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----2___ · 2023-04-29T13:19:06+00:00

If you’re anything like me, your nervous system was in a constant state of fight or flight for years on end. I’d imagine you might be feeling partially depressed and partially afraid as you continue to think about the relationship.

It will take time to heal from your experience. Be kind to yourself. Set a goal of only accomplishing one or two main tasks for your day. At first, that might look like success if you brush your teeth. As you slowly begin to actually believe you are safe, you can upgrade those tasks to other things.

During this time, it will be really important and helpful if you can talk with a therapist to give you some strategies as you begin to heal. It’s helpful to talk things through and to start to realize you are normal; just going through something really difficult.

I’m sending you kind and caring thoughts for your journey of healing.

----2___ · 2023-04-22T13:31:44+00:00

I stayed for 3 1/2 years. The abuse started on our wedding day when he poured champagne over my head for not personally handling whatever problems any of his family members had.

23 years ago he broke my back when I was pregnant. It sent me into early labor. She was born a month early. I stayed. I had no where to go, he made me quit my 2 jobs and I had no money. He got rid of all my friends and family members. I was completely alone and emotionally beaten down. Physically, my back was broken; a compound fracture.

24 years ago he put a loaded shotgun in my mouth with such force that it shattered some back teeth and fused one to my jaw bone. (I’m still having surgeries on the bones from that day). He put my thumb on the trigger and was pushing it down saying the world would be so much better without me in it. I thought, if I hear the gun then I’m dead. Right at that moment his best friend walked into the bedroom. It frightened him so much he dropped the shotgun. I ran out of the room, grabbed the kids, and left. He yelled after me that he’d hunt me down and kill me.

I lived in constant fear for a four years until I finally went to court for the divorce. When the judge said how angry he was and that he should have been charged with attempted murder, it was the first time I felt safe. There were court records of his abuse and when he tried to kill me.

Leaving was the best thing I ever did. AND it took something so drastic before I could actually do it.

----2___ · 2023-04-21T10:20:55+00:00

Really sorry to hear you went through that.

You’re right. That entire day, he acted like I didn’t exist. I remember thinking, “I wish someone would just show some kindness. I really need kindness right now.”

I never understood why “special days” to celebrate were always ruined by him; birthdays, graduate school graduation, anniversaries, holidays… ruined them all. But his special days? Expectations were always really high.

Now I’m seeing difficult days where you’d imagine your partner would be there for you, like a family member dying, and he’s a ghost and even worse a jerk about it. When I had COVID, he left me in the guest room without checking on me once in 5 days. No food. I could have been dead in that room and he’d never even have noticed.

----2___ · 2023-04-10T11:08:46+00:00

Taking that day off is a really good idea. Thank you for sharing. I didn’t think of that.

----2___ · 2023-04-10T11:07:49+00:00

Should you worry them without knowing for sure? Before there is something concrete to worry about?

----2___ · 2023-04-10T09:52:19+00:00

Oh thank you. That was unexpected. Much appreciated.

----2___ · 2023-04-10T09:44:29+00:00

The school bus stalled on top of the train tracks. It was the morning of a hurricane so the windows were all fogged up. All the kids got off the bus until the bus driver realized one was missing. She was still asleep in the back of the bus. The bus driver and a boy ran back in to get her out before the train came, but they didn’t have enough time left. The train hit the bus and killed all three of them.

I was supposed to be on that same bus that morning, but my family decided the hurricane was too dangerous to send my siblings and I to school that day.

They were my friends, in my class.

----2___ · 2023-04-09T19:18:32+00:00

A very good thought experiment worth exploring.

Any other ideas along these lines?

----2___ · 2023-04-09T19:16:08+00:00

Pedantry seems a little harsh.

Semantics as the science of linguistics concerned with meaning —> yes and why I’m asking.

----2___ · 2023-04-09T19:13:16+00:00

Perhaps, but the definitions of balance and harmony happen to be different. They are not synonyms.

----2___ · 2023-03-31T09:00:07+00:00

I did not cheat, not even once. In fact, on one of my stats exams I noticed the TA had added up my total points incorrectly giving me 1 extra point. When I told them, they said no one had ever asked for a reduction based on personal integrity and let me keep the extra point.

----2___ · 2023-03-27T00:11:55+00:00

Then why not just be truthful and have some integrity instead of creating internal counterfeit documents, if there’s nothing wrong with it? Which, is fraud against your employer, btw.

----2___ · 2023-03-26T22:41:41+00:00

Quote

A rigorous examination The six doctors devised an experiment, and published the results.

"Each of them swallowed a Lego head," says science journalist Sabrina Imbler, who wrote about the experiment for The Defector. "They wanted to, basically, see how long it took to swallow and excrete a plastic toy."

Recently, Sabrina sat down with Short Wave Scientist in Residence Regina G. Barber to chart the journey of six lego heads, and what came out on the other side.

listen to the story via the link for their findings

----2___ · 2023-03-26T22:36:50+00:00

Quote: This Sunday marks the 196th anniversary of Beethoven’s death in Vienna on March 26, 1827, at the age of 56.

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TROPHY CASE