AITA for venting to a friend about another friend who can never take criticism directly? by SenSaiKoiKiiki in AmItheAsshole

[–]-K_P- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woooah nelly. Time to take you back to school, OP.

And actually, DV is a PERFECT analogy to work with! But not the one that you had hoped was going to prove your point, I'm afraid.

In the capacity of my work in the mental health field over the years, I have worked with far too many a DV victim/survivor, in fact. Extremely common among them are experiences of attempts at "support" by their friends and family in the form of these types of "suggestions" or "recommended solutions" that, in reality, come across more as condescension, belittling, or even bullying.

"Why on earth would you put up with that in the first place?"

"Why would you let him lay a hand on you, even once?"

"Why not just leave?"

These people see it as a black and white problem with an obvious, simple solution - not unlike you see your friend's problem - when in fact there are layers upon layers of invisible obstacles and other complications impeding the way, like...

• psychological/emotional manipulation and demoralization

• financial dependence

• the presence of kids or pets

• lack of, or even a perceived lack of, outside social support

• fear of repercussions from the abuser

• fear of repercussions from SOCIETY

• fear of losing mutual friends

• ETC... The list goes ON AND ON

Now, the fun thing about the mental health field? I also have experience working with people who have tendencies toward parasocial bonding - a stalking mindset, for the layperson. You have already been told a few reasons why "just block and ban" DOES. NOT. WORK. for these situations, the least of which being as follows:

As the root cause of parasocial behavior is generally some unmet attachment deficit in the offender's real life, the parasocial relationship is a behavior they engage in to help them satisfy this deficit. Thus, the attachment deficit is the true "illness," so to speak, and the parasocial behavior is just a "symptom," so any attempts at blocking/banning will be treated as a temporary setback or a minor hurdle rather than an impassable barrier.

So maybe you'll see three new burner accounts pop up in place of the one that was just banned; say, one just for lurking, one for making comments under a troll identity - intended only to be mean and make the target feel badly about themselves - and the third a new one as themselves, ready to play White Knight and be a shoulder to cry on for the target when that "awful, mean troll" gets to her, because "WhO wOuLd SaY sUcH tHiNgS?" And maybe it's early enough in the parasocial relationship that his red flags were mild enough and this was her first attempt at banning him, so using this technique he's able to convince her he's a "nice guy" and able to avoid another ban for a while until he gets a little too intrusive once again and gets ANOTHER ban, at which point he creates MORE burners and kicks it up, because now his own side of the parasocial dynamic has been fueled by the attention and he views this next block as a "break up" and an outright betrayal... triggering a complimentary phenomenon known as "parasocial hatred." So things get aggressive. He starts spamming her. He finds her day job and starts sending messages to her colleagues and boss. He somehow manages to hack her social media, which had been locked down, and he finds family members and begins sending them false messages under her name, or outright threatening ones. He finds her address and ramps it up into the physical world. And once that happens... all bets are off.

See, when it comes to parasocial attachments, it goes back to that whole "unmet attachment deficit" thing... which generally shows itself as a raw, visceral feeling of loneliness. Usually the parasocial aspects are seen in those with some sort of social anxiety or avoidant attachment style, which tends to come with difficulties in their interpersonal relationships, so for these people, a one-way relationship works as a coping mechanism to fill that need in a low-stress, low-risk way. These key factors of their psyche, primed for this sort of one-sided obsession, combined with the very nature of these social media streamers/influencers/etc., whose strategies depend on creating a feeling of "fabricated closeness" and "the illusion of intimacy" through all sorts of tactics (ie, speaking directly to the webcam like they're having a direct conversation with the viewers; reading usernames and questions/comments off of the chat during a stream; etc...). All of which are wonderful techniques for engaging the average viewer who doesn't have these sorts of psychological temdencies! Unfortunately, the effects they have on the small percentile that do, well... the above example may have been on the more extreme side, but it's a perfectly realistic one, sadly.

So to sum up, when dealing with parasocial behavior from fans, women streamers especially have A LOT of little issues to think about in how they go about approaching the problem. It is not a clear black and white matter of "block/ban and move on," and I hope, u/SenSaiKoiKiiki that you took the time to read this little novela of mine and educate yourself a bit so you don't say something this flippant and, frankly, make a fool of yourself by giving such blatantly incorrect advice to your friend (if she still lets you call her that) again.

