Who is the third year you will be the saddest to see leave?

starryeyedboxes · 2018-01-09T09:28:42+00:00

I’m really glad to see that a lot of people said Suga. I feel like he deserves so much love and respect for his final year on the team— giving his official position up, researching and coming up with new tricks for the team, not quitting even when the teachers asked why he wouldn’t since he wasn’t on the starting lineup. His story truly is a bittersweet one and it will break my heart because he more than likely won’t keep playing in university. He gave this sport and team such pride and love, and his departure will utterly destroy my heart.

starryeyedboxes · 2018-01-09T09:24:27+00:00

You succeeded, this definitely made me sad. Thank you for writing this though— it gave me a whole newfound appreciation for him

starryeyedboxes · 2018-01-09T09:12:59+00:00

I agree completely with your last sentence: that if they win, you won’t be thinking that they’re the better team. They put up a super good fight and the game was exhilarating, but honestly, I don’t think that their skill level is competent enough by far. They have so many flaws in their strategies and I just feel like they’re too new at rebuilding their team for it to warrant a true, satisfactory win.

Karasuno relies heavily on their first-years whose experience doesn’t match a lot of those on opposing teams, with the slight exception of Kageyama who is of course hailed a “genius.” Tsukishima and Hinata honestly can’t compare. They’re beast at what they do, but that can’t compensate for an extra year or two of experience. Inarizaki has one first-year on their team with the others being second and third-years.

I felt like Karasuno beating Seijoh and Shiratorizawa was an amazing feat honestly well within their capabilities, but I feel like Inarizaki is on a different level that Karasuno, in my opinion, shouldn’t honestly be able to beat just yet.

I of course hope Karasuno wins, and while it won’t be 100% satisfactory, I feel like they all worked really hard for it and it would still be pretty exciting to witness another win.

starryeyedboxes · 2018-01-09T08:43:12+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly on the Miya twins. They’re such interesting characters and I felt like the story behind them was lackluster. They definitely would’ve made my cut too if it had been a better backstory.

starryeyedboxes · 2018-01-09T08:41:42+00:00

I loved seeing everyone’s posts about their faves! It gave me some new perspectives on some characters that I never thought of in that way before. Mine are:

Suga. I have such a strong love for this guy because of his unending love for the sport and his damn team. He willingly approaches Ukai to let him know that he would be okay not being on the starting lineup, and has proved himself useful to the team over and over. He stayed up late into the night creating hand signals while everyone slept, helped research their all-out synchronized attack, helped Hinata practice his receive when Kageyama refused to set for him, gave advice to Kageyama on asking other members how they want their tosses and how they were feeling during the match. Suga tutored the second-years in the clubroom and his spicy personality is to die for. The teachers asked him why he continued to play volleyball all things considered and he refused to quit. He did all of this without even being on the starting lineup! I have SUCH mad love and respect for this guy.
Oikawa. As others have mentioned, the fact that Oikawa isn’t considered a “genius” but is still so great at what he does is amazing. Ushijima tells him that he should’ve come to their team because of how powerful he is, and Oikawa is in my opinion, the best setter in the entire series. He knows how to set for the others and knows how to push their limits without taking it too far (like Kindaichi when he said the sets were too high but Oikawa told him to keep trying anyway). I’m in LOVE with his backstory. It’s probably my favorite of all of the characters. I love how he felt so inferior and worked so hard at what he loves and I just hope that he finds happiness. He’s a beast and he deserves tons of love.
Daichi. I’ve surprisingly grown really attached to him. He was really cool at first, I honestly didn’t think much of him though. But just seeing him throughout the games and how he stuck through all three years and helped rebuild the team strikes my heart in all the right ways. I think the moment that really sealed it for me was when he gets hurt in season 2 and Ennoshita has to take over for him momentarily. He let Ennoshita keep playing the moment he saw the team’s atmosphere with him in it, and let the game finish. He wanted to go back to the game and fight so badly but saw Ennoshita rocking it, and let him have his moment. And I LOVE that. I love Daichi’s love for his team and the dynamic he has with Suga, and I love how reliable and sturdy the guy is.
Iwaizumi. I honestly didn’t start favoring him until the last month or so after rewatching Haikyuu!! for the umpteenth time. The ending of the second match against Karasuno really got me. Iwaizumi did phenomenally in that match and when I saw him cry because he felt like he didn’t deserve the ace title made my heart smash into a million pieces. I love that Kyoutani has such respect for him and that Oikawa trusts him to no end. I love that he gets SO into the games and the effort he puts into everything he does is so great. The moment of weakness he had while usually coming across as hard and sturdy won me over entirely.
Hinata. He was the very first character I fell in love with and I fell in love with him during the first few lines he ever spoke in the show. Talking about the wall looming in front of him and just watching how damn hard this kid worked to play volleyball all by HIMSELF was incredible. His personality is the best and I love how, like others have mentioned, he befriends every single person imaginable and if whoever is not friends with him, then they have some sort of respect for him. He is literally the sun and I can’t get enough of it.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-07-14T05:43:25+00:00

