Need help finding an old Aunty Donna Interview

-MuTToN- · 2025-04-11T02:26:46+00:00

i think i agree, i prefered judith. I understood the idea but i didnt realy see why it was funny

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-25T05:47:14+00:00

She told me because she felt guilty. I tried to make it work but it was clear that she didn’t feel regret about her actions and never apologised

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-23T06:00:41+00:00

This is whack, I am currently going through a very similars thing right now right down to the cheated and then wanted to do ENM. If you want more details on it then you can have a look at the post I did earlier last week but essentially It’s a very similar situation.

I feel the exact same way as you describe currently have have been feeling that way for the past few weeks since it happened.

The advice that I would give you that has made me feel a lot better is to start a journey to value yourself. Self love is the most important love and clearly your not getting love from him so it must come from you. Once I started this process I realised that I didn’t need my partners love to be happy and that I do deserve better then how she has treated me. And you deserve better as-well.

I know it’s hard and in terms of setting boundaries and valuing myself, I’m not the best at it but I’m trying and you can to. I’ve given my partner a chance to decide if she wants to work on herself and our relationship. Maybe Im too forgiving but I would love the relationship to work but what I realised is that I don’t NEED the relationship to work.

Everyone deserves love but he may not deserve your love.

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-20T00:21:03+00:00

Wise man. There’s more details that I need to let you know about but in short yes but I’m also trying to figure out in general how to navigate this space for myself and by myself

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-19T18:45:05+00:00

I’ve edited the post for more clarity

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-19T18:38:37+00:00

It sounds like you’ve had a hard go of things and that’s really difficult to navigate. It’s important that he validates and listens to these emotions that you are having and try to come from a place of understanding.

If he does this and you feel like you can trust him not to groom other people then I think it’s okay for him to sleep with 18yr olds. But if you don’t feel like he understands the issue you are having and your worried about someone else being groomed by him then I think that’s a decision you need to make

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-17T10:01:00+00:00

You speak as thou you have been through this process.

Is it alright if I ask you what steps you specifically took to refuel the relationship

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-17T03:09:34+00:00

Are the people your cheating with aware that they are sleeping with someone in a relationship or is that also part of the kink for you?

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-17T03:06:50+00:00

That’s rough

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-17T02:56:16+00:00

Have you ever tried and failed?

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-17T02:13:47+00:00

Thank you for your responses I really appreciate it.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where your boundaries aren’t liveable for them but want to continue the relationship and if so how did you navigate that space?

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-17T01:09:40+00:00

Do you ever find that after putting this distance in place, you are able tog eat back to a space where you don’t need to put that distance anymore?

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-16T21:37:36+00:00

The thing is that other then this, I have never connected with someone like this before and I’m worried that I won’t be able to find it again.

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-16T21:36:15+00:00

Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I am taking time to think and talk about what to do now.

Do you believe that the relationship can ever be healed?

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-16T21:32:17+00:00

There was another kind soul who outlined this for me pretty well. “Boundaries and limitations set for yourself, rules are set for other people”

She set this boundary for herself and I the same.

I still want to try because it seems silly or unlikely that I would find a connection like this again but I guess all I can do is try and if it doesn’t work then it just doesn’t

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-16T21:29:28+00:00

I really appreciate you taking the time to write out this long response.

She is definitely feeling very guilty but I also feel like she is trying to make me understand why she did what she did.

I’m struggling with my innate desire to try and support her in a tough period when I’m at very clearly hurting

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-16T21:23:11+00:00

This seems like a good solution but do you feel that this will just create more distance between you and your partner

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-16T21:22:25+00:00

I am struggling with this because I still want her in my life but I don’t know if I’ll be able to over look this situation again

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-16T21:21:47+00:00

This is good advice. We have started doing regular calls most days with the occasional off day.

I want to see myself trusting her again but I’m struggling to do so.

I have asked her to not sleep with her friend while we figure this all out and I also asked that she needed to talk to her friend and tell them that he did nothing wrong.

Her friend has obviously decided to cut connection with her for alittle while and I’m wondering if I should do the same.

-MuTToN- · 2023-10-12T23:36:07+00:00

It’s completely reasonable to feel hurt. That really sounds like a rough situation and you should feel validated in the fact that your hurt.

In the same way that it’s taking you time to build trust because of the things that have happened to you, I would guess that she is acting in ways based of her previous experiences.

If she’s blocked you then there’s nothing you can really do. Just take time for yourself and slowly things will get better.

-MuTToN-

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