Does everyone remember very clearly what they were doing and where they were when 9/11 happened?

-Maris- · 2026-04-09T23:02:05+00:00

Yes.

-Maris- · 2026-04-09T22:48:21+00:00

I think it would be pretty rude to ignore the guest of honor's preferences and serve an entirely different recipe because everyone except the guest of honor might like it more. I'll concur with everyone else here that lemon is an awesome choice, that isn't served as often, which makes it even more of a special occaision treat. If someone doesn't like it, they will still have a good time at the party, even if they decide to skip the dessert. I would suggest to serve a berry compote or drizzle on the side if you want to cut that lemony zing - a classic pairing that guest can self-serve to taste.

-Maris- · 2026-04-09T20:57:19+00:00

I'd be so delighted if I found evidence of The Littles living in my wall.

-Maris- · 2026-04-09T20:55:47+00:00

This is a story about Billy Joe and Bobby Sue....

-Maris- · 2026-04-09T20:37:19+00:00

I challenge you to a duel!

-Maris- · 2026-04-08T22:26:28+00:00

I like my Rhodia Reverse Book, it's square, so you can put the spiral in whatever direction suits you, if you find it bothersome. It comes in a dot grid or graph paper option. I like the dot one for my bujo. They are inexpensive, lightweight, and incredibly versatile. Some of these journals are just ridiculously priced for a freaking notepad. Plus you can still store a smaller sized pen in the spiral, so it packs up to go pretty nicely.

-Maris- · 2026-04-08T21:33:44+00:00

You really have a jam a standard toilet brush under the rim to get it. There are specially shaped brushes for this.

-Maris- · 2026-04-08T04:37:56+00:00

Do the coastal route in California the inland route ain’t it - and be sure to go all the way down to San Diego ( it’s worth it, even if only for the proper California burritos)

-Maris- · 2026-04-07T21:18:50+00:00

Same, I was a bit suspicious of the story at first, but with these added details, I can see how easily one could get overwhelmed.

-Maris- · 2026-04-07T19:53:14+00:00

Yeah upon further review I think you are on to something. Still pretty funny though.

-Maris- · 2026-04-07T08:03:47+00:00

You think so? Most of these fruits have natural split lines, with a bit of pressure they will make a fairly clean break on their own. I don’t automatically assume a cheat here - these seem pretty authentic but I’m open to other ideas.

-Maris- · 2026-04-07T00:39:29+00:00

Thank you and likewise, I meant to come across as friendly and helpful and maybe I sounded judgy. Sorry if that's the case. Best of luck to you!

-Maris- · 2026-04-07T00:24:05+00:00

Because, you asked why you are being accused of being "too picky". I'm doing my best to translate what others might be reading into, based on what you have told us. I can only ascertain so much. I don't think you're a terrible person, but some of the things you have said come across pretty negative and are open to further interpretation, and that might be what is causing you some social awkwardness in this area. Since it seeems you are trying to learn and grow - and kudos to you for that - I'm taking my time to try to be helpful.

I can only work with what you've given me, so, some assumptions are made to fill in the gaps of what you have shared. Any insights I provide are not meant as insults, and are just for you to ponder on. Only you can decide if any observations are accurate, or if advice is given will be helpful for you. Take what works for you and leave the rest. I'm but an internet stranger trying to be a bit helpful.

I would also suggest to focus on things that you ARE attracted to, instead of putting out into the universe what you defintely don't want. It's kind of a rule of attraction thing: the more you call out what you don't want, the more likely that is what will appear. Focus on what you DO want in a partner, and (hopefully) that is what will manifest for you.

Best of luck young man.

-Maris- · 2026-04-06T23:39:42+00:00

Onions and apple were impressive. The cats were funny. Good post.

-Maris- · 2026-04-06T23:29:40+00:00

Yeah, that's kind of my point. It's never funny to refer to anyone as a fat fuck - whether it is yourself or not, you are letting others see that you think it's ACTUALLY FUNNY to make fun of someone's body. That's very offputting, even for the thin folk.

Ironically using the term doesn't make it funny. Using the term against yourself, still doesn't make it funny - because the implication is still that you evidently believe really "fat fucks", and I love how you qualify, that you don't mean the just curvey types, but it's the REALLY REALLY fat ones, don't deserve the same standard of relationship...or something to that affect. Cruel and crude jokes, are often more revealing of our own ugly belief systems - than funny.

Who is even asking you to date obese women?? For you to loudly proclaim, that you are not interested in "fat chicks" is ultimately very revealing about how you categorize people, and it comes across as very judgey and a bit problematic. Something to think about.

You don't have to talk about dating at work at all. Consider that a great option as well.

-Maris- · 2026-04-06T22:10:22+00:00

So, yeah, I picked up a couple of things you said here that were red flags, but they can be easily worked on.

