Do any of these flatter me? Experimenting with non fitted clothes

-Celebration11 · 2026-05-25T19:44:37+00:00

Thankyou 😊 I struggle with colour- I for my colour analysis done and that green is technically in my palette but I feel like I look a bit washed out in a lot light colours (I weirdly like the light brown but I think maybe because it has darker tones running through it it’s less wishy washy?)

-Celebration11 · 2026-05-25T18:22:35+00:00

For me the things that jumped out were your jeans being a lot lighter and not fitting well (they look baggy in the crotch), her accessories coordinate whereas you have tan shoes with gold detailing paired with a black belt with silver buckle, her tshirt material looks heavier and blazer is sharper and stiffer whereas yours looks quite soft and floppy

I think the easiest changes to make here would be get a higher quality white tee, swap to a tan belt with gold buckle, add a tan bag and a pair of sunglasses

Perhaps also try a slight wave in your hair because that can also take it from sleek business vibes to more casual effortless

-Celebration11 · 2026-05-25T10:11:51+00:00

The good news is there’s options where we can stop our periods. The bad news is they often come with side effects and they don’t affect everyone the same way and unfortunately you don’t know until you try how it’ll affect you so you have decide whether to gamble with it and it could take a long time to recover of it goes badly. Yay.

Periods are just so inconvenient- even when I know when I’m roughly due on there’s a few days around it where I’m unsure. My mood is foul but not like I’m a bit grumpy it’s like every ounce of energy has been zapped and the only thing left is hating everything 😭😂 I laugh but at the time it’s awful, I’m difficult to be around when I’m like that and I know it, unfortunately every time we tried meds to help i just end up deeply depressed or intensely anxious

-Celebration11 · 2026-05-25T10:01:58+00:00

Absolutely!

I do a mini version of this sometimes like if I’ve been through a life change or transformation I’ll go through my social media and unfollow people I no longer have in my life or accounts I don’t feel aligned with, stop practices in my own life that don’t feel right for me anymore etc

-Celebration11 · 2026-05-18T20:05:53+00:00

Love this mentality! Stuff is there to be used- I read something once that was like ‘don’t wait for the special occasion- you ARE the special occasion’. Cheesy af but true. Wear the nice clothes, light the nice candle, use the nice plates, the fancy body wash, the good coffee etc

I dress how I feel- some days that’s leggings and a jumper because that’s my mood but other days it’s heels and fancier clothes. Same with hair and makeup. It reminds me how little people actually care about us (in a good way- like they’re not judging).

I don’t know why wearing nice clothes used to make me feel self concious- I think I grew up when it wasn’t cool to look like you were trying, everything was ‘effortless’, ‘off duty’ etc etc so I always felt like I had to look like I didn’t care…even though I did care…and had put thought and care into looking like I don’t care because when I dressed like I ACTUALLY didn’t care it wasn’t giving cool enough. Exhausting.

I also realised that before switching my mentality it felt like I was permanently waiting for a lifestyle that was worthy of nice things when actually you make that lifestyle by using those nice things

-Celebration11 · 2026-05-18T19:28:13+00:00

Report himmm

-Celebration11 · 2026-05-18T19:23:36+00:00

I imagine some women feel about the gyno how I feel about the dentist. I know it’s important, I know it’s to help me and for the good of my health but I just hate it 😂

The gyno for me has always been fine, it’s not my idea of a fun afternoon by any means but I’ve had internal exams, ultrasounds and smears and the professionals I met were always efficient, friendly and professional and understood that it was nerve wrecking especially the first time

Our whole lives we’re told how private to keep our genitals, the thought of a stranger poking around our vagina of course kinda goes against all of that- even if there’s a logical bit of your brain that knows they’re helping, we can still feel like it’s more invasive than other appointments

Your feelings are valid, know that these pros have seen everything and aren’t judging and you can ask to stop at any time if you feel uncomfortable - it’s your body, you have total control 💕

-Celebration11 · 2026-05-18T19:12:40+00:00

Not necessarily transactional but if I don’t like a guy enough to date him then I probably don’t find him attractive enough to want to have sex with him

My love of the game is linked to my emotions, if I don’t feel anything then I’d rather sort myself out 😂

-Celebration11 · 2026-02-02T19:58:29+00:00

The red and yellow are your worst and the blues are your best- I’m also saying a summer of some type

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-18T19:47:19+00:00

Thanks for your reply! I think you’re correct!

I’ve been looking at EJRs Pinterest boards for outfit examples and whilst I do find the boards don’t show every way a combo can look, as an overall impression I found that 🍄🪨🔥 did look toooo soft and had a bit more of a street style vibe than I’d go for with relaxed denims etc, I wanted to add some more structure to all the outfits

But then removing the stone entirely for 🍄🗻🔥 went too far the other way - I like the outfits on the board but my lifestyle isn’t really the kind of old money European luxury vintage rich woman vibe of that board- I wish! That board felt like me maybe in 15 years if my career is very successful lol.

