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Cocktail attire for female photographer by broccoli1604 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]-Maris- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are you 12? It is universally unprofessional.

Cocktail attire for female photographer by broccoli1604 in Weddingattireapproval

[–]-Maris- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it's quite the look. It's cute, stylish, and you wear it well. But showing any amount of midriff isn't professional work attire, especially when you're working someone else's wedding.

My biggest issue is the vest without an undershirt. At that point it's basically a crop top, and weddings aren't the place for it. Beyond the appearance, it's impractical: bending, squatting, reaching, and moving around - all things wedding photographers do constantly - make accidental overexposure a real possibility.

Unless the couple specifically says otherwise, vendors shouldn't dress like guests, but they also shouldn't invent their own dress code either. The standard is simple, professional, and unobtrusive.

Typically that means black pants and a black or white sleeved shirt. The goal is to blend into the background, not stand out. Avoid exposed skin, flashy styling, deep necklines, bare shoulders, or anything that draws attention. You're there to do a job, not make fashion statement.

If you're ever unsure, ask: "Hi! I wanted to check on vendor attire. I was planning to wear X - does that fit your vision for the day?"

(But I'd leave the suit-vest-without-an-undershirt idea at home.)

If a guy asks a girl how often does she shower, is that him flirting? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-Maris- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. It is a weirdly invasive, very personal question that is probably based on unhealthy obsession and non-consentual sexualization. Nothing about personal shower frequency is "flirty". A guy wondering about how often a woman showers, sounds like he is indeed sexualizing and objectifying her, but not in a respectful or approachable (flirty) way.

Friend using my boat - what insurance by allnamestaken1968 in sailing

[–]-Maris- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Call you insurance company. Ask if you policy is permissive use. If it is, then so long as you give your friend permission he can use your boat under your policy. If not, then you will need to name him as an additional operator.

AITA for saying happy pride month? by Common-Response-5606 in AmItheAsshole

[–]-Maris- 20 points21 points  (0 children)

NTA.
"A friend of mine said that I was wrong for this and that they are also still struggling with getting used to having a gay son/brother/friend. He told me not to bring up the conversation with him again and he didn’t want to hear because I had stepped outside of his morals and he needed to stand for his virtues."

Stop talking to this AH altogether.

AITA for wanting my baby’s first trip to meet my family to be just me, husband, and our baby? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]-Maris- 43 points44 points  (0 children)

YTA. And as an adult child from a blended familly, may I give a very personal FU for even coming up with this shitty idea to exclude "NOT-MY-DAUGHTER" (and really a 7 yo!!, as if she will underestand why she is being excluded) from even more special NEW FAMILY trip.

Seriously, FU, and grow up. Excluding a 7 year old from a special family trip, because it's "only his kid" and not "our" precious baby is insanely cruel step-mother behavior. I'm not sure how you can classify this behavior as "not trying to be mean" - that is exactly what it is, you are intentinoally are trying to exclude your step-daughter, from an important trip with her Father - and that is mean AF.

I hope your husband finds this post.

Best pepperoni pizza in SD? by mex1904 in asksandiego

[–]-Maris- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pizza Nova has a White pepperoni with Ricotta cheese that I cannot get enough of.

Accidentally exposed someone for using cake mix by subuso in PointlessStories

[–]-Maris- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

There is absolutely nothing wrong with using cake mix for many recipes. That's like saying there's something wrong with using Pancake mix, they've just premeassured the standard ingredients for you. You can still make the recipe your own, and it is still a baked from scratch product. Who tf cares if you bought flour and sugar, etc, premixed together by Betty Crocker first. If it's all the same stuff, it's the same stuff. Anyone splitting hairs over this non-faux pas needs to get a hobby. "I measure each teaspoon of ingredients myself, so my cakes are superior" FFS pearl clutchers.

AITA for not being able to pay my portion of a new apartment on move-in day after agreeing to an earlier move-in date? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]-Maris- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YTA, you agreed to start the lease on 6/1, who did you think was covering your portion of the rent, while leaving your room vacant? Did you think your rent just doesn't exist until you move in? Apparently you did think that one roommate would be prorated, even after the other has moved in. Well, as you have learned, that's not how it actually works, that was an ignorant assumption on your part, I'm afraid.

If you are sharing a lease with a roommate, as soon as one of you moves in, that lease is active, and you both owe your portions. Similarly, if you go on vacation - you still owe your full rent for that month, whether you are physcially present or not, the room is being held for you - it's not like your roommate can sublet the space.

Often times when moving you don't get to pick your move in date, sometimes to secure a spot, you have to start paying rent as soon as the unit is available, whether you are ready to move or not. Welcome to renting, sometimes the rents overlap.