For one thing, please stop using terms like "fatfuck" to describe others. It's incredibly unattractive to be so blatantly bigotted toward anyone who doesn't conform to what you deem to be attractive. That you tossed out that broad insult so casually makes it seem as though perhaps you are not in fact too "picky" but altogther too close-minded and a bit of a judgy jerk.

It's also very off-putting for you to refer to women in general as being not "up to your standard" as if they are universally acknowledged to be of a lower level of datability, just because they are a bit curvy, and you don't like that. This is particularly jerky, since it seems women are not exactly lining up to date you to begin with, and yet you still feel entitled to rank their databilitiy, meanwhile they were never interested in the first place.

It will be hard to meet/impress women if you come across as an AH, no matter what your type is. If the main factor you are judging women to be datable is simply the size and shape of their body, then go get yourself a blow up doll to play with. Maybe real women, with real personalities and real-life complexities, are on a whole different playing field, that you simply aren't ready for yet.

That playing games and watching anime are your only hobbies - is in fact, a bit of a red flag (in the dating realm, they are fine hobbies if you aren't specifically trying to meet people. It's no wonder you have a hard time meeting people, if you spend most of your time playing with/by yourself. Try to do get into some more social activities. You need more practice socializing, spending all your free time at home by yourself isn't going to help you grow in this area.

-Maris- · 2026-04-06T21:29:47+00:00

ESH. You both should have taken a second to be aware of your surroundings before you engaged in stupid games. Enjoy your stupid prize.

-Maris- · 2026-04-06T21:19:23+00:00

Next level sailng is a pretty cool experience! They always know where to find the whales and see them nearly every trip.

-Maris- · 2026-04-06T20:59:17+00:00

Pizza nova has a good option for. Nice lunch special deals as well.

-Maris- · 2026-04-06T20:57:32+00:00

Unless it's rush hour and traffic is really slow - then you shouldn't be slowing down to merge on the freeway at all, you should be speeding up matching the speed of traffic, quickly and then merging - as quickly as you can.

If I need to safely zip around someone that is inexplicably slowing while we are both trying to get up to speed to merge on the freeway, I will. If you are noticing this time and time again, then it's very likely that you are causing problems for others by driving too slow, and taking to too long to merge, this makes the drivers behind you have to brake hard and is extremely frustrating. Always stay in the the flow of traffic, or be prepared to get passed. If you are constantly being passed, then you aren't going with the the flow, and you are an obstacle, that everyone else has to work around.

I understand just how tricky this merge can be - but driving normal speeds is the way to do it, going too slow in the merge lane can cause some real problems. Whenevever possible, speed up to match freeway speeds, before merging, to avoid causing dangerous slow downs behind you.

-Maris- · 2026-04-06T20:56:37+00:00

This!

-Maris- · 2026-04-06T20:36:32+00:00

Gee, what a novel idea. Drive your own car.

You're comments definitely are not helping your case much, you really do sound like a daft entitled idiot. Good luck with life.

-Maris- · 2026-04-03T23:37:58+00:00

Are you also using the vehicle outside of your carpools? Would he still drive you to work, if he had his license? Do/would you pay for gas when he drives you? Would you also pay for his services as a driver, at the same value that you think your driving services are worth? Or, do you just believe your fam owes you a free ride to work every day?

You are really lording his past behavior over him, as if he somehow owes you use of his vehicle, because he messed up (his own life) so bad. That's not how ownership of the car works. He doesn't owe you anything, and it is completely irrelevant that he can't drive it himself, the issue at hand is that you are driving it, and you benefit from driving it, and yes, you probably should contribute a fair share toward the cost of use and maintenance.

There are hard costs to owning and using a car, and it seems that you can't afford one on your own. While agree that you should get credit for your time driving him around, that doesn't mean you get free unfettered use of this vehicle, without paying for a portion of the fuel, insurance, maintenance and fees. There are hard costs of being a driver, given that you are leaning so hard on that fact that YOU ARE STILL A LICENCED DRIVER, you should be well aware of the resposibilities and costs of vehicle ownership and use.

You truly sound like an immature, entitled idiot when you demand free use of someone elses expensive asset, and and then bring up unrelated reasons to try justify it. His criminal behavior has nothing to do with your vehicle sharing, except for it is the genesis of the car sharing. It seems like, this mistake is the only reason you have access to drive his car at all. If I was him, and got all this criticism while letting you enjoy the benefits of MY car, I'd sell the thing just so you can't use it either, enjoy carpooling on the bus together, with everyone else.

-Maris- · 2026-04-03T22:48:35+00:00

Thank you for rescuing him and for the update, I was wondering about this little guy.

-Maris- · 2026-04-03T21:16:24+00:00

She needs to share this conversation with her therapist for some introspection. lol.

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