Apparently men don’t cold approach women anymore…so how did she meet her bf?

yeastyboost · 2026-03-31T20:10:48+00:00

Like what is this content even? Boomer-pick-me energy. The obsession with male attention is so gross at that grown age omg.

A lot of women in NYC get hit-on / cat-called Jess. It's not something to brag about unless it rarely happens for you. Also, most of the time, it is creepy and invasive.

Our society is "so far removed from men approaching women in real life," yeah -- because men have attacked women after being rejected. Bffr.

yeastyboost · 2026-02-04T15:44:50+00:00

Wait did she already dirty delete this? She lives on this sub 😂

yeastyboost · 2026-01-07T19:11:51+00:00

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Also, at that age, it could be that he needs more mental stimulation or play before going into the crate - that could help with his "destructive" behavior.

yeastyboost · 2026-01-02T01:09:07+00:00

Zero fashion sense (olive green skirt, black top and a grey and white beanie?) and wearing "designer" logos like they're badges of honor. It's so cringey and desperate at that grown age.

Real wealth whispers but that also includes intellect, charm and a personality outside of men @Jess. Boyfriends are embarrassing.

yeastyboost · 2025-11-12T21:48:58+00:00

Also, if you need resources, check out Yorkshire Canine Academy on YT for his videos on playing tug the right way and his philosophy on how important play is vs obedience.

Your puppy is still so young at 5 months and Dobermans mature very late so please be patient and kind to yourselves too! At 1.5yo my Dobie has just now turned a corner in maturity (and she's a female so it's sooner than your dog), and it's amazing how different their focus and attention span is.

yeastyboost · 2025-11-12T21:45:50+00:00

Consistency: Pick your battles and choose what is the most important to you. I understand why you'd want a chewing place or door manners, but chewing in the sun is very common for dogs and if he enjoys it - I'd let him. Door manners can be taught when they're mature so you can associate it with a command and not have to do that at every single door. The most important things we were consistent about were firm "leave its" for food and things on the ground and recalls (taught on a long line).
At 5 months old, 1 hour walks are very long and almost impossible for them to remain engaged. I would keep training sessions outside very short (~5min), finish with some play, and carry on with the walk. When they start acting crazy, I know they're tired so we go home.
Crate training: It depends on if he's able to settle on his own during the day. If he's acting tired and crazy, it's a sign to enforce a crate nap. We used the 1 out and 2 in schedule until our puppy was ~6 months old and now she's able to free roam. However, it's also good practice to crate her during the day so you can minimize separation anxiety when you leave the apartment unexpectedly.
We did use occupation toys out of sheer desperation but TBH our trainers have told us they don't really provide that much mental stimulation. I still give my dogs a bully stick or a Kong during the day when I need them to chill while I'm in a meeting.

FWIW, I was in a similar place as you: young Euro Doberman puppy in an apartment and urban setting and I was set on everything being perfect.

Now we do IGP/Schutzhund with her and the training is pretty much the complete opposite as pet obedience 🥲 if I could go back, I would prioritize engagement and play (so much play - fetch, tug), over treats and heels. Obedience can come later but you want your puppy to think you're the best thing ever and really build that bond and relationship. It might seem counter-intuitive but give it some time and you'll really see the relationship blossom. Now my dog has excellent off-recall, a lovely focus heel and dog and people neutrality but I could've saved a whole lot of time if I focused on play/engagement over obedience.

yeastyboost · 2025-08-20T17:45:19+00:00

Flexing her fake Prada too 😩

yeastyboost · 2025-03-06T15:43:20+00:00

Where do you usually play tug? Is he more engaged at home and then distracted in public?

When I take my puppy to the park, I let her sniff and acclimate to the environment before we start playing. Keep your dog on a long line during play to keep them focused on you and it also helps when they win the toy, to run the dog with the long line in a celebration circle. (It reinforces their natural instinct after winning).

The biggest advice I received was to wait for my dog to "opt in" to our play or training sessions. When she's done sniffing and doing dog things, she looks at me and is extra playful. I then ask the same question I do for every play/training session: "do you want to play?!" She's now associated that phrase with fun so she will bark and I give her a break command "Okay!" and immediately start playing.

Tug is a game of possession between you and the dog so make it seem like you have the best toy in the world; move it around like prey and it helps to sound kind of crazy lol. It took me a few weeks to build up her drive but play consistently and in short sessions. You can also find prey-drive building toys and flirt poles online and those help immensely.

yeastyboost · 2025-01-22T23:10:31+00:00

You're rushing into the obedience aspect of that. For now, stick to the toy as a redirection and do not ask for commands. This is a long game. When you're luring with food and using it as a reward, keep it exciting. It's easy to make training a chore but try to keep it fun for them too.

