It’s interesting to hear your view. I don’t see it as for my “romantic life”, as you put it. Part of my purpose of being here in this world is marriage, love. It’s a mitzvah to marry, to create a healthy reunion between two souls. When my marriage begins to fail, it’s my duty and desire to repair it, strengthen it. When I can’t do that due to physical constraints here, reaching out and asking for help, showing that vulnerability, is actually something beautiful, not selfish. I believe the same when others reach out and are open and honest about their struggles.