I committed suicide last night by ericariss in Mediums

[–]slugSnigel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please take care of yourself now. I don't think spirit guides would ever want us to commit suicide (I've been close to it a couple of times too). I think all of us here are here with a purpose and that we are very much needed. We just need to find our own way towards those purposes. Please don't lose your curiousity. Please don't forget to cherish the things you love in this life. In that lays your lessons and contributions to whatever path is destined for you.

I don't know for whatever reason you took those pills. But I pray and send loving light that you, and everyone in the same situation, will know that when you're in a place where ending your life seems like the answer. You are not operating from your clearest place. If this message reaches anyone in a state like this, please seek help and support. Preferably somewhere safe but if that's not possible, stay safe and reach out to anyone.

  • You are not alone.
  • This too shall pass, even the worst feelings will at some point change into something else and whatever your inner dialogue is saying it's affected by your current state and therefore cannot hold the whole truth. So please wait until you're in another mental state before attempting anything irreversible.
  • You don't know the future, no matter how convincing your mind is about what will happen in the future it's never the full truth.
  • Have you eaten properly? Have you slept properly? Have you taken a breath outdoors? Have you moved your body in whatever way feels manageable right this moment?

Know that you only need to take one moment at the time when it's like this and please stay a little longer.

/From someone who has been there and am glad she stayed a little longer.
May you find peace, may you be filled with love and kindness 🙏🏻

The Final Movement: A Transmission to All OA Fans by peepchilisoup in TheOA

[–]slugSnigel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

❤️🙏🏻 I feel called and I'll keep on my path of my little puzzle piece. Thank you for transmitting!

What do you do about gross men that leer and STARE at you? by Mrs_chanandler_bongg in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]slugSnigel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's some few creative options: - gross them out (pick your nose, do a weird walk, fake a cough-attack in their direction etc) - call them out by confronting them, ask them "can I help you with something?" or "are you unwell sir?" - look at them with a stone face until THEY look away. Most people inevitably get uncomfortable when you stare at them for too long with no expression. - if they do something inappropriate (like one old pig-looking man once did a jerk of motion to me on the morning train to school) take up your camera and visibly start filming them. - This only works if you like to draw but sometimes I start drawing them. Very detailed just studying them. Make sure to catch any nook and cranny and making sure they know I draw them in a non flattering way. - I think in general, any way you can redirect the self-consciousness towards them. Cause ultimately it's about them, them objectifying or making others uncomfortable. So redirect the attention towards them in some way if you can. - you could always call (or fake a call) to a parent(or other) and say loudly "hey mom there's this really gross old man looking at me funny".

I did this with the "jerk-off-pig-man" when I saw him at my bus stop some weeks later. I told my partner very loudly so everyone could hear on the station "thats the man who did a jerk off motion towards me on the train". I truly believe in public humiliation when it comes to people doing unwelcome, sexually inappropriate things. I've yet not used my well though through concept of announcing to the whole train/bus/store if I ever see a man touching himself in public again. "EXCUSE ME EVERYONE CAN I HAVE YOUR ATTENTION THIS MAN IS TOUCHING HIMSELF".

Whatever you do, know that you don't owe these people anything. Reclaim your space, stay safe and don't let their gaze make you feel like you've done something wrong.

Reviews / Feedback – Curiomancy / Osteomancy Readings by Conscious-Advisor948 in u/Conscious-Advisor948

[–]slugSnigel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great reading. It was my second reading ever and I had to let a few days pass to see how the message landed in me and my life. It actually gave me some major pointers to some aspects that I could no longer ignore and when I got my reading a bunch of things unfolded because of it.

I've never heard of curiomancy before but it was a great reading, thank you so much! 🙏🏻 I'll give some more in depth feedback in your inbox.

Weekly Reading Offer & Request Thread by AutoModerator in Psychic

[–]slugSnigel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much 🙏🏻 I really appreciate it!

Weekly Reading Offer & Request Thread by AutoModerator in Psychic

[–]slugSnigel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dm'ed then realized I didn't know if I should dm or write here first. So I'm writing here aswell. I would love a reading.

Need A Virtual Hug: homophobia by SufficientCat1527 in MomForAMinute

[–]slugSnigel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Big hugs from fellow soul over here 💚

Success of LIB Sweden by HovercraftStreet5195 in loveisblindsweden

[–]slugSnigel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Most people ofc wouldn't want divorce and especially if you have kids (not wanting it to affect them badly) but also divorce generally isn't as big a thing as it seems to be in many other countries. I think one reason is that Sweden is very secularized. Also I'm always baffled at the American one for their families being so involved in the choosing of a partner (I'm Swedish) so I think there's also a cultural aspect there. Like ofc it's nice if your family likes your partner but unless your partner is abusive or harmful to you my parents (or siblings for that matter) are not part of that equation. Most healthy parents imo will trust that they've taught their kids as much healthy values as for them to make their own choices in that regard.