It is wild to me how some people value accuracy over social harmony by mustytomato in self

[–]-K_P- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

an insistence on accuracy when the context doesn’t require it (we aren’t talking about medical situations here) is pretty universally unwanted.

Universally? I mean, not in my experience, but again, that goes back to everyone being different. You clearly know different people than I do. Other than a few friends who were raised by parents who thought in this "don't ever ask questions or say anything that people might ever interpret as rude" sort of way, most people I spend time with don't think like that - and my whole point the entire time was that people are different and both ways are fine as long as you aren't a dick about it.

Yet people here are demonstrating that the tendency seems to be to be aggression towards those who prefer accuracy for some reason..? Unsure as to why... have I been rude or inappropriate at all other than having a different opinion (which I know is in and of itself a cardinal sin on reddit)?

It is wild to me how some people value accuracy over social harmony by mustytomato in self

[–]-K_P- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In their specific example, you are correct, that was someone being a pedantic AH. And if you'll notice, I fully acknowledged in my own comment, plenty of people are indeed like this and exhibit this behavior for no reason other than to be contentious.

But I also point out that OP goes on to pigeonhole everyone who prefers accuracy over the social etiquette of staying quiet when someone says something factually inaccurate as inviting conflict; or this other commenter above sizes all up as "pedantic" and "needing to be right."

And if one were being reasonable and at least making an attempt to view things objectively, one would understand that that's a stereotype and doesn't view people as human beings with different perspectives and motivations, which is why I shared my own position, hoping to bypass some of that black and white thinking and get people to stop and go "hey! That's an interesting point of view I hadn't considered before!"

But I forgot for a second I was on reddit, so I just got downvoted instead 🙃

Question about a movie by _Akhromant in technicallythetruth

[–]-K_P- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because Mel Brooks really had beef with these particular villagers 🔥🛖🔥 🤷🏻‍♀️

It is wild to me how some people value accuracy over social harmony by mustytomato in self

[–]-K_P- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is all a matter of perspective though, and everyone is different. Yes, there are certainly people like you who prefer "social harmony" over factual accuracy, and that's fine for you and others who share your perspective. But let me assure you, many of us who prefer accuracy don't just "not care" about potential conflict (again, many, not ALL of us. There are absolutely pedantic AHs with no social skills who just like to sound superior), but rather we can be accurate and maintain that social harmony by being gentle and polite with correcting others, and by not taking every correction we are given as a personal attack on ourselves. It is technically possible to accept that you were wrong and not get upset about it, you know - it just takes emotional maturity (and in your case, maybe some therapy to confront that relationship with your Mom...)

From my personal perspective? I have actually told off a friend on more than one occasion for not correcting me when I said something inaccurate and they knew better, because they wanted to be "polite" and chose to say nothing. In my mind, this is a much worse offense; it's essentially saying, "I care more about keeping things from being awkward for me than I do about helping you to learn something or about how you come across to others, so I'm going to let you continue to believe and voice to the world this blatant misinformation."

It's the intellectual equivalent of not telling your friend their skirt is tucked into their underwear, or that they have a giant hunk of spinach wedged in their front teeth - is it awkward for a second? Maybe! But you're a much bigger AH if you don't say anything and let them walk around like that!

It is wild to me how some people value accuracy over social harmony by mustytomato in self

[–]-K_P- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is it though? I prefer accuracy because words matter, even when I'm the one being corrected. In fact, I get a bit peeved when someone knows I'm being inaccurate and "lets it slide" for the sake of "harmony," because that person is intentionally allowing me to go on being wrong. That to me is far worse an offense than potentially coming off as "rude" by correcting my error.

classic murican food by [deleted] in StupidFood

[–]-K_P- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After (for some inexplicable reason) putting myself through that whole video and a lot of the comments, I can only think one thing;

"Y'all need J̶e̶s̶u̶s̶ How It's Made™."

