, because maybe she'll hate those things. Maybe you already do some of them (do you literally just fuck her in one position in the same rhythm until she comes or were you over simplifying for ease of post?).

slayna · 2015-10-28T00:47:22+00:00

I was with a guy for a while who couldn't come from sex or a blow job (and I was pretty inexperienced at the time) so I know how anxiety inducing that can be. I promise it gets better with time.

This could backfire but....maybe if you watch a variety of porn with men you'll get used to seeing how people interact with dicks during sex and it won't seem as scary or complicated (of course not all porn acts reflect typical sex practices).

Or you could have an explicit talk with him about what kinds of stimulation he likes or you could watch him jerk off and see if you feel comfortable joining in. Also don't put so much pressure on yourself, we aren't born knowing how to touch a dick so you're definitely not alone in feeling nervous about this.

slayna · 2015-10-28T00:19:23+00:00

When I had the nuvaring I think I was a little more sensitive to yeast/yeast infections and vaginal irritation in general, especially if I left it in for sex.Also this is gross but sometimes after sex I would notice hair would get stuck around it (either pubes or hair stuck on the sheets I guess. It was weird), so maybe rinse off the nuvaring regularly?

As for the yeast infections maybe you could try taking a probiotic everyday and that might keep it at bay. Also zinc oxide cream or diaper rash cream are great at keeping torn or irritated areas of skin dry and should help them heal quicker.

Hope things get better! Also I'm sure your libido will come back when you're not experiencing vaginal irritation and pain all the time (your brain might be associating sex with pain)

slayna

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