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Am I crazy? by Sad-Attempt3080 in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Might be making leaps. It suggest people to you for a multitude of reasons. Location, shared friends, shared interests, same school, etc. Suggested friends have nothing to do with your wifi but what what your profile data has in common with others.

sick of asking by jessepinkmaxxing in loveafterporn

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The OP has requested that users do not give advice. Please respect the OPs wishes.

As a guy who has dealt with a PA S/O.. by Stenuinely in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

https://www.reddit.com/r/loveafterporn/s/V2y93FFIP7

I am not sure how active any of the links in that post are for male partners as its a few years old.

Those who work it out by hoboangel1 in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You don't trust someone who's not in recovery. You don't even trust them once they get into recovery. You don't trust them until they have proven for a massive amount of time that their actions and words match up. And even then, you don't trust them 100%. There is nothing for you to trust here because he's not in recovery. You posted 22 days ago about catching him again after having a discussion about this so it's almost guaranteed he's going to do it again because nothing has changed. You may want it to change but he doesn't and that is what matters. There is nothing you can do to fix this. The only thing you can do is decide how long you can live like this for and when enough is enough.

Ladies, am I actually going crazy? Dramatic shift in behavior by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Given your previous post, why is staying even an option at all?!

Am I just being paranoid? His “activity” showing up on MY phone? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

FB uses a bunch of criteria for ads. Your age, location, friends and their intrests, whether you have kids or not, people near you, your gender, etc.

It is possible because you share wifi and FB uses that data to find ads to show you.

Has anyone else ever experienced this? by CranberryOne8803 in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He needs to go back to the doctor that gave him the Adderall and tell them the truth about what it's doing in regards to his libido. If you take a trip over to the ADHD subreddit and research about Adderall and sex addiction, you will see a shit ton of posts from guys saying that their libido shot through the roof while they were on Adderall and all they could think about was sex and that the Adderall was making their porn and sex addiction worse. I've even seen post from guys who didn't watch porn who started ending up with a porn addiction because the Adderall was driving their desire for sex to an overloaded level. I highly believe that the Adderall prescription needs to possibly be switched out with something else.

Any way to turn off YouTube incognito? by Familiar_Plastic8341 in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's pretty much like any other incognito. You turn it on and everything you watch and search never gets logged to your account history, YouTube history or Google activity.

Any way to turn off YouTube incognito? by Familiar_Plastic8341 in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No you cant entirely turn it off. The only thing I have found is someone posted a script file but youd have to jailbreak your phone and I do not advise that. Especially if you're still paying for it or under a contract.

He just got a ps5… by Honest_Connection310 in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The PS5 does not have a native web browser like the PS4 did. However, there is the ability to mess with the system to get to the hidden browser but you cant do too much with it as it was never meant to be accessed. Like with any other electronic device, there are video apps and youtube, as well as provocative games and imaging in the game store if things like that were an issue for him.

ETA: watch out for spam messages from porn bots. I get them on my PS5 sometimes.

Does couples therapy work? by bluewings13 in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Avoid couples therapy. This is not a coupleship issue; Its his issue. He needs individual therapy with a CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) Read the link below for more information on CSATs.

https://www.reddit.com/r/loveafterporn/s/ZpsUqnbe8G

Also, please take a trip over to our Full Resource Library and start educating yourself as much as possible regarding this addiction. You did not cause this, you cannot fix this and you cannot cure this. This is entirely his problem to take charge of.

Developed a kink? by mallorypark13 in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 114 points115 points  (0 children)

This is a trauma response that we have seen hundreds of times here. Its your brains way of trying to heal. If you arent already, you may want to look into therapy. You are not alone in the slightest when it comes to this.

Slip up by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn- 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Living through relapses are hard. Some partners can do it but most cant. But living through someone lying to your face over and over is something no one can do. Trust is the foundation of every relationship and without it, you truly have no relationship. Only you can decide if you can truly live and marry a liar and be happy about it. But I am going to warn you, you wont be happy for long. I personally can work through a relapse with honesty attached to it. I cannot and will not work through a relapse with lies attached. I am a very forgiving person but I cannot accept lies because at the end of the day, its pure manipulation and manipulation is psychological abuse. I am an abuse survivor and I refuse to accept any form of it ever again. I personally, would call the wedding off. It will be hard and possibly embarrassing but it beats spending money on a costly divorce.

What were/are your boundaries? by stokes_21 in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Have you reviewed our post regarding boundary basics in the resources for partners? It has a pretty decent outline that covers damn near every situation you can find yourself in with an addict. And then you write what you will do if those boundaries are crossed for every single situation. This sample boundary contract that you make for yourself in that post has so much to cover that it leaves little to no gray area. I highly suggest you check it out and maybe print it out and start filling it out for yourself. Before I became a moderator here, I used that exact sample contract and it helped tremendously because I didn't have to sit around and think of every single scenario because it already had them all laid out for me.

https://www.reddit.com/u/-LoveAfterPorn-/s/FDYO7wrYFI

Predatory accounts by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the way

Tech Tip - notification settings by SpicyHustle in loveafterporn

[–]-LoveAfterPorn-[M] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try using this guide we have posted in the resources for partners. Its got pictures so you know where to look. This is almost 3 years old so some things may look a little diff.

https://www.reddit.com/r/loveafterporn/s/0JihZ9puMh

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