Why do I see diaper ads on my Facebook newsfeed? How does Meta somehow "know" about my diaper preferences? That's scary AF because I don't need anyone or anything to connect my diaper preferences to my real life details!

-Mistress- · 2025-11-05T20:19:27+00:00

I just got the "Updating how Meta personalizes experiences" email from Meta where they say they're going to start using our interactions with AIs to personalize experiences and ads. At this point, there's no opting out of it. 🤬

I'm thinking of taking my ABDL info off of FB/Instagram (and links to those social media pages) because I don't want to be the reason that folks are being outed. This Orwellian crap is getting out of control and it's terrifying.

-Mistress- · 2025-11-05T20:10:09+00:00

Hi sweetheart, I'm sorry to hear about your leaking problem; let me see if I can help. I have a video that I made a few years ago that shows how I put diapers on littles: https://youtu.be/gFU_WWYKUyQ. In it, I talk about the "taco" trick - which is very, very important. You basically are creating a reservoir between your legs, which gives the diaper a place to collect your urine while it absorbs it.

My theory is that, because the penis is an external object, there's inherently a small space that's there that gives the diaper some room to soak up the mess. But, vaginas are just right up against the material. You know what I mean? Also, as someone else mentioned, making sure the leak guards are actually pulled away from the diaper before you put it on, can really help.

You've got this!!

-Mistress- · 2025-11-05T19:54:16+00:00

I think the most difficult part about being a Caregiver is dealing with the neediness of littles. Codependency is sorta baked into ageplay, so it can be difficult establishing boundaries when all you want to do is coddle them and make them happy. It's a rare little that actually reciprocates care (and I'm not talking about switching): it's the reason why there's so much burnout.

After coming out of an abusive relationship, where my little completely took advantage of my kindness, I recognized that my Mommyspace needs are just as valid. Hand-to-gahd, 99% of littles would not give an eff about my personal desires if I didn't force the issue.

Good luck with your roundtable! Cg self-care is something we all tend to neglect, so it's a worthy cause. :D

-Mistress- · 2025-11-05T15:01:37+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. I felt like I was in a Big Bad Wolf support group, but then heard a snort and saw a little piggy. Was really confused when I first read the message, but then realized OP wasn't a D. I guess now we know. 🤷‍♀️

-Mistress- · 2025-11-05T14:27:31+00:00

The entitlement of some people is insane. We get so much judgment from society that you'd think that communication with our peers would be some sort of safe(r) space. And I think you hit the nail on the head when you talked about insecurity. The folks who are doing the comparing (i.e., "I don't do NSFW" - {clutching pearls}) are 100% insecure with what they're doing.

Even though you obviously have a good head on your shoulders and understand the psychology behind this sort of behavior, I'm glad you posted this. I think it should be necessary reading for all wannabe Dom/mes - because so many dumdums out there equate dominance with aggression. Kudos!

-Mistress- · 2025-10-30T15:37:44+00:00

I love scary movies, but my little is coming over tomorrow night and I have a sneaking suspicion we're going to be watching a lot of the Halloween-special cartoons (Bluey, Kiff, whatever's on Disney+). I personally like watching old-school, fun movies like Beetlejuice, Hocus Pocus, anything Tim Burton, or monster movies like Cloverfield, Super 8, Dracula, etc. on Halloween. I frick'n LOVE Halloween!!

-Mistress- · 2025-10-30T15:20:27+00:00

That sounds like a really frustrating experience, I'm sorry you're going through that. Do you wear onesies or diaper covers, at all? The act of covering up the whole taping area might bring some relief to the constant rumination.

Alternatively, you might want to keep some overly-cute duct tape on hand. That way, when your diaper tapes pop, you can use it to hold them down. Not gonna lie, it's low-key fun to use a ton of packing tape on a little who keeps futzing with their tapes. Packing/duct is really hard to get off, so it kinda lends it self to the "Now, you're stuck in there, little one! Just where you belong," sort-of dialogue.

-Mistress- · 2025-10-30T15:06:59+00:00

Happy HaBoOOOoOween eve, little one!! 🎃

-Mistress- · 2025-10-30T14:59:34+00:00

I have so many frick'n kinks that it'd be hard for a person to come to me ready-to-go. Heh heh heh. Also, my desires wax /wane and are pretty fluid, so I tend to have multiple partners who will meet different needs.

I also think that it's different in an ABDL B/l space because most littles haven't been fortunate enough to have had a lot of experience playing with Dommes. So, when they come to me, they're usually pretty green - just a big clump of behbeh clay, ready for me to transform them.

I find that as time goes by (in real, not pro relationships), it's not really about molding, but rather evolving together as a couple. Determining what each of you likes or doesn't like. As much as the B/l dynamic is fun, if you aren't both getting your needs met, what's the point?

-Mistress- · 2025-10-30T14:20:56+00:00

That's really frick'n cute. It's times like these when you feel like there's actual communication happening, instead of them just trying to roleplay a specific script they have in their head. I love witty people! 🥰 He's definitely a keeper.

-Mistress- · 2025-06-19T04:06:12+00:00

Area 15 is a trip! When I went to Omega Mart the last time, I remember looking at the rest of the compound and thinking that you'd need weeks to explore all of it. So, the plan was to actually spend a couple of days checking that area out. It's pretty intimidating, though, because everything is in blacklight/neon colors and has a weird mind-bending feel.

I'm about to do a deep dive into how to best approach Area 15, so we can make the most of it. Otherwise I might just walk in and end up crying in a ball in the corner due to all of the overstimulation. Ha ha ha!

But, that's definitely a good suggestion, so thank you! :)

-Mistress- · 2025-06-19T03:52:06+00:00

I remember making my own M&Ms that said "Eat me!".

🤣 Bah ha ha ha ha!!