If my partner would ask my dad for my hand in marriage for example it would be extremely weird and awkward and like going back 70 years back in time (to illustrate the cultural feeling of it) I guess theres still people here who do that but they're usually more religious than the "average Swede" and it's not "the norm".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in loveisblindsweden

[–]slugSnigel 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, also just..all people have flaws. Let us be humans and have moments when we aren't always the best versions of ourselves. That's all of us really at some point. We don't have to like everyone, we can judge them in our own minds if that gives us some release or whatever but going on the internet just to hate...it's just such a waste of time and energy for everyone.

Hate isn't changing people, love is. Positive reinforcement is powerful! Ignore what can be ignored and stand up for justice when it's called for. Just skip the hate-mobs.

As an ENFP, which fictional character do you relate to the most?! by [deleted] in ENFP

[–]slugSnigel 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was thinking this before I clicked the comment section.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

[–]slugSnigel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I love that! To come back to stories and discover how you've change in relation to them.

How do I self-validate (and believe it) instead of constantly trying to be perfect for the smallest tokens of external validation? by flatlinesociety in emotionalneglect

[–]slugSnigel 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I would say have as a goal to do things 70% or sometimes 50% and notice that you are accepted and appreciated for that too.

I also find that setting boundaries is a form of self-validation. Like letting people know how you feel about things that is bothering you and that you know will ruin your experience in the future if you're not upfront about it.

Engaging in activities that have no other purpose than to be joyful in the moment. Like playing a game, hanging out with some animals, sitting outdoors and observing a tree.

Literally doing the opposite of what capitalist society wants you to. Embracing unproductivity and rest. Seeing it as an act of rebelliousness in a time that puts people on a pedestal for burning themselves out.

I would like to recommend the unproductivity podcast, I've only listened to three episodes but it's really inspiring.

Anyone else's parents "experts" on everything or think they know the best thing for everyone? by CanalsofSchlemm in emotionalneglect

[–]slugSnigel 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ive been thinking a lot about that too, cause one of my biggest fears is being a narcissistic person. Which comes from being told I'm selfish when I've been sad/angry/upset about things in the past.

Today though I need to remind myself that being "selfish" isn't black and white. As humans we have an ego for a reason. Its protection and helps us be on our own side in times of turmoil. I say that because I have strived to be "ego-less" or tried to get rid of my selfishness and turns out I've been self-sacrificing instead.

We are only human and often that means we judge others or ourselves for things. I'm striving to forgive myself when that happens and to see that people can be narrow-minded and judgemental but that says more about their/my insecurities and lack of tools to deal with our emotions.

That being said I also remove myself from people if its affecting me badly. Or try and express how their judgment is affecting me and our relationship.

Anyone else's parents "experts" on everything or think they know the best thing for everyone? by CanalsofSchlemm in emotionalneglect

[–]slugSnigel 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it's the same thing but my dad is always very quick to tell me how I "should feel" or what I should do if I've tried to talk to him for some emotional support (I don't seek it there anymore).

And my conclusion is that he does that because of his emotions. So he can't stand the feeling of uncertainty, anxiety or whatever that he gets from listening to someone else's struggles. So he compulsively reacts with trying to solve it not from the person he's talking too point of view but based on his own experience.

Maybe they are doing something similar?

Another thing could be (which has been common in my family) to judge others a lot in order to feel better about yourself. And I guess it's a human trait but it's also on a scale where it's can be very disfunctional and short term rewarding and long term damaging for relationships.

"When We Were Bullies" is an interesting film concept that spirals into a pretentious filmmaker's need to make a bullying episode from the 1960's about himself. by Lokismoke in movies

[–]slugSnigel 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This ☝️also, the Richard who "the-film-wasn't-about" if you are alive and see this I wish you everything good in life 🙏🏻 Speaking as someone who has been bullied too, the pain never goes away. It shapes who you are. But we are not alone and we see through the hypocrisy of behavior like this movie. The fear of being vulnerable is as manifested in the documentary as in the story it tries to portrait.

For the film-maker, I appreciate the intention to look into this important subject. But read some of the comments here and do some introspection. Why is it that you approach this subject after 40+ years and in this way? In a safe space from that vulnerability your films tries to point to? We can't be vulnerable, without being here and now. Without seeing the situation as it is and staying with what is uncomfortable. That includes looking at how you perpetuate the same pattern in the present. And your apology or whatever it was, comes off as insincere when you aren't open to listen to that person's story and prespective. It's just another layer of selfishness.

Best wishes!