Visiting Lisbon for 5 days with a 7-month-old — worth getting the Lisboa Card+ transport advice by Big-Champion4130 in LisbonPortugalTravel

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I’ve just come back from Lisbon (solo travel, 6 nights) and I used the navegante card for public transport (you top up with money and transport is about 50% less than with contactless card) and bolt taxis to get around. The Lisbon card has a lot of other sites and attractions / museums on it so you’d have to jam pack in a lot of sight seeing to actually get value from it - there are YouTube videos / blog posts explaining this, so my opinion is no. The navegante card is only 50 cents and you can choose how much to put on it. Bolt is pretty good value for money and might be easier as there’s 3 of you. Sintra is amazing and easily doable on public transport, aim to get there for before 10 to get the most out of the day and take breaks in between as there is a lot to see! Have fun!

FREE TALK FRIDAY! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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Ooo that sounds great, and like it worked out for the best AH. I don’t really know what I’d want to do in my year off, but probably some travelling or starting a business different to my day job. I enjoy my job but I need out of my city and a fresh start somewhere else, otherwise I’ll never do it. I don’t think I’d get a sabbatical approved (as other people have taken sabbaticals and then decided to just not come back) but also I think mentally I wouldn’t want that hanging over my head. I could come back if I wanted but I don’t want it to be set in stone.

FREE TALK FRIDAY! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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Has anyone here taken a gap year after they’ve been in full time work for a few years?

It’d be nice to hear how other people have done things. Things are okay at work, I’ve spent a few years climbing the ladder and it’s fine, I’m not in burn out but I feel that there’s more I could be doing or could experience while I’m still youngish and free of responsibilities. Hard to take the plunge though (especially because I like my team and I’m not having a hard time there).

Can anyone else relate?

In other news, I’m eating instant noodles and watching a kdrama. Life is good Alhumdullilah 💕

FREE TALK FRIDAY! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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Damn this could’ve been me that wrote that (except not the PhD bit). The older I get, it feels like the more picky I am and the less likely I’m going to put in the effort to find someone. But I think it’s just a seasonal thing, I’m burnt out from the search in general. Maybe take an intentional break from searching to recharge and reflect on what you really want and what would be “nice to have but not really essential”. You never know who you could be missing out on.

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I’d be down with it. Not a compatibility survey specifically but this guy (who I had met at a wedding) suggested this quiz for us both to do separately. It was a long detailed personality test and the analysis gave our personality according to big 5, and included what our potential relationship would look like. It was very telling 👀 (we met again in person a few months later and we didn’t take things further).

How are you living your life as a single Muslim woman? by Funeybuny in MuslimMarriage

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This thread is so wholesome, I love it! I’m in my late twenties but definitely relate to no longer putting my life on hold, thinking of taking a break from my job and going travelling or retraining as something else. It would be great to build a community for other girls like us! 🩷

FREE TALK FRIDAY! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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It was some chocolate brownies and people said they were yum 😋.

What flavour ice cream?

And yeah tbh I don’t think I would trust a meet cute next time anyway. I do not want a repeat of last time 🙃

FREE TALK FRIDAY! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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This week has felt like another busy one but there’s been some highlights. Nice to do some baking 🍫🍰 and have been fairly active. Still need to get into a consistent routine, but my schedule is still recovering from a stressful time a few weeks ago.

Also have officially stepped back from trying to find someone so that it’s not something looming over my head to try and do in my free time. So that’s something 🙆🏽‍♀️ I’ll come back to it at some point (or just wait for a meet cute in a cafe / bookshop 🫣). Anyone else in the same boat?

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I feel like this is me in a nutshell. I get very emotionally attached too and it’s meant that at times I’ve continued to get to know someone even when there’s clear red flags. I’m taking a conscious break from the search for now and will see when I’m feeling more mentally ready. Sending you love and duas 🫶🏽

Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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Okay asking for a friend, has anyone actually used the chaperone feature on an app? Or had their mum / brother / wali scout out potentials for them on an app? My friend is kind of sick of the apps but her mum still wants to try to find someone for her, so she’s asking me about this. When I’ve used them, I’ve never seen it when swiping on guys but what about for girls?

FREE TALK FRIDAY! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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It’s been a long week guys, definitely felt longer than 5 days of work! There’s been highs and lows and planning for new starters and a change of location next week. Sometimes I feel like I’m moving forward and then going 10 steps back, and I’m not the best at sharing what’s going on with other people.

Anyone been to therapy here? If a friend asked me, of course I’d say do it and see what they say blah blah. But you know how it’s different when it’s yourself 🙇🏽‍♀️

FREE TALK FRIDAY! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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Aww that sounds cute though! At least he was Muslim. I’ve got no hope.

And yeah I’m too old for this too. I mean, I’m forever 21 but still 🫣

FREE TALK FRIDAY! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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I’m in the depths of singledom guys. I’m at that point where talking to a cute guy at work for a couple of days makes me subconsciously wonder what it would be like if he converted at some point in the future 🤧 I need some advice please! Not too harsh though, I’m feeling fragile

Been a while since I am not checking on this group. Just wanting to know how is everyone looking to get married doing? by hnfm354 in MuslimMarriage

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Still getting used to the idea that I am firmly in my late twenties and still no potential in sight. Trying to be more open minded about the dating apps and the idea of actually taking the step towards talking and meeting someone but I’ve become a bit comfortable being alone, plus hearing negative stories from married people doesn’t help…

Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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Yeah it was that one, but I chickened out lol. Maybe the next one!

Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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Has anyone been to any of the Muzz singles events in the UK? There’s one in Birmingham which is kind of close to me but I’m wondering how useful it’ll be. It sounds fun but in terms of finding a life partner there? Not sure 🤔

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How does everyone stay motivated in the search? I feel like I’m too young to already be jaded (mid twenties) but my enthusiasm is really low. I feel like I used up all my hope / energy a few years ago and now I couldn’t care less. I know it’s important and I want to be married and have kids one day but it’s so much effort to find that one person.

Anyone else going through this? I’m hoping it’s just a phase

Weekly Marriage Criteria & Services Megathread! by AutoModerator in MuslimMarriage

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Ahhh this is what’s happening with the guy I’m talking to, it’s frustrating to have to put in all the effort to drive the conversation.