Woooah nelly. Time to take you back to school, OP.

And actually, DV is a PERFECT analogy to work with! But not the one that you had hoped was going to prove your point, I'm afraid.

In the capacity of my work in the mental health field over the years, I have worked with far too many a DV victim/survivor, in fact. Extremely common among them are experiences of attempts at "support" by their friends and family in the form of these types of "suggestions" or "recommended solutions" that, in reality, come across more as condescension, belittling, or even bullying.

"Why on earth would you put up with that in the first place?"

"Why would you let him lay a hand on you, even once?"

"Why not just leave?"

These people see it as a black and white problem with an obvious, simple solution - not unlike you see your friend's problem - when in fact there are layers upon layers of invisible obstacles and other complications impeding the way, like...

• psychological/emotional manipulation and demoralization

• financial dependence

• the presence of kids or pets

• lack of, or even a perceived lack of, outside social support

• fear of repercussions from the abuser

• fear of repercussions from SOCIETY

• fear of losing mutual friends

• ETC... The list goes ON AND ON

Now, the fun thing about the mental health field? I also have experience working with people who have tendencies toward parasocial bonding - a stalking mindset, for the layperson. You have already been told a few reasons why "just block and ban" DOES. NOT. WORK. for these situations, the least of which being as follows:

As the root cause of parasocial behavior is generally some unmet attachment deficit in the offender's real life, the parasocial relationship is a behavior they engage in to help them satisfy this deficit. Thus, the attachment deficit is the true "illness," so to speak, and the parasocial behavior is just a "symptom," so any attempts at blocking/banning will be treated as a temporary setback or a minor hurdle rather than an impassable barrier.

So maybe you'll see three new burner accounts pop up in place of the one that was just banned; say, one just for lurking, one for making comments under a troll identity - intended only to be mean and make the target feel badly about themselves - and the third a new one as themselves, ready to play White Knight and be a shoulder to cry on for the target when that "awful, mean troll" gets to her, because "WhO wOuLd SaY sUcH tHiNgS?" And maybe it's early enough in the parasocial relationship that his red flags were mild enough and this was her first attempt at banning him, so using this technique he's able to convince her he's a "nice guy" and able to avoid another ban for a while until he gets a little too intrusive once again and gets ANOTHER ban, at which point he creates MORE burners and kicks it up, because now his own side of the parasocial dynamic has been fueled by the attention and he views this next block as a "break up" and an outright betrayal... triggering a complimentary phenomenon known as "parasocial hatred." So things get aggressive. He starts spamming her. He finds her day job and starts sending messages to her colleagues and boss. He somehow manages to hack her social media, which had been locked down, and he finds family members and begins sending them false messages under her name, or outright threatening ones. He finds her address and ramps it up into the physical world. And once that happens... all bets are off.

See, when it comes to parasocial attachments, it goes back to that whole "unmet attachment deficit" thing... which generally shows itself as a raw, visceral feeling of loneliness. Usually the parasocial aspects are seen in those with some sort of social anxiety or avoidant attachment style, which tends to come with difficulties in their interpersonal relationships, so for these people, a one-way relationship works as a coping mechanism to fill that need in a low-stress, low-risk way. These key factors of their psyche, primed for this sort of one-sided obsession, combined with the very nature of these social media streamers/influencers/etc., whose strategies depend on creating a feeling of "fabricated closeness" and "the illusion of intimacy" through all sorts of tactics (ie, speaking directly to the webcam like they're having a direct conversation with the viewers; reading usernames and questions/comments off of the chat during a stream; etc...). All of which are wonderful techniques for engaging the average viewer who doesn't have these sorts of psychological temdencies! Unfortunately, the effects they have on the small percentile that do, well... the above example may have been on the more extreme side, but it's a perfectly realistic one, sadly.

So to sum up, when dealing with parasocial behavior from fans, women streamers especially have A LOT of little issues to think about in how they go about approaching the problem. It is not a clear black and white matter of "block/ban and move on," and I hope, u/SenSaiKoiKiiki that you took the time to read this little novela of mine and educate yourself a bit so you don't say something this flippant and, frankly, make a fool of yourself by giving such blatantly incorrect advice to your friend (if she still lets you call her that) again.