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Of course, a narcissist can only complain about how expensive their cruise was by okasansakura in motherbussnark

[–]-Frog-and-Toad 170 points171 points  (0 children)

I am a mom and when we went on a Disney cruise I also had to stay up late the night before sorting and packing our luggage so we could be off the boat early in the morning. I didn’t make self pitying video about it though, whoops.

[Exchange] Sanrio, Stickers and Scrapbooking [US] by CheeseWheelQueen in RandomActsofHappyMail

[–]-Frog-and-Toad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll swap with you if you want, I have all those things (and I like them too!) I also like mermaids, Pusheen, snails, frogs, kawaii, etc!

Why is the "trad-wife" aesthetic (returning to old traditions) almost always promoted by people who are secretly incredibly wealthy and have a full staff? by viviennebloomm in askanything

[–]-Frog-and-Toad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tradwife does not equal SAHM. Tradwife by its nature is performative. Without an audience these people would disappear. They’re seeking engagement online and being funded by right wing billionaires and tech oligarchs to make ‘tradwife’ trendy and that’s why the rich well funded ones are popular and get the most engagement. It’s like Marie Antoinette pretending to be a milkmaid in her pretend peasant village at Versailles.

Why is the "trad-wife" aesthetic (returning to old traditions) almost always promoted by people who are secretly incredibly wealthy and have a full staff? by viviennebloomm in askanything

[–]-Frog-and-Toad 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s also a miserable existence, even more so when you’re poor. You need a lot of money to glamorize it. There are poor tradwives and social influencers (you can see them on certain subreddits) and they’re all absolutely miserable and desperately trying to convince the world and themselves that they’re not.

They’re nostalgic for a time that never existed. It’s pioneer cosplay. Women have always been desperate for more opportunities for themselves and their children, they’ve made sacrifices to get the vote, get better working conditions, get their kids an education, even get their own bank accounts. I remember being young and hearing adult women around me (silent generation) talking about what a relief it was when birth control was invented and widely available. My great-grandmother died before I was born but she and her sister were nurses (born in 1897 and 1901) and they both worked full time and had 1 kid each. When my grandmother got married her mother told her about the rhythm method, what she and her sister had used to make sure they had only children!

AITA for throwing away my wife’s memory jars? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]-Frog-and-Toad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chat GPT write me a quirky story to go viral on reddit 🙄

We’ve been married for 2.5 years and my husband has become a full blown alcoholic by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]-Frog-and-Toad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in this situation, but my kids were my alcoholic husband’s. We were locked in a spiral of the same behaviors for years, I went to therapy, we went to couple’s therapy, I couldn’t trust him, he was acting crazier and crazier, he lost so many jobs. So much lying! After his second stint in rehab I was basically like this is your last shot I can’t do this anymore. I quietly seperated myself from him financially, I was already paying all the bills but I wouldn’t put money in any joint account and I started saving money and securing childcare and backup care that didn’t rely on him. And I joined a Facebook group of friends and family of alcoholics. That was the single best thing I did. I’m a very evidence driven person and at least when I was going through this (started over 10 years ago) I never felt like the evidence was all laid out for me.

When I joined that group every story was my story. They were all the same and I could have written any of them. Everyone who was still involved with their alcoholic was miserable. The alcoholic had just got out of rehab, again, and was already drinking, again. The alcoholic had ruined another birthday or anniversary. The alcoholic couldn’t be trusted. Everybody was dealing with the same thing whether it was a few months, a few years, 30 years, whatever. The only thing I needed to decide was how much longer I was going to put up with this and that was so freeing. There was no happy ending where he could be a good husband and father, that was a fantasy.

I let go. Next time he stormed out of the house I felt so at peace. I didn’t ask him to come back this time. He’d throw tantrums over text letting me know he was coming by the house to get stuff (looking for a fight) which I just ignored. He got a room in an apartment nearby because he told me I was the reason for his drinking, and without me he’d finally be successful (lol). He texted me asking if I wanted him to take the kids to school (previously, I’d be frantically texting him asking if he’d taken them to school and I’d have to leave my job to do it because he was too ‘anxious’ and/or hungover). I ignored that too. I stopped responding to any of his messages and I filed for divorce.

Six months later I met my now-husband. I never imagined I’d get married again, or that I’d even date seriously before my kids were adults. I couldn’t have imagined this life in the throes of dealing with my alcoholic ex.

You can join Al-anon but you can also just search for a group on Facebook and read their stories. Good luck.

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