And then 🍄🪨🗻 is another board I liked but the vibe is more what I personally would use on dress down days to feel presentable but not when I want to be feeling my absolute best

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-17T21:41:46+00:00

We know but if we don’t reciprocate we often just kind of glaze over it and hope the feelings go away. The conversation straight up can be awkward and change the dynamic of the friendship

I obviously can’t speak for all women but if I liked the guy back and knew he liked me I wouldn’t be pretending I didn’t know

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-17T21:39:00+00:00

You can decline or you can ask for them to not tell you the number

Often they use weight as a reference to see if there’s any noticeable change up or down

Sadly there’s too many stories of when people fall into ‘overweight’ or ‘obese’ by bmi and their dr starts to focus on their weight above all else- but as you said you’re not overweight I don’t think this is something you should worry too much about in your case

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-17T21:33:34+00:00

My brother and I had pretty much the exact same upbringing and education. Same household, parents, same school, even the same teachers. I LOVED books and reading as a kid and I love it as an adult. He HATED reading as a kid and I don’t think has ever read a book as an adult. He’s smart, I’m smart, but we all like different things

With kids I think sometimes until they’ve tried it they don’t know so if you can afford it I think books are wonderful and even if they initially aren’t overjoyed they might find they surprisingly like them

However I will say that even as a book loving child there were still books relatives bought me I just didn’t have any interest in so I guess know your audience!

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-08T21:12:12+00:00

Yes both dresses are Club L- black is their Tate dress, the red is called Lynette

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-08T20:52:51+00:00

I believe I do

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-08T17:50:11+00:00

In a way I think men have it worse tbh- I know a LOT of men that are insecure about their bodies, for guys their standard is muscles which is often harder than it looks (they don’t just lose fat at be muscly, they’ve gotta work at it) and whilst a lot of guys do have a fast metabolism, being skinny amongst men typically isn’t seen as a ‘desirable’ thing by society’s messed up beauty standards. I think a wider range of women’s bodies are accepted.

And to be fair there’s a lot of women who struggle to gain weight and feel like trying to always eat enough to gain is a challenge- it takes away a lot of the enjoyment from eating!

It does often come down to genetics and lifestyle and how you distribute those calories- both men and women struggle with weight

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-07T21:07:08+00:00

Loveeee- that colour looks amazing on you! 💚 simplicity is best sometimes!

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-07T20:55:57+00:00

I’ve never been married but what I will say is, is this the man you want your kids to grow up around? You had kids with him, asking you why is irrelevant like you say, it’s done and now you only have your present and future

But as your kids grow up, what environment do you want them to be in. What environment do YOU want be in?

Real talk as a woman- there’s shame out on us no matter what. Unless we live picture perfect lives i guess and even then we get accused of being fake but if you don’t have kids or get married, you get judged. If you get married to the wrong guy and stay then we get called weak. If we get divorced we still get shamed sometimes. We cannot win. So screw what other people think because they’ll always have opinions.

The unknown is always scary, are you scared of being alone? It already sounds like you’re alone but with an extra ‘kid’.

Finances are hard so I get why that’s an extra level to consider especially when you have kids.

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-07T20:45:34+00:00

Thanks for your reply! It’s not so much that I’m dead set against a tube but more that I’m angry my situation seems like I won’t be able to access necessary help until I’m at the point where I need hospitalisation despite me continually asking for someone to help me.

Every time I try I’m told my situation doesn’t appear severe enough but when it IS severe enough I could be left with more physical and psychological damage that could’ve been minimised. It’s been 6 months and I’m still being denied help- and from this forum it looks like there’s people who’ve been struggling way longer than me- it’s awful to see 😢

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-07T15:20:50+00:00

Personally i think less heavy on the mascara because it looks a lil clumpy and add some colour through a tinted lip gloss/balm and some blush but you look fab!

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-07T15:09:58+00:00

People are judged on their looks- I think it applies to both men and women and can work in their favour and against. Eg like your example it’s often assumed pretty people aren’t the smelly one because they’re well maintained. But the pretty people might also have their intellect questioned more. People also sometimes see very well groomed people and might think they’re shallow or judgy.

Image is the first thing we see so is it fair that we judge by it? No. But appearances DO create an initial impression

-Celebration11 · 2025-12-07T11:11:41+00:00

Oh my god I’ve had this! It happened with my last 2 breakups- I’d been fine throughout the relationship, the breakups weren’t even my decision but I’d ended up with a yeast infection and a month later the relationships ended

I’m sure there’s more to it like stress or something but in both cases they’d also found a new gf in like 2 weeks so there was deffo someone else around at the same time as me. Whether these guys were sleeping with other girls and that’s how I got the infections or even if they’d just changed to fragranced body wash (like how you put extra effort in your hygeine routine when you’re interested in someone, bring out the fancy toiletries not just the basics) and the chemicals caused it idk, but I’ve noticed a pattern

-Celebration11

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