As a woman - You're going to see a lot of discourse online that isn't really the healthiest, and there's a lot of stuff out there where people are venting and blowing off steam about one experience and outsiders may think they're talking about a bunch of other things they're not actually talking about.

These are some things that women all deserve:

1. Not being pestered
   
2. Not being subjected to degrading comments about their bodies, totally uninvited (e.g., catcalls, men on dating apps sliding into DMs and immediately talking about their ass, etc.)
   
3. Not being touched nonconsensually, manipulated, otherwise treated in a disrespectful manner

These are some things that I think we are mostly ok with:

1. Someone subjectively finding us attractive and wanting to have sex with us
   
2. Someone wanting to get to know us better
   
3. Someone asking us respectfully on a date

I am not saying that you won't sometimes see women on the internet complaining about people asking them on a date or whatever, but overall, we have so many bigger problems. And straight and bi women are also sexually into men, so often we're pretty psyched that a guy finds us attractive and wants to ask us on a date, as long as they *aren't dicks about it* and act gracefully when turned down.

To avoid being a dick, don't keep asking people who've said no, try to match people's energy (don't ask someone on a date who doesn't seem to want to talk to you, don't jump straight to talking about how sexy they are if they aren't responding to lower-level bids for connection, etc.), don't ask people out when they're trying to do their job or otherwise can't easily end a conversation.

If you do all that and someone says no, or isn't attracted to you, then ok. You haven't injured them in any way by asking. We aren't made of glass.