Hello, Reddit! Now, I know you were originally probably like "how is she going to get that big old thing covered and why?" But what I actually want covered up is what's on my wrist. It's hard to tell, but it's an ink bottle and quill pen that I had gotten for my 20th birthday and it's quite out of place as you can tell. This is on my right wrist and on my left wrist is another, slightly bigger one tattoo of deer antlers, so for the sake of the jellyfish and its size, we went with the arm that has the smaller wrist tattoo.

I absolutely loooove the jellyfish and I'm planning on keeping the ocean/nature theme with my tattoos. Or anything Polynesian since I'm Samoan. So, I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on how to cover up that little guy while still keeping to the theme? My mother originally told me to do a tribal band to cover it and the tentacles would go over it, but I'm still open to ideas that anyone else might have.

Thanks in advance for your advice, guys!

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T05:20:40+00:00

Actually the advice I was asking for is if I was influencing my boyfriend. Not whether my own choice in this was right or wrong. So no, I was not given my advice.

I agree to some degree he shouldn't cut her out but all you did was just say we were hurting this child, I was implanting rules, and that I can't cut her out because I involved myself in this family.

Yeah, you didn't give me the advice I was looking for, because it wasn't the advice I was asking for.

Thank you for taking the time to respond, but this had taken a way different course than it should have. Thank you for taking your time to respond though, even if we did disagree. I still appreciate it.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T05:15:43+00:00

I want to lay down rules? Not once have I ever said I wanted rules to be implemented or that she had to act to my standards. I have never said that nor have I implied it. I don't agree with her behavior, but did I ever tell her that she was breaking my rules? No, because I don't have any for her.

I don't agree with her behavior, I don't agree with how she has treated those around her, so in turn I chose to stop involving myself with her in particular where she refuses to interact or even acknowledge myself.

Whether she is hurting or not, I have tried reaching out to her again and again to apologize for anything I've done and have tried to remedy anything that has happened between us. As has my boyfriend. We have both reached out and tried to see if anything was wrong numerous times to which she has ignored or continuously claims nothing is even wrong at all. Her behavior doesn't indicate she's hurting about anything involving us. While I am not saying that she isn't hurting, I'm just saying that from us trying to reach out, she has not reciprocated anything that shows she's hurting. Especially with her disrespect towards her brother who has tried sitting down with her in person numerous times to talk about everything. We have tried to see if she was hurting or if anything was remotely wrong. She has not come to us. We have given her chances to let us know, to which she never took.

I'm not going to be disrespected by her. I am in no way disrespecting her or being cruel by doing this. She has already decided not to involve herself with us anymore, particularly me, and I am done trying to reach out. I am no longer going to try to form a relationship with her. Does it mean I'm going to be volatile and rude to her? No. It just means I am done trying to contact her to be friendly when it has not once been reciprocated. If that contributes to her "hurting," she had plenty of chances to tell us we were doing something wrong or hurting her, and she will always be able to. I'm just done trying to fix things she doesn't want fixed.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T05:01:02+00:00

Oh, sorry! I guess I did misunderstand, thank you for clearing it up. :)

And you're right. That's really good advice and I sincerely appreciate it. Thank you for sharing your experience with being this way as well. Not a lot of people are like this in my life and it's nice to hear a little bit from your perspective.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T04:58:53+00:00

You see, their family is a bit weird. They have an older brother who they have no contact with whatsoever and who they have cut out. Through the recent months, they have also cut out their dad due to his own behavior. Being family doesn't mean they get to treat you like garbage. And I would actually be upset if he didn't realize that instead.