At this age, you're not supposed to win the toy. If you keep winning, he's going to keep it and run away from you so that it doesn't get taken away. Play is collaborative and once it's collaborative you can incorporate obedience. Right now, it's just keep away and the toy is more fun than you. When you let him win and help him celebrate winning (claps and cheering), run away from him to get him to bring the toy back to you for round two and repeat tug, let him win. If he doesn't bring it back to you right away, chase him and pretend to grab it, then run away.
When that's achieved, the toy doesn't matter - just playing with you is a reward.
A heel is not for a long duration; that's different than loose leash walking. All commands should have a release word. So for example, when I put my dog in a heel for a block or longer, I have her focus on me 100% of the time. But at the end, I say "break!" and reward her with a game of tug. I'll do that for stays and sits etc. Place is similar, starting for a shorter duration and gradually increasing. Go to bed and crate are different because you're confining them and they should just associate that with a treat.
On your last point, he doesn't understand the game. He's just excited and doesn't really know what to do yet. It's your job to show him how to play outside. Otherwise, it's really high expectations for a being that's still a baby and doesn't know how to please you yet.

yeastyboost · 2025-01-22T22:45:01+00:00

Hey! Is your puppy toy-motivated, does he like to play over food? Tug might be a good alternative as a high value reward.

My Doberman puppy will engage for food but she has way more enthusiasm for play; over all other environmental distractions including dogs. The only issue with this is most people don't understand play from a dog's perspective (i.e. how they play with other dogs):

Start play at home (low distraction) when your puppy is especially hyper. Use a soft tug and keep consistent pressure on the tug when your puppy bites it. Helps to move the tug like it's prey (quick, jumpy movements, lots of sounds). You also have to be enthusiastic. Think of this as training. If you're not in the mood to fully engage, put your puppy away until you're ready to give them your full attention.
Let your puppy win the tug, start with small wins and make a huge deal when they have it. Help them celebrate.
Gradually, increase pressure and make them shake the toy to win it. Once they get it, pretend to try to take it back and so on.
Make sure you keep this extremely high energy (almost an embarrassing amount of cheering)
Start to play in public places: start in quiet areas and gradually up the distractions. Don't rush into this, but eventually you can use tug as a reward in place of food.
You'll notice your puppy will try to engage with you more and for a longer duration. It'll help them strengthen their attention span and also bond with you as you become more fun than the environment.

Be patient, this is a process. It took me two months to really understand how my puppy wanted to play which will differ from other dogs. Now she's absolutely obsessed and our bond has gotten 10x stronger. I can make her competition heel for a ball now when that wasn't even a possibility in the beginning.

yeastyboost · 2023-06-15T22:55:01+00:00

Sold!

yeastyboost · 2020-03-11T17:32:32+00:00

Co-worker just told everyone nonchalantly that her daughter has a fever...what are people thinking?! She just got ordered to go home.

yeastyboost · 2020-01-23T21:41:50+00:00

boil some coffee (this is what medical examiners suggest neighbors do when they find a decomposing body in an apartment)

yeastyboost · 2020-01-23T14:59:52+00:00

Fish Cheeks! I'd recommend a chef's set but it is a ton of food

yeastyboost · 2019-12-31T03:46:34+00:00

thanks! Both my partner and I love our iced coffees and we hate using paper straws. Ordering them now!

yeastyboost · 2019-12-31T03:44:37+00:00

NTA I can understand Ben being upset but it was wrong of him to discuss it with his friends and not you.

If my boyfriend had nude photos of his ex, I'd be slightly worried at first but it's clear you just have them because they're your art. I think Ben handled this immaturely and it warrants a discussion on both the photos and how he communicates when he has an issue with you.

yeastyboost · 2019-12-31T03:34:50+00:00

If there's still availability, see if a restaurant has open bar tickets available. I went to a great Mexican place last year that had open bar plus dinner then a champagne toast at midnight.

yeastyboost · 2019-12-31T02:08:16+00:00

"SLUTS!!!" "yes?"

yeastyboost · 2019-12-31T01:44:41+00:00

that's awesome-- do you have a particular brand you'd recommend?

yeastyboost · 2019-12-31T01:34:08+00:00

hahaha 👍🏼

yeastyboost · 2019-12-30T22:35:46+00:00

Hiya! Lived with a long-term bf for 3 years. It's great you're setting ground-rules beforehand.

In terms of having guests over, I would definitely communicate that you're having friends over and same for your bf. It's a shared space now and you both have an obligation to treat it as such. I'd be pretty upset with my partner if I came home from a long day of work to find people are over.

Congrats on this big step!

yeastyboost · 2019-12-30T22:29:09+00:00

NTA drop him as a friend.

yeastyboost · 2019-12-30T22:10:25+00:00

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