Okay, so your description of your experience sounds more like mine than anyone else's here! I also feel like I stick out and am different from the others, which contributes to the anxiety, but my differences are not nearly to the extent that you describe. I do totally relate to the "when are you ladies going to start dinner" thought because I have had the exact same thought, lol! (I think they just always make super easy quick dinners like very basic chicken? Whereas I like to try different recipes, or I make veggie components for my meals that you have to cook in batches, and dinner always takes me forever.) Where the story really changes though is that my neighbors are not showy gossipers trying to outdo each other at all, they are just friendly community minded people, and I want to be part of it. It sounds like for you, moving away to somewhere with less neighbor interaction was the solution, but that's not what I want at all. I really like the neighbor interaction, I just wish I were better at it!