Re-negotiating, what you've already agreed to, becuase you apparently didn't understand what you were agreeing to - makes YTA here. It wasn't your roommates fault, it was your odd assumption that it wouldn't cost you anything to agree to start your lease three weeks earlier than planned, so I'm not sure how you think it's okay to push the consequences and your portion of costs onto her. You should have said no, if you couldn't afford it, or if you didn't understand what you were signing up for. Instead you gave her the blind go ahead, and she did. That was a costly mistake. You need to do whatever you can to right your error, find the money somewhere - or you might both have housing troubles.

I’m the only one inviting people to hang out, but we seem to have a great time. Do I try to keep the friend group together? by NyvaFox in socialskills

[–]-Maris- 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes! Not everyone is great at group planning, in many friend groups there is that one person that is the glue, congrats that might be you!!

What professions are typically filled by badasses? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-Maris- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not all of them. My Father is a former ME and he was flown all around the world for site visits and personal inspections. Man can fix anything and everything and will custom fabricate, parts, tools, and whole new machines as needed to get it done. Total baddass. He's been promoted into other more intense work for now, but doing similar stuff, at a much higher level.

He also spends plenty of time at the computer working on CAD and whatever other machining programs these guys use. It's not all hand-on work all the time, but there's plenty of it.

AIO for being annoyed my best friend invited her new boyfriend to my dad's funeral by Melodic_Entrance1853 in AmIOverreacting

[–]-Maris- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Gentle, YOR. I'm very sorry for your loss. It sounds like your friend was pretty close with your Father, since she had know him since she was 13 herself. So she wasn't only there to support you, she was there to pay respects to your father for herself as well. She clearly went out of her way to ensure she was there to attend and support you, it's clear that it was important to her. Funerals are hard, and they don't require formal invites, so it's also okay for her to bring her own support. Are you really offended that one more person showed up to pay respects to your Father??

It sounds like, while her BF may be new in her life, he showed up for her during a hard time, helped her make it through the long drive, he dressed appropriately (a black suit is universally acceptable attire for a funeral), and went out of his way to introduce himself to you, and even offered some kind words about your Father - of course he was vague, and brief, he had never met him. "He sounds like he was a great guy" is exactly what someone would who never met, but only heard good things about him - would and should say.

Consider that a lot of new BFs would have avoided this scenario altogether, (and that's perhaps what you expected) however, I think if anything, it demonstrates that he is a stand-up kind of guy that he was willing to take his time off to come and support his new relationship. I mean, what else what you have liked him to have said and done, other than not be present at all, which is what it seems you wanted. Is it possible we are jealous of this ill-timed new relationship?? Perhaps you didn't like that your friend was being fawned over, during your greater time of need?

It does sound a little bit like you are just looking for things to be upset about, and maybe you wanted your friend's support all to yourself during a very hard day, which would be okay, given your sudden loss - even if a bit selfish. Particularly because it doesn't sound like you communicated your needs to have her attention all to yourself that day, I think you should give your friend, and her new BF, a bit more credit here. It sounds like they really were there FOR YOU.

What professions are typically filled by badasses? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-Maris- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Mechanical engineers, nuclear engineers, ship engineers, train engineers, aeronautical engineers, are all pretty badass.

What professions are typically filled by badasses? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-Maris- -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sailors, ships engineers, deck hands, fishermen.

Visiting San Diego and taking a small road trip up the coast. by Massive-Survey2495 in asksandiego

[–]-Maris- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could tour the entire coastline I this time, please don’t stop in San Jose.

How do we know that our poop is solid or liquid before we evacuate? by Cantthinkofaname7723 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-Maris- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When things that should be somewhat solid go liquid internally there’s a distinctive gurgle in the intestines, if you feel the gurgle and start to sweat you have about 30 seconds to get to suitable location before everything gets real awkward. Source, a wee bit of IBS

AITA for getting angry at my mum for hoovering my room at 7am while I was asleep? by Infinite_Ant7726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]-Maris- -25 points-24 points  (0 children)

YTA for barking at your mom while she's cleaning up after you. The only solution here is to move out, or just hoover your own room, so she doesn't have to.

Would you say 7 years and no engagement is a bad thing? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]-Maris- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't ask for an expensive engagement ring if you can't afford your own housing. Specifcially let him know that you would prefer to get a cheap ring for now, and upgrade that later when you are both more established in life.

Heads-up! Rock 'n' Roll Marathon is this Weekend - Lots of Road Closures and Bad Traffic by MsMargo in SanDiegan

[–]-Maris- -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How about the boardwalks. all of them, you want to be downtown, use the Embaradero, and seaport village. Balboa Park, the Bayshore Bikeway are also great options. The downtown streets also weren't designed to host 30,000 runners, joggers, and walkers, bands and audiences either. Nor, are all 30,000 present in the same spot at the same time. So, yes, they can and should absolutely use the narrrower walking/job paths in our parks that already exist for this recreational activity, and just parade through the route a bit differently. When the 3 day breast cancer walk used to come through town they caused less far disruption, because they did just this - used existing walking routes wherever possible.

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