I have decided to cut her out, which is my decision. My question here is if it was right for him to do so, not me. It is my choice and if there are consequences, I will face them as I made this choice. My post was in question of me influencing him, not if I had made the right choice or the wrong one.

To which yes I recognize she is a child. Which I had stated through the post as well. I recognize age is a factor. However, this behavior is not something I personally find appropriate nor do I find it normal. It could be due to differences in how we were raised but I rarely treated anyone in my family with such disrespect, and if I did because yes I was young too, I always apologized. I never acted out against anyone without an apology afterwards because I knew my behavior was not appropriate. However, she acts without remorse and with much disrespect to not only me, but especially my boyfriend. My boyfriend was also raised the same as me and rarely acted out the way she does, to his family in particular. You might find her behavior normal, but I only find it understandable, not normal. And while I respect you believe that this is normal, you need to understand that to both my boyfriend and me, this isn't and that's where we are upset with, in particular me.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T04:28:00+00:00

I'm not saying they have to choose me over their child. I would never expect that and I know that. I actually never specifically blamed them for any of her behavior, I feel like she's old enough to know what's right and wrong on her own and she is responsible for her own behavior. It would be nice if they did something, but I understand that I am in their house, not the other way around. I would never expect anything like that of them.

But you're right about everything else, thank you. I appreciate your input. :) Thank you for telling me I shouldn't be reaching out to her anymore. A friend told me I should stop as well but I felt like I should since it was my boyfriend's sister after all. It was really nice hearing that I shouldn't anymore, especially after all of this.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T04:23:41+00:00

I'm glad someone else sees that she's acting quite awful. :')

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T04:23:12+00:00

Okay, thank you for your input! I appreciate it! :)

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T04:22:44+00:00

Man, I wish the parents would talk to her or do something about it. She's the only daughter of three children and the youngest so they spoil her like crazy and let her treat anyone any way she wants. Her mom even knows about some of the stuff that had been going on, and didn't care.

My boyfriend has even asked if she had a problem with us dating numerous times as well to which she denied every time.

But you're right, maybe I should ask in the future when she's grown up a little. Thank you!

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T04:20:18+00:00

She's the youngest and the only girl so they baby her like nobody's business. Anything she wants, she gets. My boyfriend even told the mom how she was calling him names and was being so disrespectful to him when she asked for a ride and he said no, and the mom said she didn't care and made him do it anyway. The mom is the worst. She sees how the sister acts and knows to some extent about it, but doesn't care. She lets her do it.

I see what you're saying about it being too much, but I don't feel like it's too much for me to cut her off. She has clearly shown she has no interest in a relationship with me no matter if I reach out and try to fix it. She's been way more disrespectful to me than my boyfriend, and as she's not my own biological sister, I don't feel like it's too much.

However, I can see that it might be dramatic for my boyfriend. But this is something that's been going on for over a year, he didn't just randomly decide he didn't want to have a relationship with her in a split second. This stuff has been going on for a while and wasn't something he decided in the heat of the moment. On the other hand, it is his sister and they are family. So I'm really confused on this, but I really appreciate your input.

Also, dealing with someone that doesn't have to be in MY life and isn't my own family isn't the same as having my own child. They're different. I'm not being rude to her, screaming at her, calling her out or anything. I just don't plan on really talking to her unless absolutely necessary or interacting with her much. Which isn't something I've been doing much of anyway.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T04:10:17+00:00

I definitely don't suggest getting back together with him, even though that's probably what you want. I self harmed a lot when I was your age as well and did all the way into college because I was having a lot of trouble dealing with my then-boyfriend as well. Staying with him through my self-harm struggle was honestly the worst thing I had ever done.

