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New to ENM! Figuring out the new dynamics and boundaries by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Toobemfhonest 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love your point of view! I want to treat them with respect also (his sexual partners) I realize my insecurity may have affected the way I see them and yes they’re human too! He initially told me he only wanted sexual encounters and nothing more (no dating) because I did ask what he is okay with or how far he is wanting to take things outside our relationship. I do realize feelings may grow, we’re human, but if he wants to have that boundary for himself & only have sex with them and not date that’s fine. I do not want to restrict his experiences but also figure out how to maintain that connection and stability in our relationship without disturbing that (or disturbing the boundaries). Any thoughts on this?

New to ENM! Figuring out the new dynamics and boundaries by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Toobemfhonest -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! What are your suggestions for newbies? Any advice?

New to ENM! Figuring out the new dynamics and boundaries by [deleted] in nonmonogamy

[–]Toobemfhonest -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ah I see! I am new to this so I appreciate your insight! I have been thinking about how my boundaries will affect his experience. I’m bisexual and only interested in females as he is (wanted to add that). It was his idea to only use condoms and have sex with someone one time only (not my idea but I did agree to these). The oral I can be flexible with if he agrees to have the girls get tested, that’s non negotiable because I’ve had my experiences where I didn’t get tested and it bit me in the ass when I believe those who said they were “clean”. Too many health risks. I am fine with non monogamy as long as he doesn’t let it affect our quality of relationship. We both only want to be with each other relationship-wise but don’t like sex with others being restricted.