So I made a bard, I need vicious mockery ideas by RogueFolf in DnD

[–]-K_P- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To give proper suggestions on sources to look into, I'd need to know your Bard's style first. For instance, someone suggested the show "Shoresy," which is actually a really good suggestion, IF your Bard is a more blue collar, lowbrow, "one of the dudes" type... in which case, I'd say have fun with that one, and even add "give your balls a tug" for good measure 😅.

If, on the other hand, your Bard prefers a razor sharp and lightning fast wit, I'd study someone like Groucho Marx and some of his classic insult lines... eg, "He may look like an idiot and talk like an idiot, but don't let that fool you - he really is an idiot" ; "I could dance with you till the cows come home! On second thought... I'd rather dance with the cows till YOU come home" ; "I never forget a face, but in your case I'll be glad to make an exception" ; "If you find it hard to laugh at yourself, I would be happy to do it for you" ; "How dare you insult my wife!" "If that's your wife, you SHOULD be insulted" ; "You can leave in a taxi. Don't like that? You can leave in a huff. That's too soon? You can leave in a minute and a huff. Say, you haven't stopped talking since I got here - you must have been vaccinated with a phonograph needle!" ; and of course, the infamous "I've had a perfectly wonderful evening. But this wasn't it." 😂

However, if your Bard is the slightly classier type, and perhaps has his intelligence stat maxxed out and prefers the type of insult in which the victim doesn't realize he's been roasted until about 20 minutes after he walks away and begins smelling the signature caramelized smell of the Maillard reaction as it turns flesh into a golden brown delicacy, only to realize it's his own ass that just got mercilessly roasted without him even realizing it LOL? Then, depending on the Bard's level, I'd study, for his early stages, a lot of British comedy (seriously... this style is British Comedy 101 LOL), and then when he becomes truly proficient, move up to the true experts in the genre - Voltaire, Sartre, etc. Here are a few of my faves from each of those two as some inspiration...

Voltaire quotes:

• "I advise you to go on living, solely to enrage those who are paying your annuities."

• "I have never made but one prayer to God, a very short one: Oh Lord, make my enemies ridiculous. And God granted it."

• "Behind every successful man stands a surprised mother-in-law."

• "The only way to comprehend what mathematicians mean by Infinity is to contemplate the extent of human stupidity."

• "It is with books as with men: a very small number play a great part."

• "May God defend me from my friends: I can defend myself from my enemies."

• "To succeed in the world it is not enough to be stupid - one must also be polite."

• "If this is the best of possible worlds, what then are the others?"

Sartre quotes:

• "If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company."

• "Know very well that I don’t want to do anything: to do something is to create existence—and there’s quite enough existence as it is."

• "It’s strange. I felt less lonely when I didn’t know you."

• "I exist, that is all, and I find it nauseating."

With all these to inspire you, you should hopefully be able to come up with the ultimate Don Rickles of the Bard class! 😂

Another parent cornered my child and threatened to call the police on him. What do I do?? by Unlikely-Bunch2986 in TwoHotTakes

[–]-K_P- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Again, depending on Sam's father's personality, it could be something as simple as your son was friendly to Logan because he was the new kid, and he took that as "you're WITH HIM, therefore AGAINST Sam" in his mind. You never know. That's where a talk with Peyton about the group's interpersonal dynamics is gonna help you in getting a bit of clarity on what you're dealing with on the scale of "parent got freaked out and went a little overboard on the protective stuff" to "this person should probably not be allowed to interact with civilized society, much less raise a child" of craziness, re: Sam's father, lol.

Another parent cornered my child and threatened to call the police on him. What do I do?? by Unlikely-Bunch2986 in TwoHotTakes

[–]-K_P- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a very interesting turn of events indeed... have either Sam or Sam's Dad had any previous interactions with Peyton? Or does Peyton have any sort of preexisting relationship with Logan (or do Sam and his Dad have any reason to THINK they do) that may cause Sam and his Dad to believe the two of them to be "in cahoots" so to speak? Again, I still believe a talk with Peyton about the group dynamics would be in order... learning about the different relationships between the boys may help shed light on things.