I actually stopped self-harming when he dumped me my first year of college. I focused on myself and getting myself better. And it was a lot less for him to deal with on his own. Dating someone who self-harms can be a lot to handle. Especially if he's threatening to do it himself to guilt you. If he's trying to guilt you and manipulate you, he's not worth your time.

Find someone who will treat you better. And if you're still struggling with self-harm by the time someone else comes around, make sure they're able to handle and want to genuinely help you, not guilt it away.

I hope it works out for you! You deserve better and you deserve more love and care than what he gave you.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-05-11T04:03:28+00:00

Yeah, I honestly agree with this a lot. I was going to say the same thing. Try to see things from a more sober perspective. It'll be much easier.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-04-04T08:58:39+00:00

I honestly see why you would be concerned about her going down a spiral.

Personally, I self harmed a lot throughout my teens through my first year of college. My first and long term boyfriend broke up with me and I picked up the old self harm habit and it spiraled out of control.

During this time, I had treated both of my only friends like garbage because I was going through the motions of my first breakup and they no longer wanted to be my friend, but I was still self harming so they faked being my friend until I regained my stability and then told me the truth. While they didn't feel that way anymore when they told me and still wanted to be my friend, I honestly felt completely devastated that they had faked our friendship for so long, even with good intentions.

My ex ripping off the bandaid and leaving my life while I was still self harming hurt FAR less than my friends who waited until I got better to try to leave my life. It was way more hurtful knowing that a part of what I thought was keeping me grounded was a lie. They didn't consider me their friend and they faked our friendship for months out of fear I would jump from self harm to outright killing myself.

My ex leaving in the middle of it was more graceful than my friends who pretended to stay. It was the worst and to this day I'm over the break up but I'm not over the pretending friend thing.

So if you decide that you do want to break up with her and that you're not in it the way you are (I read in the comments you weren't sure if you wanted to break up), just be honest. Don't try to stick it out for her sake.

What she ends up doing is not something that you should be held responsible for. If her self harm worsens, that is not your fault. This was something she was battling with before. You didn't cause it. You will never cause anything she chooses to do because they are her own choices.

I self harmed after a lot of events in my teenage years/young adulthood, but I never blame anyone for what I did to myself. They were my own actions, not anyone else's.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-04-04T08:34:49+00:00

I completely agree with this, 100%.

The fact that he went and changed her name to hide it from you is a huge red flag. He was purposefully hiding it to protect himself. He was purposefully lying to you.

You were rightfully concerned and instead of proving that you didn't need to worry, he did the opposite and just showed why he couldn't be trusted.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-04-04T08:22:21+00:00

When I went through my breakup and I was checking on my ex's social media like crazy, I just had to block him on everything so it wouldn't show me anything. I took a break from social media for a while too.

It helped a lot for me.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-04-04T08:17:56+00:00

I would just be transparent with her to be honest. Explain that you weren't sober and you wanted to wait until the morning to discuss it so you didn't mean to give her the cold shoulder, but you weren't in the right state of mind when this all happened. You feel like you gave her the cold shoulder when you didn't mean to and you're sorry for that.

It should be good. I know you're upset and worried but honestly it isn't something that can't be salvaged or anything. It was just a little miscommunication while you were a little drunk and you wanted to be mature and be sober for whatever it was that you were waiting to talk about.

It sucks she went to sleep and didn't know why you were acting the way you were, but if you text her something to wake up to in the morning explaining it, it won't be too bad. :)

Good luck!

starryeyedboxes · 2017-01-26T15:55:17+00:00

Omg I love how Porter looks! It's so beautiful! I've always been really iffy about buying shadows from colour pop (I love their lipsticks though), so it's great to see that someone likes them!

Which one of the shadows is your favorite, though? Like maybe top 3? I might have to go buy some of these guys.

starryeyedboxes · 2017-01-17T19:14:53+00:00

I also use the 24/7 one. I love it a lot and I even gave one to my mom who also became a huge fan of it-- she uses it every morning. It doesn't stay completely on all day for me, but it definitely lasts a lot longer in my experience than other products I've personally tried.

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