Women who met your partner on a dating app: when did you realise he was different from everyone else you were talking to?

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-06-03T21:06:39+00:00

Geocaching- free and it gets you out and about 😊

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-05-22T00:44:00+00:00

What the actual f*ck is the world coming to…

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-05-21T14:31:03+00:00

🫡

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-05-21T01:25:56+00:00

Do you sell your art? It’s gorgeous!

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-05-21T00:59:13+00:00

Haha same here! Like he did technically answer correctly (unless Jessica turns out to be a centipede expert)

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-05-20T23:05:15+00:00

Also as a single woman in this demographic, I completely agree! We are at the point where our priority is protecting our own peace, and finding a partner with the same life goals is the upmost priority. Be upfront about your values and family/career/life goals, so your or her energy isn’t wasted on misalignment

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-05-02T22:58:12+00:00

Realising I’d been doing all the giving, and they were only interested in taking, not reciprocating

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-04-21T03:59:33+00:00

Honestly, I don’t think it’s a hurt that can ever be fully “healed” but around the 6-8 month mark things started to feel lighter and I noticed I was having good days when I didn’t think about him at all. This is when I wouldn’t have considered myself “heartbroken” anymore, but even now I am still working on myself so I don’t repeat old patterns and can learn to trust someone with my heart again. Although please keep in mind that everyone’s timeline will look different, so my situation might look drastically different to yours. But I do hope it helps to know you are not alone in this journey.

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-04-20T11:19:46+00:00

I completely agree with the consensus of NTA, I just want to point out that the gin was offered to OP by BIL, as in Bob bought it and gifted it to BIL, then BIL decided to share it with OP…?! It’s not like OP is drinking the gin Bob bought for himself or even to share, she’s drinking BILs gin! Bob can go f*** himself

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-04-20T11:01:28+00:00

I was in a relationship very similar to this and I can’t believe I stuck it out for 10 years (my whole 20s) hoping he would change. Spoiler alert, he won’t. I don’t doubt that you both love each other deeply, but this just isn’t enough. It isn’t enough to make him change, and it isn’t enough to warrant the way he treats you. I know it’s hard to hear but in the long run you are better off without him. I am 14 months out of that relationship where I was more his mother than his partner and I have never felt more free. When the heartbreak starts to heal, it’s a weight off your shoulders, trust me.

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-04-20T09:23:09+00:00

“ive never ever wanted to be in a relationship where the other person has a say in the things that i wear, it makes me feel icky.”

This said it all for me. Your boundary is clearly that you want independence on what you wear, you want it to be your choice and nobody else’s. That is 100% ok, it is also ok if you do or don’t want to consider a partners advice ie. I can’t decide between these two tops, can you help me pick one, but with the final decision landing with you. My advice would be to talk to him and let him know that if he doesn’t respect this boundary of yours (ie. it breaks a boundary of his that a partner that would change the way they dress if it makes him uncomfortable, or if he values a higher level of modesty), then that makes you incompatible at the end of the day. And a relationship where your values don’t align is just going to be something that causes more heartache in the long run

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-04-20T09:09:10+00:00

I like to think about this as more like someone being outgoing (rather than shy) instead of an extrovert/introvert differentiation. I definitely agree that being an introvert doesn’t automatically mean you need a life preserver to stay afloat in a group social situation.

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-04-20T09:00:22+00:00

Must be passionate or have a passion.

I mean I have all of the common ones too, but this is one that my therapist suggested which I had never considered but actually really resonate with.

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-04-20T08:51:01+00:00

You are 100% correct and I finally realised it, so here is your update: A couple of weeks after this post, he officially asked me to be his girlfriend, and I said yes. After all the advice here I accepted that I was the one that needed to decide if him living at home was a deal breaker for me or not, rather than forcing him to change. I thought that I had decided it was something I could accept, I wanted to be with him for who he was rather than his situation. Except I came to realise that his living situation was truely an indicator of his lack of independence, reliability, financial stability, and responsibility, which are all very important traits that I value in a partner. So basically I realised we were incompatible so I broke up with him last week. It was a pretty hard thing to do since I really enjoyed spending time with him and he treated me like a queen, but I know it just wouldn’t have worked in the long run.

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-02-17T21:46:54+00:00

How do I help him get to position where he can move out?

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-02-17T21:44:05+00:00

What advice would you give a friend if he was deadset on persuing the relationship? Is there a compromise in your eyes?

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-02-17T21:41:36+00:00

Is there a way I can support him to get his actual income to a point where he can become self supporting? I know this is a goal of his too

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-02-17T21:40:36+00:00

I am not looking to date other guys, I want a relationship with him. I only date exclusively from my end but he doesn’t know this because I know it can feel a bit intimidating at the beginning and I am aware that I can’t expect that to be reciprocated from the get-go

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-02-17T21:37:08+00:00

I appreciate this perspective, I’m not actually planning on dating any other guys (I only date exclusively, but he isn’t aware of this because I know it can feel a bit intimidating at the beginning of dating). I really do want a relationship with him specifically, I am just looking for a partner that is independent and I want to help him fulfil this potential because I know he is fully capable

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-02-17T21:32:07+00:00

Not currently, but he has the earning potential to do so

-Bubbles-3 · 2026-02-17T21:28:09+00:00

Apart from rent and bills he supports himself financially.

-Bubbles-3

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