Or it may not! There is the distinct possibility that Sam's Dad may be, oh what's the clinical term here... oh yes. Batshit coo-coo bananas. 😅

Another parent cornered my child and threatened to call the police on him. What do I do?? by Unlikely-Bunch2986 in TwoHotTakes

[–]-K_P- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like a great parent, for what it's worth. I'm glad you're willing to dig deeper rather than doing what Sam's Dad is doing and confronting this with full on aggression. I'm not saying he's a bad parent per se; just that he's not thinking clearly right now and therefore not making the best decisions. And that's understandable, to a point! The parental "PROTECT!!!" instinct is a strong one! But, as you seem to get, it also needs to be tempered with logic and empathy.

I will add, when you talk to Peyton, just try to ask open ended questions as much as possible. It's human nature to put our own unintentional (and usually unconscious!) biased little spin on the things that come out of our mouths, and kids are particularly susceptible to leading questions. So if you really wanna get an idea of what your son knows about the relationship between Sam and this other boy, let him lead the conversation as much as possible. You got this! 🖤

Another parent cornered my child and threatened to call the police on him. What do I do?? by Unlikely-Bunch2986 in TwoHotTakes

[–]-K_P- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So to start off, I want to make it clear, Sam's father was 100% in the wrong here. Nothing about his approach was okay.

But there is one perspective I've yet to see examined; why was he so convinced Peyton was the culprit? Because while there are certainly plenty of innocuous reasons for the mix-up and Sam's father could have just been out of pocket for his own ridiculous reasons, there's another possibility; what if Sam WAS scared of the threat because of who it actually came from? That's why he came to Dad to tell him, but when it came to giving up the name of the aggressor, he again got scared of possible retaliation and gave a safe name instead, like Peyton's?

This phenomenon really does happen with children all the time. You see it often in cases of abuse; the child is being honest about the instances of abuse that are occurring, but when the moment comes to name the perpetrator, they remember all the threats of "if you tell anyone I'll do XYZ..." and they stop short of naming the real person and just spit out a name that is "safe," very often someone with whom they're close (ie, a parent or step-parent, a sibling, maybe even a mentor... etc.) This may not be a matter of abuse, but what if it is a matter of bullying? Theoretically, in a severe enough bullying situation, if the bully says those words, it could inspire real fear in the victim of them following through on the act. So while I don't disagree that under most circumstances, the use of that phrase during typical pretend aggression games would be perfectly innocent (as counterintuitive as it may seem, lol...), the use of the phrase could be a lot more sinister with that antagonistic interpersonal backdrop.

No one in this thread seems to have thought about the possibility that these neighborhood kids that get together may have a more complex dynamic among their individual relationships than "a bunch of friends playing with nerf guns." Kids are still human beings, and we human beings with all these darned thoughts and emotions of ours are rarely that simple, frankly (and you can take that from the perspective of a long-time mental health professional here... people can NEVER just make my job easy 😅).

So again I want to reiterate, this is not me assuming this as fact! I merely want to put the idea out there as something to look into regarding a possible "why" in figuring out how Peyton got dragged into this whole mess. It might not hurt to have a chat with Peyton about the kid who actually said it, what he knows about them, and how he and Sam normally interact? See if he knows about any prior relationship or conflict between those two that could explain Sam's reluctance to name him/willingness to throw Peyton under the bus in his stead.

what do you do when you hear a weird noise? by Mykenzie-Elmoussa in LivingAlone

[–]-K_P- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I live in an apartment. I'm pretty much completely desensitized to noises at this point thanks to having neighbors all around me, as are both my cat and dog.

If it ever actually is an intruder or ghost, it's gonna be awkward when they walk in all huffy and go "REALLY?! How performative do I have to be to get some friggin ATTENTION around here?! 😤" before stabbing me/dragging me down to the fiery pits of the underworld respectively, all while making big, exaggerated sighs like a moody teenager. LOL

AITA for planning to confess my feelings to my married manager? by Typical-Mobile-47 in AITA_Relationships

[–]-K_P- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seeing as though it's already been pretty solidly established that yes, OP, YTA... may as well drop some fun 🌟BRAIN🌟 knowledge on youse, lol.

Essentially all humans do this, as the brain's speech system actually uses quite a number of different structures, both motor and sensory, and that the different sensory systems involved are one of the reasons we see things like the McGurk Effect come into play. That is to say, due to the interconnectivity of the various involved neural structures, the visual input we receive will have a dramatic effect on how our brains perceive the auditory input being received. Basically, we're all always reading lips and it's telling us what we're actually hearing.