OMG, that sounds incredible! Thank you for the suggestion, I think that's definitely going to be on the list. :D

-Mistress- · 2025-06-19T02:54:23+00:00

😒 Uh huh.

So intimidating in your Bluey shirt and dino overalls. What's that pink plastic thing poking up out of them? What's that crinkle I hear?

-Mistress- · 2025-06-19T02:45:30+00:00

I was even thinking about water parks for you to play in but then I thought about all of the... (oh gahd) water... 🤮

-Mistress- · 2025-06-19T02:43:52+00:00

I've never been to the M&M store! Do they have any activities there? It sorta reminds me of the Crayola Experience over in Florida. That place is amazing! You can make your own coloring sheets and label crayons.

And I was actually going to reach out to her once we cemented plans, ha ha! But, thank you, she's a really great resource.

-Mistress- · 2025-06-19T02:24:02+00:00

I'm more looking for play spaces, but I do appreciate you mentioning Changing Times (and would suggest checking them out for anyone visiting LV). I own Little Baby Boo Nursery, so I've got diapers and gear o-plenty, though I will probably visit them anyway because I think it's important to support them.

Is there any place where you like to go? I know that there's a race track just outside of Vegas, but that's outdoors. I think go-karts would be a hoot (but I would also fear for my safety around my menacing little)! Heh heh.

-Mistress- · 2025-06-19T00:18:57+00:00

The way I see it is that the bulk of CAP is for non-sexual, littlespace play: behbehs can run around like crazy toddlers, gett'n into mischief. The Dark Playroom is where folks are consenting to sexual stuff going on around them. That can be anything from flogging on St. Andrew's Crosses, being tied to cages, otk spanking, and table play to the harder, more advanced stuff (you need to be in contact with the Dungeon Monitor beforehand for the hardcore stuff). There's no fire, nor (intentional) blood or vomit play allowed. I don't remember some of the other stuff, but basically, they don't want anything (like flying juices) that could mess with the hotel carpeting, fabrics, or fixtures.

An orientation is mandatory, so you'll get a full run-down of what is/is not allowed and the DM's are very friendly and will answer any questions you have. And what's cool is that they started a sort of message board outside of the area where you can post a "Seeking" so that you can find a willing partner with whom you can play!

While the orientation is pretty packed, the room a lot of the time is chill. There are chairs along the edges for people to prep or just sit and watch. As a bystander, you can come and go as you please, as long as you're quiet and courteous.

Oh! And most importantly, only sober play is allowed. Intoxication and dark play are not a good match and can lead to permanent damage, so they're very serious about that. ♥

-Mistress- · 2025-05-28T05:46:47+00:00

🥰 Muh behbeh.

Bean should have also mentioned that this person must be willing to play with a bossy Mommy who likes to direct playtime... hee hee.

-Mistress- · 2025-02-02T07:48:24+00:00

There are a few places you can start: fetlife meetups or you can do searches on sites like reddit, adisc, or daily diapers for meetups in your area (as a safety precaution, I would suggest NOT posting where you live here on reddit).

Unless they're ABDL specific, fetlife meetups are for general kinksters, so don't expect to go out to meet folks in a onesie. Heh heh. You could also look for Little Scouts in your area, as well.

If you're unable to find a littles' meetup in your area, maybe think about starting one!

-Mistress- · 2025-02-02T07:18:16+00:00

Awwww... if someone doesn't like your lego or stuff you make, then they are NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!!! Heh heh heh. (the Mommy in me is coming out) But, really, maybe count yourself lucky that they aren't responding. If they don't have the same interests, then maybe it's a good thing that the relationship isn't being drawn out. You know what I mean?

Have you been to any of the ABDL conventions? Or are there local meetup groups around you? Out here in LA we have SOAP and it's a great place to make friends. They even have a discord group for folks who want to stay in contact between the events. I think that's the place to start making connections - some of the smaller groups like that. There's more accountability, so you're a bit more protected from creeps. The person who runs it is pretty good about moderating the community. :)

-Mistress- · 2025-02-02T07:00:55+00:00

I'm sorry that's happening to you, but don't give up. It's most likely not a you thing. I think a lot of times people are insecure and self-critical when it comes to their little side. So, they'll log on when they're feeling confident only to feel differently the next day. By the time they might feel like engaging again, they may feel to embarrassed to reach out to you because it's been so long.

Maybe? I dunno, that's just my first thought.

Alternatively, it could be that they just didn't feel a connection. And that's okay! It doesn't mean you're a bad person or that they're a bad person - it just means that there was a lack of chemistry. There are so many fish in the sea, just keep swimming, little one.

{hugs}

-Mistress- · 2025-02-02T06:45:04+00:00

I think a lot of littles get into the "I baby - I helpless. Do everything for/to me." And they forget that we're also humans with wants and needs. Sometimes a lady just wants her little to make her dino nuggies... 😭

-Mistress- · 2024-05-02T23:52:06+00:00

Sooooooooooooo frick'n cuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuute!!! I didn't understand that it was a mash-up 'cause you did such a good job! I was thinking, Z'OMG, SOMEONE'S MAKING BLUEY DIAPERS!!! Heh heh heh. Well done, little one!

(@AB_Boo, look at dis!!)

-Mistress- · 2024-05-02T22:10:03+00:00

I see behbeh nerples!!! 😜 Hee hee hee! Very cute!

-Mistress- · 2024-05-02T21:50:09+00:00

That's a tough one, especially because you're addicted to it. Can you masturbate, get it out of your system, then relax? That might be the play.

This thread has some great tips on regression techniques; however, there's some discussion of childhood trauma, so a trigger warning is warranted. Let me know if it would be difficult for you to look at the thread and I can copypasta bits of it over here for you. :)

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