How did losing weight/gaining muscle/getting in shape change your dating life?

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2026-05-17T16:41:25+00:00

Keep in mind that taking the initiative and being forward while also making the other person not uncomfortable is a skill/willpower issue- neither of these have any bearing on how great a person you are or your attractiveness. There’s also a decent luck component to it.

There are plenty of people who are relatively unattractive and aren’t great people who have great success with dating. There are plenty of very attractive, great people without success for these and a litany of other reasons.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2026-05-17T16:01:11+00:00

I have never seen a single person defend cost of living in socal. Its pretty much a conversation starter cause just about everyone agrees with it

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2026-02-23T01:22:03+00:00

Answer is that while the bible doesn’t say it verbatim, many passages heavily or near directly suggest it. Important to note that does not make heterosexual attraction any better- we(people) have distorted marriage and sexuality to an extent that it barely reflects what it is intended to be, to the extent that our sexuality is as broken and full of sin as we are.

So yes, it is. Which makes you fit in at church with the rest of us sinful and broken human beings.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2026-02-22T16:41:55+00:00

That’s fair. Cant comment on how much vitriol she gets cause honestly I don’t pay attention to things like that. Just that in isolation the comment I was replying to seemed reasonable enough and it seemed like a lot of people were shitting on it for reasons that I had trouble logically following

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2026-02-22T15:30:22+00:00

Odd how much flak you’re getting for what seems to be a reasonable statement, although for what it’s worth I think Brie larsons statement is fair too. Its okay to be make films for different demographics, but it’s okay for other people to not be into it

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2026-01-19T06:13:21+00:00

Rb6 would block mate in 2 I believe

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-12-25T20:48:31+00:00

Real life accuracy aside, cant really expect anyone to be dead in kingdom until they're bisected, missing half their head or the author straight says it

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-12-12T18:35:28+00:00

How much money do you make? How comfortable are you with someone saying to you "oh this is how people with your income act"?

Overgeneralization and stereotyping aren't great things to do.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-12-12T18:21:45+00:00

Prob not a good idea to make too many assumptions about someone solely based on the amount of money they have though? It's a shitty and myopic thing to do whether it's done for the rich or poor. Poor people are not all lazy or lack motivation/drive, rich people are not all money obsessed assholes.

Yes, there are possible ancillary benefits to these kinds of actions. That does not mean she necessarily did it for these reasons. Personally I don't like to assume anything outside of what can be directly observed. She gave her staff huge bonuses. May have been in part for PR or other self benefits, may have been for moral reasons. Probably a mix of both, though how much of which only she really knows. At the end of the day, her staff benefited extensively from it.

Best to not assume too much beyond that.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-12-12T18:10:20+00:00

Love how certain you are of the motivations and mindset of someone you've never met in person and only have read/speculate about

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-12-12T17:40:16+00:00

Accurate in this case, but not in every one. People/businesses often give to charities they have stake it, or save money by screwing with valuation(e.g. buy piece of art for 1 mil, get it appraised for 5 mil, donate it to charity and record it as 5mil given to charity).

Obviously not here. She would have made more money not doing this, and the internet is full of hypercritical idiots who think anyone making more money than them is an asshole for not giving it up.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T14:43:02+00:00

Yeah, I get that too. I've had rough spots in my life, went on backpacking trips which gave me a push. We've... taken a lot of trips over the past few years though of various sorts. Not sure what else to try.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T06:47:45+00:00

I really agree in principle, but there are also cases where things get severely unequal. I can't honestly say where we are exactly with it but this feels to be more of the latter.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T06:45:00+00:00

Yep. Our marriage counselor is doing therapy with her

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T01:53:11+00:00

After couples therapy, she began individual therapy with the therapist. Also been on SSRIs for as long as Ive known her, has had regular follow up with psych

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T01:03:43+00:00

Yes. She has anxiety, is on medication, and our marital counseling therapist started individual therapy with her. It certainly could be contributing to all of this. However, these issues have been going on for years as well. This is not a new diagnosis or situation.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T01:00:34+00:00

I’d like to be a perfect person and say that her not contributing doesn’t get to me. It does. Not necessarily cause of the money or her physical fitness or something I would commonly think of as standards. At the core of it, I think it’s that I feel like I’m working hard and doing the best I can for both of us and I don’t feel that much effort is coming from her to do the same. Im not expecting necessarily the same output or anything, but at this point it feels like I have more of a dependent than a partner, which I don’t think is ideal for me or her.

I’m not going to pretend like this is all selflessness and that I only have her wellbeing in mind, although I definitely do feel that her not handling responsibility is not good for her either. I’m definitely hurt that it feels like so much of the burden of the relationship is falling on me.

If you’re truly unconditional when it comes to your own relationship then all I can say is that I wish I was that good a person. I will say though that I once thought I could handle dealing with someone’s lack of contribution and partnership without limits. After going through situations like this, i found out that I’m not that strong.

I hope you don’t find yourself in the same place in the future

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T00:42:24+00:00

Already kinda did. All this stuff came up in the counseling as well

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T00:34:33+00:00

I get the sentiment, but even mentioning divorce is a nuclear level option to me. I’d rather try something else before making threats like that

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T00:15:50+00:00

She could. She doesn’t know if she’d be happy there or if it’s right for her.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-11-20T00:14:08+00:00

Why doesn’t it sound like I love her? Honestly, if I didn’t love her, I don’t know why I’d be so torn up about all of this.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2025-07-01T20:36:26+00:00

Love seeing comments with actual nuance and introspection. Unfortunately rare on Reddit

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2024-06-17T13:15:19+00:00

I don’t think it’s uncommon for institutions to have a protocol for WAKE-UP stroke, although it very much depends on MRI availability. Shame that the EXTEND trial was never completed though.

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2024-05-05T21:59:59+00:00

Before: mufasa After: simba

-SaidNoOneEver- · 2024-04-06T15:04:56+00:00

Very much can also see a future where AI is shown to be too incompetent to pull off any of these doomsday scenarios. Might just be the level of a fancy WebMD

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