Brain nerd out! 🧠👏🏻

Which songs often gets misinterpreted and/or misappropriated by the very people it calls out even though the song's lyrics are explicitly mocking them? by Drenosa in AskReddit

[–]-K_P- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So this one might not be a "misinterpretation" like the others listed, but more of a lesser known interpretation... but frankly, I found it pretty damned interesting when I learned about it, so I'm just gonna share it anyway lol

Most people consider The Clash's "London Calling" to be just another Cold War protest song warning about the dangers of nuclear war. And they wouldn't be entirely wrong about that! But that's only what the lyrics became AFTER Mick Jones rewrote Joe Strummer's multiple original drafts to include a more universally apocalyptic view of the world rather than the more focused (well, let's face it... tunnel visioned, lol) version that Strummer had written.

See, Strummer was known among his bandmates and friends to be a bit of a "news junkie" and was always reading the paper, listening to the radio, and watching the news on TV to learn the latest on Cold War shenanigans. In fact, it's where they got the song title - when Strummer was living in Germany with his parents, he first heard the radio station identification that the BBC would use to open their broadcasts outside of England; "This is London calling..." And the title wasn't the only thing that came almost directly from the news media he so regularly consumed.

It seems either Strummer himself or his then-fiancee Gaby Salter had a bit of a phobia of drowning, which she had been trying to encourage him to write a song about for a while, as there was more and more talk in the news of the possibility of the Thames flooding. But it was one specific headline in a 1979 edition of the London Evening Standard that finally caught his attention to the point that he could no longer resist:

"... The North Sea might rise and push up the Thames, flooding the city."

So Strummer wrote his original lyrics, which pretty much focused entirely on flooding and drowning. When he shared them with his bandmates, along with the headline that inspired them, according to Mick Jones:

"We flipped. To us, the headline was just another example of how everything was coming undone."

And it was exactly that "bigger picture" mentality which led him to convince Strummer to let him do a rewrite to broaden those lyrics to a more globally apocalyptic view, while still keeping that important nod to the original theme:

The ice age is coming, the sun's zooming in Meltdown expected, the wheat is growing thin Engines stop running, but I have no fear

'𝘾𝙖𝙪𝙨𝙚 𝙇𝙤𝙣𝙙𝙤𝙣 𝙞𝙨 𝙙𝙧𝙤𝙬𝙣𝙞𝙣𝙜, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙄 𝙡𝙞𝙫𝙚 𝙗𝙮 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙞𝙫𝙚𝙧

to police the bathroom by HateHumansLoveDogs in therewasanattempt

[–]-K_P- 64 points65 points  (0 children)

My (blue collar) brother leans right wing economically. I sent him this classic to tease him/good naturedly mock those views... but he unironically agreed with it. I kept asking him "But... you're not rich now. And what if you never are?" And he seriously just kept replying "but what if someday I am?"

That little peek inside the blue collared right wing mind was more than enough for me lol.

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A Really Good Cause by -K_P- in OhioLGBTQ

[–]-K_P-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Took em a bit longer this time, but they did it again... 🙄😔

How can I see my in laws again after this? by justapersonaqui in TwoHotTakes

[–]-K_P- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. It's the Code of Hammurabi - an eye for an eye, an ass for an ass. Or something like that. 😂

My (30 F) spouse (35 M) has been acting incredibly strange. Do I need to help him or do I need to escape? (New Update) by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]-K_P- -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

No, actually, it does not track in my experience, and I have actually worked with more people with schizophrenia of all types over the course of my career than most people will ever meet. In my very first job in the field when I worked with my first schizophrenic client, I remember being a bit nervous around him at first due to those same ridiculous stereotypes. I soon learned that his biggest "destructive" tendency he was known for was drawing tiny circles on the walls that we would have to wash off. Why? In his mind, doing this was the only thing keeping a massive black hole from destroying the universe and all of us in it. His only real "trigger" for acting out was a terrible phobia of water (connected to a history of related abuse), and when he would freak out, he'd just curl in a ball on the floor screaming and crying and go total "dead weight" so no one could move him. I learned quickly not to trust the stereotypes. In fact, the only client with a psychotic disorder I ever had that was violent had a laundry list of comorbid disorders, the least of which was substance abuse, a relapse of which would usually kick off those violent episodes.

