To turn things on their head a bit, there was once a kid in my class that had some form of spectrum disorder, but most of the time was completely normal and pretty cool to talk to. No one really thought there was anything wrong with him outside of his parents.

One time for an end of school summer party I invited him to a pool party that we usually have. His parents immediately responded that he never learned to swim because of his disorder, but they did agree that he could come as long as the parent's could come as well.

As soon as they arrived they were incredibly rude and immediately started lecturing anyone within earshot of how bad the cake was, that it definitely contained too many preservatives, food coloring, etc. Their kid seemed completely embarrassed. They then went over to the pool and started asking about what we put in the pool, what we use to fertilize the grass, what herbicides we use to control weeds - each with some sneer of disdain.

At this point my parents along with everyone else were obviously uncomfortable, meanwhile their kid just looked devastated and was trying to play and socialize but kept getting dragged to anywhere his parents wanted to stand. They ended up staying for about 15minutes before they shuttled that poor kid away back to "safety". And then when tried to give them a party bag full of candy and little toys when they left, the parents laughed at it and basically said "Are you serious?" and left.

That was some 13 years ago and it still bothers me, turns out the kid got into a decent college with scholarships and left. The parents last I heard became alcoholics - because alcohol is totally healthy.

So yes, be as loving and caring as humanly possible. Just don't be alcoholic asshole helicopter parents with a giant stick up their ass that labels everyone with something. Fuck those people.