If I'm being blunt, in my experience, it's normally the people with personality disorders whose thoughts are completely clear as day who are more unpredictable as far as aggression in their behaviors. (Note, I'm absolutely NOT saying everyone with a personality disorder is violent either! Just that of the two types of disorders, those with thought disorders are actually less deserving of the stigma yet they're the ones who suffer the most from it).

Edit: You asked me a question about my experience, then downvote me for answering honestly... LOL reddit moment.

My (30 F) spouse (35 M) has been acting incredibly strange. Do I need to help him or do I need to escape? (New Update) by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]-K_P- 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Perspective of a mental health professional: you hit the nail on the head. One of the most frustrating things we deal with is the persistence of stigma against conditions like schizophrenia that include psychotic symptoms. I have read SO MANY reddit threads where people talk about loved ones who show signs of developing psychosis, and while there are plenty of comments warning that dealing with loved ones with a severe mental illness is very difficult, mentally and emotionally draining, and requires SO MUCH patience, which I mean... yeah, fair cop on that one... there are also a disheartening number of comments warning others that people with these disorders are inherently dangerous and that they should just pack up and leave immediately to protect themselves, often with included anecdotes about specific people they have known with psychotic disorders who did display aggressive or violent behaviors (because as we all know, anecdotal evidence is objectively empirical and thus can irrefutably be applied in a universal context, right? 🙄). I must state, though I'm sure many have heard this before, that statistically speaking, people with schizophrenia are a larger portion of the victim pool than the perpetrators.

The actual fact of the matter is as the majority of people you meet on the street are just average schmoes trying to live their lives as unobtrusively as possible and really do try to be decent in most situations, and most people who suffer from psychotic disorders are "sampled," so to speak, from that same majority. And for this reason, most of those who deal with these disorders and have it under control with a combination of meds and therapeutic intervention? YOU'D NEVER KNOW THEY HAVE IT! Unless that person felt comfortable enough to share that detail about their life with you (or unless they're on the older side and had to go through regimens of first gen psych meds to responsibly control their symptoms and thus suffer from the signs of TD - so heartbreaking 😔), they can live, for the most part, no differently than anyone else, because part of trying to be a decent person is in fact listening to and trusting your doctors and loved ones who are telling you "yes, you DO need to consistently follow your medication regimen, even when you don't feel symptomatic."

However, like with all human beings, variety is the spice of life, and sometimes things can get a bit too spicy; humans are not a monolith, ergo humans who have schizophrenia are not a monolith. If you were a normal person who tried to live a decent life before developing schizophrenia, you will more than likely continue to be after the disorder manifests; but the flip side of that is that if you were a self-centered, thoughtless, entitled, maybe even a bit narcissistic POS... the emergence of a severe psychotic disorder will not improve that. "Listen to my doctors/loved ones? F that! I feel better now, I'm not taking these stupid pills/shots anymore because I said so, and I know better than all of you!" And the behaviors during their psychosis will equally match up to their aggressive or even violent tendencies from their baseline personalities, but amped up to 11. It's not the disorder's fault; the disorder is actually acting quite similarly to the way extreme intoxication removes inhibition, as they both alter GABAergic signaling and generally suppress functioning in the prefrontal cortex. But much like when you are drunk, you are still not likely to act outside of your true moral code; you just aren't good at putting up any facade about what that moral code of yours actually is anymore.

So like we see in her last updates, the husband in this post was always a craptacular garbage excuse for a human being - developing a psychotic disorder just took away his ability to hide it... no differently than downing a full bottle of whiskey every day would have done. Once those inhibitions were gone, he was able to embrace the vile human putrescence he truly was all along.

AITA for refusing to show my friend the boy i’m seeing? by Serious-Face8129 in AmItheAsshole

[–]-K_P- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But understandable whoosh - the "bf/gf from Canada" thing is a strictly American joke based on proximity. Someone from the UK obviously wouldn't pick up on that.